Help I'm in love with 2 guys who do I pick?

[Anonymous]

1. Lawyer 10 years older than me. BUFF SEXY. Divorced has been in 10 relationships. Loves hard. Has deep convos. Knows what he wants and that's me. Hellaaa mature. 5'10

2. Software engineer at biggg company but works from home, year younger than me. SMOKES HELLAAA MARIJUANA. Hella sweet wants to know me etc. Has had 2 girfriends and numerous sexual partners. 5'7. cutee for sure and stuff he says is hella sexy but other guy is sexier and more mature but he has had so many relationships and the divorce is sus.

I AM VIRGIN by the way

[Anonymous]

Let me ask you this.. When you were at your lowest point in your life who was there for you helping you out? Most likely the older guy. When you were at your highest point in your life who was there for you? Most likely the older guy. Who always took time to travel hundreds even thousands of miles for years to see you and support you? Most likely the older guy. When people harassed you and called you names and started shit with you who had your back? Most likely the older guy? Who made every birthday you celebrated for years special getting you a cake card even traveled to see you for your birthday? Most likely the older guy. I'll bet you any money he bent over backwards trying to make you happy for years now let me ask you this what did you ever do for him? I can almost guarentee nothing did you ever wish him a happy birthday? when was the last time you said you loved him? when was the last time you got him anything? when was the last time you went to see him without it having to do with work? And here you are can't even make up your mind between two guys one who did almost everything under the sun for you while the other just sits on his ass smoking weed all day. Seriously do you enjoy supporting someone like that financially? Do you enjoy keeping a roof over his head? Where was he when it came time to sell your old home and buy a new one? No where! I'll bet you the older guy helped you and advised you on that. Who was there for you when your had security and their girlfriends living in your home and when the media exploited your address all over tv? Who helped you out then? I'm willing to bet the older guy did. You know what i can't even believe we're sitting here talking about this shit. How many times did that skinny marijuana jerkoff help your family out? how many times did he help your younger sister out and your mom out and your older sister? Practically NONE! how many times did the older guy help your family out? A LOT. The fact you're even debating this is mindblowingly ridiculous. This is why he's been distancing himself from you as much as he has because of shit like this.

[Opinion Owner]

I will tell you one thing though that older guy he hasn't kissed another woman since 2005 he hasn't been with another woman since 2005 and hasn't told another woman he loved her since 2001-2003 and the last person he said that to was YOU. just remember that. He hasn't been on a date since 2000 ok and why hasn't he been with any women because he was crazy in love with you but all you did was act ingrateful and selfish and put him through pure hell for your own amusement. He bent over backwards for you when was the last time you did that for him?

[Opinion Owner]

When people harassed you who had your back who helped you out i'm almost positive that pothead didn't but the older guy did. who helped you get that trip out to jeruselem years ago to see the western wall who helped you during your nfl superbowl interview on how to address certain questions which were asked by the way who helped you when you people turned their backs on you try the older guy did. that skinny jackass didn't and yet here you are debating a question that you asked. do you know how horrible that makes him feel how awful that is seriously wtf he bent over backwards busted his ass for you for years and wtf did you ever do for him? name just one thing?

[Honest-Matt]

Let's just establish first of all that you don't love either of them. You are lusting over them, love takes time. Being in your mid 20s, the reality is it's likely come time to choose partners for their future not the present. Who do you see as a long term partner? Is a long term partner something you want? Do you just want to experience the relationships or something more? Being a virgin there is a sobering aspect once you lose it and dating both men non-exclusively and experiencing both before any commitment may be a good life experience.

[BasedBaeBecca]

The decision about who to choose should ultimately be based on your feelings and who you feel a genuine connection with. Consider each of the men's qualities, including their values, personalities, and actions in previous relationships. Trust your intuition and make the choice that feels right for you.

Also, remember that a person's number of previous relationships or divorces doesn't necessarily reflect their character or ability to be loyal and committed in a new relationship.

[Summeroflove]

It just depends. You could date both to see who you’re compatible with. Just be open and honest. Dating someone isn’t a exclusive relationship

[ProbablyClueless]

Go with guy number 2. Even if things don't go anywhere with him, at least you're more likely to be treated like a human being.

Let me tell you exactly why: Guy Number 1 "wants you" until you stop being convenient for him. The way I know that us because he's dated 10 women and been divorced, so he has no problem getting rid of people who no longer serve him. That man has so many options that you'll get chewed up and tossed out because it'll be easier to find your replacement than work with your feelings.

Guy 2 isn't as sexy to you, but at least he wants to interact with you and get to know you.

[Curmudgeon]

You are a virgin at that age? Surprising...

OK, thoughts:

1. Baby making and family starting: are you ready for that? If not or you never want to do that, then just be careful, but if you do, then go for the older man. (obviously, talk to him about this first).

2. Divorce is more suspect than a guy who sleeps around and won't commit? Really?

[Anonymous]

1. 🤣🤣🤣 knows what he wants... apparently 11 times a charm?

2. Smokes weed and has had multiple relationships. Well clearly he's a keeper.😆😆😆

I'd say flip a coin a make a decision between the two there's no avoiding this iceberg. 😆😆😆

[DextroShade]

Each will come with their own issues:

The lawyer will be away from you much of the time and will almost certainly cheat on you at some point.

The pot-smoking software engineer will obviously have more time for you and be less likely to cheat, although it seems you aren't as into him and you may be the one to cheat in this case, probably with the lawyer.

The choice is yours.

[Billlewis]

I think you should keep one of them for intercourse, and the other guy to be your non sexual sugar daddy, etc.

[MementoMori777]

whoever catches your heart more, the truth is you like one more than the other

[kakaling]

You only know love when you lost it.

If you don't feel like dying when you lost both of them, you don't love them.

[Anonymous]

Lol sounds like you’re just looking for a big payday.

[ButthurtGAGpeople1]

Beggars can't be choosers