What do you consider too personal to ask on a first date?

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Kris31 · Accepted Answer

I don't think there's one I wouldn't answer but these are probably the ones I'd ask you if you are sure you want to know that:

Something about my past relationship
( Generally even if a girl tells me she is fine with listening to this. No she's not sure will be pissed either way)

My income
( I'll tell you at some point but on the first date? Well sure but still Sus question)

Body count
( I mean it's not really high it's not even 2 digits for me so I'm fine with that but like I'm not a toy that gets used up. I probably wouldn't be interested in your body count as well )

black_king · Accepted Answer

Honestly anything sexual depending on the vibe

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Anything sexual. How much money do you make?

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Anything of a sexual nature…

anything financial…

anything about past relationships…

anything you wouldn’t feel comfortable talking to a stranger about, cuz unless you’ve previously known them, met them, I don’t care how many times you’ve talked/messaged before the date, they’re still basically a stranger

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Anything sexual or personal history type stuff. People have some nerve to ask those questions, and no woman deserves to be with men like that.

Avicenna · Answer

Why their marriage or long-term relationship ended

jetbass · Answer

This is an interesting question, and while answers are likely to vary considerably from person to person, I'd say;
-Sex-related questions
-Specifics about philosophical views
-Dating History
-Finance
In saying that, I believe it's entirely up to the context of the first date. Where is the conversation flowing to, what values and characteristics has the other person shared, and what is the physical context of the date. Any of the above may be fine so as long as the other person is comfortable and not pushed into dialogue about those areas.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Nothing, but I do consider having a first date with a woman I've not known for years to be absurd, which honestly makes dating itself pointless, because what are you gonna ask a person when you already know everything about them just from being best friends?

In my opinion, "dating" as a way of matching should be abandoned entirely.

Instead, people should make friends, and pick one to go straight from best friends to engaged, then married, then have sex. You know, like its done in 1990s sitcom tv shows. It's just the objectively superior way to get relationships if the goal is to make it last.

Dating a stranger is just asking for the relationship to fail, the odds of success with that method is lower than surviving an F5 tornado while driving into it.

chrissykerdock · Answer

do you give head? because that's like a trap... if you say no and then if you give him one 2 dates later and it seems like you obviously gave head before then your caught in a lie... so you say yes then 5 minutes later he takes out his cock for you to suck.

Anonymous · Answer

Anything financial too far for me on a first date. I don’t really care how much my partner makes, and my partner also shouldn’t care what I make. As long as we’re both able to support ourselves, that’s what matters.

I don’t like being asked about my ethnicity. I’m not going to mention what I am, but I’ll admit that I’m ethnically ambiguous. A lot of dudes will randomly hit on me because of it, and sometimes I feel sexualized or fetishized. My ethnicity shouldn’t matter, you should like me for me.

DWornock · Answer

My first thought is, "What's your body count and do you have any tattoos under your clothes?" That is true if it is a cheap date and they are just having coffee. However, since he is paying, if it is an expensive date and he is going to spend three hundred dollars, taking her to an fancy restaurant and, after dinner, it he takes her dancing where he spends another two hundred dollars and buying $25 drinks, he is paying for the right to ask questions.

After all, why should he be obligated to spend more money and time courting some slut that has already f**ked a half dozen people, let alone if she is also trailer trash that has tattoos hidden under clothes? So what if he embarrassed her? Sluts and trailer trash don't have the right not to be embarrassed. They lost that right when they became sluts and trailer trash.

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

For men or for women?
You can ask anything just don't be direct like don't ask how much you make.. instead you can ask about their job, which field, so on try to get details through out date but don't ask back to back u should hide ur intentions (focus on what's places he traveled, go or cafe n restaurant he visits, calibre of life he is living, check house, car, clothes and judge base on that) u have to be sneaky if u want information

It's depends on question and you're creative to ask 😂😉
I think u can ask about anything as all as it's not direct
If u don't have good communication skills n ur too direct then avoid personal topics just talk about general topics only than

Harness · Answer

It depends on the date... at times it's better to not address hot topics, other times it's really what you want to go for... look at your date then swing it, usually this way you be freer... and they'd naturally sense you as sincere and confident... which is really where you want to be no matter where the the relationship's headed.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

It depends on a variety of factors but personally, I’d ask nothing serious or too personal on a first data. It’s just a first date. Get a feel for their personality, see if there’s is any chemistry there, maybe discuss some life goals and what you’re looking for in life or a relationship. No heavy lifting - just some fun.

