Is it true that boys like it when you make the first move as a girl?

[Lisia]

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2 mo

And second question : If she was not that attractive in your eyes would you still say yes to a date just because she tried?

[Anonymous]

Yes to the question.

To the update, it really depends. My inclination is to say no. And that's only because I've said yes before hoping that I'd develop some attraction to her. Why say yes if the answer at some point is no? It's like you're leading her on.

So maybe we should ask you. If you asked a guy out. Would you want him saying "yes" even if he wasn't attracted to you?

[Lisia]

No I wouldn't want him to, but I'd want him to reject me gently

[Opinion Owner]

Just try to remember if a guy rejects you, he's not really rejecting YOU. He's rejecting his PERCEPTION of you. And he could be way off. We as people really give strangers opinions of us far more weight than we should. You're friends and family know you better they're really actually more qualified to determine your true worth. And we as people foolishly tend to give their words the least amount of weight

[Summeroflove]

It definitely makes things easier. I guess it depends on if the guys single and if it’s a girl he’s interested in to be honest.



Now, nobody should wait for someone to make the first move. If you like someone…. Talk to them or it’s on you when you loose your chance. That goes for both sexes. Stop playing games

[Lisia]

100% agree!

[Summeroflove]

As far as the second question goes. That just depends. Most people I spend time with are people I already know.

If I know im not into someone. I will do my best to turn someone down gently. Otherwise, a simple date for coffee might not hurt and if things don’t go well. We don’t have to go out again

[Archferret]

Agreed 👍

[caring__1]

Guys tend to like it, as long as the approach is subtle and she's not coming on too strong. It's better to be too subtle than too strong, as you can always increase the effort when it is subtle, but you can't reduce something that has already turned the guy off.

Girls often expect guys to read their mind. Guys are not mind readers. If you want him to know you're interested, find a way to show interest. Sometimes that actually helps guys to notice what they previously were unaware of.

View this from his perspective, not yours. Rather than give him what you'd like to receive, discover what he'd appreciate and then do that. Girls are more likely than guys to appreciate compliments on how they look. Guys prefer being noticed for things they say and do.

[caring__1]

If you're not physically attractive, discover something about you that would be seen as attractive to the guy. It could be shared interests or a specific talent, or qualities about you that impress the guy. Understand that everyone has his/her preferences, so don't take it personally if they prefer something different from what you present. After all, you have chosen him based on your preferences.

[AviatorTom]

I love it when she makes the first move, and the second, third...

[Finchie40]

I would say yes, mainly because most girls’ know what they want when it comes to guy’s , so if she makes the first move , her chances of getting me to fall for her increases , usually the relationships I had with girls’ that made the first move lasted longer than girls’ I made the first move on , so I like it when a girl makes the first move , whether I am attracted to her or not , I am still polite and treat her with respect , I tend to put myself in someone else’s shoes when it comes to someone taking a chance at me. No reason to be rude , people that are rude right from the start our assholes in my opinion , The only time someone should be an asshole is if the other person is t take No as an answer , but other than that , no reason to be rude , We all eat and shit pretty much the same

[Bricealan]

Of course we do!! That is the MOST FLATTERING thing possible that a girl can do, and any guy would be out of his mind to not be crazy when a woman shows her interest like that!

While at a new job in Newport Beach, when I first moved here, a girl in my new office, after Happy Hour, out in the parking lot, when dark, she put her hand down in my pants!! NOW THAT is making the first move!!! I did not run with it, because, I did not like her, I did so because I was making a 'new start, on a new job, in a new state" and left the crazy way of living I had in Ohio.

But yes, that is the most sincere, flattering thing a woman can do! yes, yes, yes!!!

[FunkyMonkee]

First off, girls are never straightforward in the ways of romance! We NEVER know if their flirting is for real or just a tease! So, if she comes on, first, at least we know we've got a good chance with her
Secondly, probably not. When I was in high school, this girl, Janice, used to chase me through the halls! By this point, I'm 6' 1" and she's a very chubby 4'-something!! She had scraggly red hair, was very chubby and short (as I've said), not at all pretty and had a voice that could peel paint!! I had no problem being friends with her but had NO intention of having her for a girlfriend!! One day, I was going from one class to the next and she saw me in the hall about 30 feet away and came running after me and, before I knew it, her arms were wrapped around my thighs (the top of her head only came up to my stomach!) and refused to let me go as she professed her great love for me!! I already had my heart set on someone else!

[CindyRuns]

It's definitely worked well for me.

A little over 10 years ago, I made the first move on a guy... and we'll be celebrating our 10th anniversary next year.

