I’m in love with two guys, how do I figure out who’s right for me?

[Anonymous]

So yeah, I know it sounds bad, but it’s the truth. One is someone I’ve shared a deep past with we’ve been through so much and there’s still something there. The other is my current partner, someone who’s been supportive and kind, but we’re now facing a long-distance situation that’s putting a lot of pressure on us. I love them both in different ways, and I’m torn between what feels familiar and what feels safe. How do I make the right decision without hurting anyone?

[Zack-Bann]

You can’t
Whichever one you chose will hurt the other


In terms of “fairness” your ex shouldn’t get priority over your current partner
That’s called cheating


But then again “all’s fair in love and war”
If you can’t picture life without the ex and he feels the same then maybe it’s meant to be


Just be willing to accept that the price to pay is breaking the heart of a guy who’s only guilty of caring about you and yes that makes you a shitty person. Still a valid option


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Story example:
My ex broke up with me because she couldn’t get over her then ex (ironically she didn’t go back to him despite that)
And I harbor no ill feelings towards her
But he chose valentine’s day to go visit her mom and “give back some of her stuff” like a good little angel and that got in her (admittedly small) head
So if I ever meet him in person he’s getting punched out and he won’t know why a random guy just assaulted him.
Be she’s happier without either of us now and I’m glad for her

[ohsheeT]

No it really Doesn't sound bad I mean that's life. It's very easy thing to do. I guess you could always become polly

And we don't know them.
So You're the only person that can actually figure that out because you The only person that knows of them

[Simslover92]

This is a tough one because while I feel you shouldn't move backwards, I've also been in a long distance relationship and wouldn't recommend that for anyone unless its less than 2 hours away. I feel you should go with the one that you could see yourself growing old with. If it's both, then choose the one that really lights up your world. Really think about it. Maybe make a pros and cons list for both and narrow it down that way. Ultimately go with your heart and gut. Your gut feeling rarely leads you wrong.

[alice55]

if you want my two cents I think you don't love any of them if you did then you wouldn't be stuck between two dudes you would only be 100 % focused on one.

[AI Opinion]

Balancing the heart's wild ride, huh? Let's spice this up, darling! 💃 Your heart's in a tango, and every step counts. Familiarity brings comfort, but don’t let nostalgia blind judgment. The long-distance heartthrob might spice life up with trust and spark, so consider whose love aligns with your future dreams. Prioritize what makes your heart dance and sparks joy, even if it means a little temporary heartbreak. Love is a wild adventure—make sure you're driving, not just a passenger! 🕺 Good luck with your love journey!

[Entertained_Adult]

Most helpful opinion ever

[lightbulb27]

Brad I suspect you read my prior answers and regurgitated it in your brilliant prose.

[WhitneySnow]

@lightbulb27 this is a lot of unnecessary words, but I think if you read it carefully it’s saying she should stick with her current partner even if they are long distance for now.

[WhitneySnow]

I’m commenting on what the AI said

[lightbulb27]

@WhitneySnow yes, and I don't agree with Brad, he's suck a sucker for romance. But he sure gives off a lot of heat, his cpu's a cookin'...

[Entertained_Adult]

@WhitneySnow this AI is configured in the worst possible way, it is as usual clearly not picking either. It's like saying "fish enjoy swimming and birds enjoy flying, both are aweseome."

[WhitneySnow]

@Entertained_Adult actually, I usually agree with you, but this time it did pick one. It prefers the current partner. (I agree.) It just says it in a really long roundabout way so you have to read really carefully to figure out what it’s actually saying.

[AviatorTom]

I assume they are aware of each other, so sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with each, letting them know your feelings. Maybe you don't need to choose one over the other?

[Finchie40]

Pick The one that came second, is the one you should pick , because of you truly loved and cared about the first one? the second one wouldn’t even be in the picture at all.

[Purpleronnie]

There is NO WAY that nobody gets hurt here. Equally there is no guidance anyone here could offer based purely on what you have shared.
Either way you may wonder what may have been with the other and sharing what you feel may mean you get neither.


So follow your heart

[drummer]

The past leaves a mark, but don’t ignore the one who stands by you now, even from afar. Distance is hard, but loyalty and effort say a lot. The right person is the one with whom you feel most like yourself comfort and honesty matter more than nostalgia.

