What should I do when two guys love me truly and loyal to me even though I didn't accept them yet. Whom should I select?

[Anonymous]

[Guy13]

If these two guys know they are in a competition then there will be drama and I hope you are ready for it. Someone is going to lose and their relationship will sever. If they do not know then keep it that way UNTIL you can speak clearly on this matter. please.

All you can do is follow your heart. Take time to evaluate what each brings to the table and how those things fit your an wants/needs. For instance, one may be stable, reliable friend and boyfriend while the other may seem tough or bad boyfriend... we each have a preferred person in this area.

Secondly, is one a friendship type love and one not? Are both of them that way? Which one are you emotionally attached too? Can you have both in your life and still be fair to the one you choose?

Make certain that you know YOUR wants and needs. Good luck with them both !!

[Asker]

Yeah, this is helpful in choosing a one out of both

[Guy13]

Good, I am glad it was. Hopefully, it all works out exactly as you hoped !!

[ShiftingMonke]

Whoever you like more. Or tell them both about each other, and see who reacts better.

[Asker]

The second option is funny. Looks like starting a war between each other

[ShiftingMonke]

I'm hoping they both decide to focus on some other woman who respects them more.

[Asker]

Do you mean I don't respect them?

[ShiftingMonke]

Allowing two men to fall in love with you while doing nothing to stop them or make them aware of each other is incredibly disrespectful and manipulative to them, yes.

[Asker]

I don't mind saying them about each other but I need to choose a guy first before telling them about each other or else it will be as if I'm starting a war between them which is not fair. Firstly I need to choose a guy that I like and say him about other guy's love and let him decide what I need to do and let this other guy know that I have a boyfriend after I accept the guy that I wanna be with. This is respect. Without accepting telling them about each other is to make things serious between them which no girl should do. I didn't allow them to fall in love with me. Falling in love happens involuntarily and their feelings have nothing to do with me in allowing them. I have already pushed away both to check who wants me despite I push them away but the drawback is that both didn't move on from me and still trying to get me and are not accepting about other girls than me. Now I'm stuck in a situation where I need to choose a one or lose both

[ShiftingMonke]

It seems you've just answered your own question.

[Wise4myage]

Flip a coin.

[Asker]

Funny

[riverrat3]

Date both,

[Asker]

It's not right

[riverrat3]

If you are not committed to either, it is not wrong