[Lisia]

Aww so cute! Congratulations 😊

[Anonymous]

First question: it’s nice to know up front when a woman likes me and knows she wants me.. I don’t think it’s emasculating or anything. I actually respect that. You are mature enough to not play games and wait around for me to maybe notice you.. because to be honest, I really don’t give chasing the females the time of day. My day to day activities and making money are more important than any pussy on this planet. Not to say I don’t get pussy, I just don’t waste a lot of time chasing it.


Second question: BIG FAT NOPE! I’ve turned down 4 women in my life time.. one was way to big for me (I let her know, didn’t end well), one had bad break, no matter what time of day (also let her know, also didn’t go well). Last two wanted fancy dinners and were very bad at conversation. Didn’t waste my time.

[Anonymous]

I think more guys nowadays do than they did before, but I don't. I like to be the one to lead and I find it to be a bit if a turn off when a girl makes the first move. A lot of people wouldn't like me saying this and that's fine, we can disagree and be civil, but I see making the first move like that as a bit of a masculine trait. If a girl does want to be somewhere proactive in the matter, I think it'd be more attractive if she simply tried to make herself more noticeable. Like, via eye contact, positioning, etc.

That being said, I wouldn't say it's a deal breaker. But if a girl does do that, either she is my type and there are external forces influencing her to do things beyond what she'd naturally do (which I think there is a lot of these days), or she's not likely to be quite my type.

[Anonymous]

It depends honestly on how i wasn't attracted to them. As it could be that I was just interested in them as a friend. I'd still be willing to go out with them but I'd be clear as just friends if that makes sense. But I wouldn't necessarily go out with someone just cause they made the first move.

Though I would be super happy if they did as well it's really hard for me having bad social anxiety.

[Lisia]

I get that I can't approach people irl not even to become friends due to my social anxiety

[Opinion Owner]

It's really hard to manage that and I'm honestly in the same boat. I don't have many friends because of it and it even causes issues at work for me. As it's most forms of communication that make me anxious.

[Lisia]

I have the same thing. I go to uni and it's really important to be social and go to parties but I can't and I also don't want to because people drain my energy with their bad morals

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I'm an introvert as well. Only one person never drained my energy at one time. She was my closest friend and now I don't know.

I never really go to parties. I went to a nightclub once though and two women came up to ask if I was okay. I probably looked super uncomfortable and probably a bit ill tbh. It was super sweet of them though.

[Lisia]

That's true! Some people are really nice. My boyfriend, mom and sis are people that don't drain me in my case

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah they can be. Your so lucky to have them. I only for a time had that one friend but sadly that seems to have gone honestly. Hopefully I can find someone like that again.

[Lisia]

Aww it'll be hard but maybe one day

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah that's what I tell myself. It's been very lovely to talk to someone who gets it. Thank you for that.

[Lisia]

Aww no thank you! It's nice to know I'm not alone 😊

[Dareu2bb]

Yes and no, sometimes I do it depends on how I'm feeling at the time, sometimes I prefer to make the moves and if it's flowing and going well i like it making the moves first even more.

My answer to the second question is again it would depend on how I felt at the time and if there she had any other qualities that I found attractive.

[Lionman95]

I would say yes in a way that guys like when a woman shows her intentions early because it can give a guy self confidence and calm him to know there are mutual feelings and she likes him, too. Especially in modern days where guys learn early to nothing non-consensual with her it could relieve a guy knowing her intentions.

[OfMiceandMen]

It would certainly take the guess work out of whether she's interested or not. As per part 2 of your question, I may consider going out with someone I am less attracted to appearance-wise just to see if there is a connection.

[AydenHazor]

I absolutely appreciate it when a girl makes the first move. If I'm not interested in her romantically, I let her know as gently and kindly as possible. I have had to do this before and will count the girl as a friend

[exitseven]

I was really shy with girls when I was younger. I would never have the nerve to ask out a girl. Even if I knew she was into me I could not make a move. Maybe i might have appreciated a little push.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I turned down the last three dates because I wasn't attracted to her and I'm not dating this year, but I give them all props for asking. If they'd asked next year I'd have said yes.

[smilelots]

Like everything in life, Lisa Some boys like that some boys don’t some men like that some men don’t, and some women like to do that and some women don’t in the end be yourself be true to yourself and the guy you’re with will love you for it

[Lliam]

I always liked it. I made the first move many times, but I've wound up with girlfriends who made the first move, too.

[Pegases]

For the initial interaction, no. But after the fact, we do like it when women make the first move when ti comes to sex.

[Archferret]

Mostly Yes (unless too needy or desperate)

1. It depends on the individual

2. It depends on the level of attraction

[ProbablyClueless]

Yes, that is extremely attractive. It would definitely make a woman more appealing in my eyes.