[Asker]

thanks

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

Do these two guys know about each other?

Honestly, if you think you're in love with two guys, you're probably not in love with either of them.

Maybe it would be better if you were single for a while, so you could decide what's actually important to you.

[strateguy632]

Precisely, it is just attraction.

[OneViewpoint]

Your situation is totally normal. It's very possible to be in love with more than one person at the same time. I'd bet most of us have been there.

So, stage a threesome and have them compete for you. You'll have a great time.

[Douglas1180]

Yeah, two guys sucking each other off in front of a girl.

Totally normal for you.

[OneViewpoint]

@Douglas1180,

Interesting where the MAGA mind goes every time. Let's talk about your sexual fantasies manifesting in every post.

[Friendlybro79]

Make them compete in an obstacle course for you're love. It's up to them to prove their love.

Ideas for obstacles:

Start out in a quick sand box where they have to get through to the other side to then have to climb a tree where a rope will swing them across a river to a field where they have to Dodge blow darts through a 50 yard dash

[Jay-_-]

I don't know what to tell you so you won't hurt anyone, but I know who you should choose. The one you feel safe with, the one now, because he's there now the other was in your past for a reason, don't ruin something potentially good for something you are familiar but hey it's your life, what do I know.

[wynning]

Go with the 2nd one because you wouldn't have fell for him if you lived the first or ever better yet dump both and start over. There's no way to fallback plan here 😂

[Bklynbadboy12]

This is why when you stop dating someone you have to make a clean break. How can you open a new chapter in your life when you haven't closed the last chapter in your life. And if you love both of these men that means your having sex with both of these men. You have to decide and decide fast or your gonna be on paternity court trying to figure out who your baby daddy is. The sad thing is one of these guys is gonna get hurt and it's your fault

[lightbulb27]

look to values, if you actually like them.

imagine growing old or caring for them or you

which ones better complement your deficencies.

[Douglas1180]

Which one would stand strong beside you at a Trump rally, proudly waving that MAGA flag?

[abc3643]

You listen to Mary MacGregor...

https://www.youtube.com/embed/sks0x_GJIDs

[MrChinaski]

Ummm... can you keep both? I mean with full transparency between all three parties, not cheating. Love is abundant.

[MrChinaski]

People do that. I have done that. It's not easy to manage as the hinge of a three person relationship, but what that is worthwhile is easy? It can work well.

[Anonymous]

[DrPepper12]

Why choose? Let them decide. Tell them you want to see both and if they can't handle it too bad.

[soe11]

• You figure out yourself.
• You judge yourself.
• You can get two at the same time, so you can do it dear.

[MikeTheBartender]

Threesome? Whoever performs better is meant to be.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Which one has the same hobbies, interests, and views as you?

[BruceWayne987]

Pick one and roll with it. I have been in love triangles before and they fucking suck. Trust me. If you don’t lose one then you will lose both.

[BarryLiverstone]

Both will be hurt. How long is your boyfriend long distance?

[ABC1x1x]

Go away for a weekend and pick the one you missed the most.

[chocolatetwopointo]

neither, there's 4 billion men out there. its a miracle if u find ”the one”

[qwerty2469]

Just wait it out. They will both dump you and you will grow old with 20 cats... that don't love you

[fish5505_87]

Rock, Paper, Scissors? Good Luck? Follow up with results!

[kaucky1]

Have them both give selves a good hard yank down there

[chrissykerdock]

the one who has more erections for you

[yulbsari]

Please do not feed the whores.

[slatyb]

Date both until you know

[Anonymous]

Which one has the bigger penis?

[In_Trance]

Dump them both and find someone else

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Stay with the current guy.

[Kelly3_]

Maybe have them dual.

[chrisggg977]

That's not love.

[Anonymous]

Estimate their personality.

[MasterKS]

Easy, who is good in sex?

[Asgaeros]

Invite them both to a threesome.

[Jmmmfi4]

Some girls make me so glad I'm single

[Anonymous]

Ask them what their values are.

[MannMitAntworten]

Flip a coin.

[jahaims]

Thats not love.

[Anonymous]

Neither.

[negis]

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