Kaneki05 · Answer

No question is ever too personal. That's an absurd idea to me, just because one asked don't mean the other has to answer. Therefore if someone asked me something, and I didn't want to answer I just wouldn't but I would not get upset over them just asking a question.
Then more personally I am open book so I doubt there would be a situation that I wouldn't answer. Maybe there is some question but I can't think of it.

Pyrofox · Answer

Anything sexual, anything financial, sibling stuff.

Keep it to interests, hobbies, and like what you aspire to be in the future. Are you interested in having a family of your own. What does that look like to you? Its like there are topics that one can ask without ya know coming off as insensitive. But can pick someone's mind without being too abrasive.

molonski2 · Answer

1 . I have heard that your vigina is very sloppy is this the case?

2 Why did your last relationship end? I know him he's a great guy.

3 . I would think in a roll like yours you'd be on 150 k? How do you invest your money.

4 . That car you have out there looks rather nice , do you actually own it? Or is it on HP?

Those for a start.

Honest-Matt · Answer

It's changed a lot since I'm in my 30s and looking for a long term partner. So I ask about career, not specifics but just career, goals, family life, gauging how we match up in life direction. Exes and dollar figures are a red flag, unless we start talking about aspirations and vocations that are economic. I love talking realestate for example.

TheorionMage · Answer

A first date is at base level, a mutual 'interview'... it can be edgey and intense or just polite and fluffy. The tone it takes infers what your companion is TRULY seeking; be it a friends with benefits hook-up or the lead-in to a possible life-changing commitment. Vulnerability.

Its at the 'core' of the popularity of dating apps... to 'short-cut' that awkwardness of misread social purposes. "Too personal"? or perhaps too gratuitous & superficial?

Anemone978 · Answer

Nothing is off limits.. I really don't mind lol
If I had to think of a stupid question I been asked..
Have you been molested? Some guy asked me that in high school because I was quiet and shy LOL It's like wtf?

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Some people will have off limit subjects, personally I'd discuss anything. But then if I were single I wouldn't have much free time between work and my 2 kids, so why waste any on something that's not going to last. I'd want someone prepared to be open and talk about anything, not someone would keeps things in

Massageman · Answer

Anything about past "relationships" (unless they bring it up).

Anything "intrafamily" (even if they DO bring it up).

Anything financial.

Anything sexual.

Just talk about music, food, favorite exercises, favorite sports, favorite movies, what they do in their spare time/hobbies, etc.

Shark_61695 · Answer

I'd probably answer pretty much anything. Whether it is appropriate or not is another matter entirely.

If I'm not happy to answer it then I'd either talk in generalities, deflect or just refuse to answer. For example things like earnings or birthday would be answered generally.

I'd also turn it back on them so anything they ask, they should be prepared to answer in turn and anything I answer that they refuse to would be a major red flag.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Sex questions. Bodycount sure, I know some guys care about that. But the what are you into and stuff, no.

Bigmell · Answer

I always say you can ask me anything, nothing is too personal for me. I do understand most females would not think the same way as I do, out of respect for her there are some questions I would not ask until we know each other better or until she just tells me. Deep questions about personal health, religion, politics, family issues you do not ask about on the first day keep the conversation surface level. Simple personal questions it's cool but nothing real too deep.

Monalisa77 · Answer

If you've had the covid jab (no seriously) Why haven't you had a boyfriend before Why have you no job How come ur speech is poor (it is but i dont want a date asking me that)  Ill think of more later

beards1990 · Answer

Well here's my opinion on this : what I would consider to personal to ask on a date with a female is - how much do weigh , would you like to go to bed with me & would you prefer I bring another girl with us on a date. Well to me , that's what I consider too personal to ask a female on a first date

Bricealan · Answer

Have you ever killed anybody? How many guys have gotten in your pants? Do you give good head? How 'bout a hand- job before I take you home? How often do you rub one out?  Just a few thoughts?

GoodManDave · Answer

Anything bad. A general guide is you don't bring up politics, religion, exes or something else VERY personal or sad - How much do you weigh, what's your income, etc.

Justmeagain1 · Answer

“What do you bring to the table?” … clearly some sort of value (what ever that is as you wouldn’t be wasting your time talking if you didn't) . Asking also about your biggest regret.

titangarg44 · Answer

On general level, any questions like how much do you earn, asking about past relationships or asking about penis size / are you a virgin like questions are too personal on a first date.

