Who do you choose when you love two guys at the same time?

[twinson]

Some of you may think that this is not possible but it does... I had a ex who broke up with me about a year ago and now he turned back, but I have been flirting with another guy for a while. I don't want you to judge me. Just help me, what to do?

[barbie]

Loving two people simultaneously is a challenging and emotionally complex situation. It's important to approach it with honesty, self-reflection, and empathy for all involved.

Start by understanding your feelings and motivations. Ask yourself if you genuinely love both individuals or if your feelings for one are more profound. Consider what attracts you to each person and what you envision in a long-term relationship.

Honest communication is crucial. Talk to both guys about your feelings, being as open and transparent as possible. Share your internal conflict and explain that you're grappling with a difficult decision.

Consider the compatibility and long-term potential with each person. Think about your shared values, life goals, and how well you connect on an emotional, intellectual, and practical level.

Reach out to trusted friends or a therapist for guidance. They can provide valuable perspectives and help you navigate your emotions.

Making a choice between two people isn't something that should be rushed. Give yourself the time and space to explore your emotions and gain clarity.

Ultimately, follow your heart. Listen to your instincts and choose the person with whom you believe you can build a healthy and fulfilling future.

Remember that there's no one-size-fits-all answer to this dilemma, and your decision should align with your values and what feels right for you. It's also essential to be prepared for the possibility that not everyone involved may understand or accept your decision, but prioritizing your own well-being and happiness is crucial in the end.

[BlackBeauty90]

You're not in love with either of them let's make that straight. You simply like their attention and that's all it is to it.

You see when somebody is actually in love was another person they don't play games and they don't seek the attention of other people.

You probably won't know what love is if it smacked you

[HippoDino]

Thats easy... get with the guy who you weren't previously with that dumped you. There's no reason to get back with someone who dumped you, he dumped you for a reason, and there's certainly no reason to get back with him if you found another guy you like iust as much? It also sounds like you dont really know what love is, i don't believe you love either of these people you just enjoy the attention they give you.

[blueonblack22]

Funny you never see men asking these kinds if questions. It’s always women who want love triangles.

There is always one guy you will like better and #2 will be in a very painful position. You can’t have the best of both worlds.

Do the right thing and do it soon. Tell #2 it’s not going to work out. Do not use him as a back up plan.

[Billlewis]

Why should you have to choose between one or the other? Many women have two guys in their lives, but only one of them is allowed to have intercourse with her. The other guy spoils her, pays for her dates and sometimes provides 'after date cleanup service' for her.

[Billlewis]

Anytime I'm dating/serving a woman, and I learn that she's dating another guy, as well, her desirability and value increase tenfold, because that takes the pressure off of me, in terms of being her only sexual outlet. With another, more masculine guy who's likely to provide her with enjoyable intercourse, my role within the hierarchy of her personal life is defined with much greater clarity.

[laurieluvsit]

That's an easy one.

Get in a knock down drag out fight with each one so you can find out who they really are, then the choice will be easy... no, I'm not kidding

[caitycat21]

Lmao definitely don’t go for the ex, why did he break up with you? And why is he all of a sudden crawling back to you.

[caitycat21]

He’s for the streets 🤷🏽‍♀️

[eternal_heck]

Don’t go back to the ex. Exes are exes for a reason.

[aceleon]

choose the 2nd if you loved the 1st there would be no 2nd also you don't love them period.

[electromagnetic]

You got dumped once, what’s to prevent him from doing it again.

[pethouse]

I don't know but whatever you do don’t choose one and use the other as a backup. It would be a real shitty thing to do.

[jahaims]

You don't love either. You have lust and infatuation. You can't be in love with two people at the same time.

[RedInnocent68]

Hmmm, the classic biggest dick versus biggest wallet dilemma…

[jeffend888]

How are you 42 years old and have these issues?

[Anonymous]

Depends, why did your ex break up with you? And how long have you known both of them?

[Rose000]

Depends on the reason u broke up previously. U know the person with whom u broke up with. so just decide if u want all that again. Maybe test him out someway if u are not sure.

[Roit83857]

The guy with more ambition and money and will provide.

[Billlewis]

Perfect;)

[Anonymous]

No matter which one you choose, choose one or the other before it gets to be a mess.

[Anonymous]

You need a brain transplant at that point. One guy is enough work.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Go with the advice of Johnny Depp

[Nifrayu]

If they are okay with it, then choose both.

[Kingofkings1992]

Cringe

[Nifrayu]

@Kingofkings1992 cringe?

[Kingofkings1992]

Yes cringe

[Nifrayu]

@Kingofkings1992 what do you mean?

[jimmy2]

Toxic
Let it make sense

[serious_miss419]

Choose neither.

[Kingofkings1992]

Cringe