For me, it would be asking about my past relationships and my life before meeting her. I would like her to tell me more about her not me.

Madkeyra00 · Answer

Talking about income, in some cases sexual conversations both may leave a negative impression on a man or woman.

KC-Sunbeam · Answer

Anything sexual. But I'd also add anything religious or political. Although those things are super important, you should know the answer to them beforehand & have agreement on them before even a first date.

thegreenyogi · Answer

What kind of sex do you like or how much do you earn would be too personal for me.

tfan1 · Answer

Guy ask girl - are you a virgin? How many guys have you been with?

Girl ask guy - are you a virgin? How many girls have you slept with? Are you bi or gay? How big is your penis? How long is your penis?

johnnydeeeep · Answer

Given appropriate context leads, there isn't anything that is beyond being spoken of or discussed on the first date.

JustMeQ2 · Answer

Anything you deem important, if you don’t want to waste time.  What you may deem important is a different question.

Simslover92 · Answer

Credit score Credit history Asking how much they make Asking about Sex life  Asking about sex in general

lorenzomichael · Answer

Do you have any arrest warrants I should know about? Just in case I get pulled over for a tail light that might not be working, and once I pull over you get out on my car and start running. I want to tell the fucking asshole something.

Mark987 · Answer

It depends if she is shy or more social. I find anything sexual off limits. You want to get to know the person, stick to what she looks for in he/her significant other.. what she likes or dislikes etc.

Arik_jade · Answer

Her likes and dislikes about sex.  Her opinion on my body type.  What are her expectations on my body. Her opinion on my penis. Her choice for personal clothes, undergarments, body grooming etc.

Likes2drive · Answer

Nothings too personal to me if they ask me but anything sexual with a woman is usually personal , like what type of sex is she willing to do is something you wouldn’t ask on a first date or for awhile

Juxtapose · Answer

Anything pertaining to finances whatsoever. Women are really asking guys for their banking information..

virtualwasp · Answer

money, religion, politics. if they offer anything up from these topics, its a red flag.

Goofy9009 · Answer

How many partners he/she has had , sex , asking for sexting ( for nudes and or underwear pics ), do you want to get married/talking about marriage

Masterodd · Answer

Asking to borrow money to pay your cell phone bill so you can text and call such an interesting person who's so generous and giving.

If my cell phone gets turned off, How will I EVER be able to get in touch with you? :)

Robzei · Answer

Probably sexual stuff, past relationships and politics

luvstoned4him · Answer

How many men I've slept with  How much money I make  If I want to have sex

OfMiceandMen · Answer

If she asks to squeeze my buns to see if they're fresh - a little overboard.

MsTaniaUncensored · Answer

Past partner questions How much money I make

Nightblade23 · Answer

Asking to move in together, asking to have sex, or asking to have a threesome on your first date that's what I consider to be to personal

glennos89 · Answer

Woman often ask a lot about my job or money related stuff. Instant turn-off for me and red flags left right and center for me

strateguy632 · Answer

i thought but knew not to ask"how many times per month intimacy with past lovers"

BadApple69 · Answer

Do you do anal in a car in a restaurant parking lot?

SquishyBuns2628 · Answer

How's your relationship with your parent (s) / guardian (s).

LiamJHayden · Answer

1. What is your net worth and/or income? Not answering that unless we get engaged. 2. How many partners have you had? 3. Will you marry me?

Nifrayu · Answer

I'm comfortable being asked anything. I might reserve the right to not answer, but she can ask.

Robertjo16 · Answer

My favorite food. That's something that not manu people get to know

worldscolide · Answer

Anything related to income.. That's none of her businesses unless we are exclusive and in a committed relationship.

Baredog69 · Answer

Leave past relationship questions for a later time. First dates are not the time to have someone thinking about an Ex.

pootytang23 · Answer

I can't think of a specific question, but i feel like if its too personal you’ll know as soon as you say it lol

shades777 · Answer

there's a zillion questions that are too personal in general no matter the amount of dates, doesn't take a rocket engineer to know what's inappropriate.

dreamstar72 · Answer

What was your last guy like? Do you have any favorite sexual fantasies?

sheikalana · Answer

Any questions related to income or medical history.

Anonymous · Answer

I was once asked the size of my penis, she wanted to know the measurement of it's hard length !!

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