I cheated on my girlfriend with a girl (my ex) who’s also in a relationship, now I don’t know how to handle the situation?

[Anonymous]

Let me start from the beginning. I’ve know my ex almost my whole life. We've dated on and off through middle school and into our freshman years before a argument split us up on good terms. We never really lost feelings. We have dated other people throughout the years and tried to forget each other but one way or another we end up talking once again. I will refer to this girl as Sara. Sara has been in a relationship for the past 6 months. I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years. Throughout both of our relationships we have been talking, flirting, and meeting up in private. Nothing to serious has happened between us until recently when I got a call past midnight from Sara saying she was drunk, couldn’t drive, and needed help. So willingly I went and picked her up and we decided to go back to my place. Anyone reading can assume exactly what happened. What happened that night brought us closer together and magnified my feelings for her and as well as hers for me. We met up and continued for about a week until she felt guilty and told her s/o about what happened. He didn’t leave her but rather said he wants to work through it in which she agreed. She said she’d love a relationship with me but she also deeply cares for this guy and she says she loves him ( I truly don’t think she does). I want her, and want to be with her. We love each other and connect really well. I just feel like it’s always been meant to be. Now she says that we shouldn’t talk so that she can try and respect and rebuild w/ her s/o even though it’s not what she wants to do. I told her I’d try and respect that and step back although this isn’t what I want either. She said if they ever do break up she’s coming straight to me with open arms. I’m stuck wanting her so badly but not able to reach out to her or see her anymore. Part of me thinks they will break it off and everything will work out but the other part of me thinks that they will work through it and I’ll lose her. What do I do?

[Sarahr123]

So she is waiting to break up with that sweet guy to come running to you... both of you should leave those poor people alone and get together. Your SO na her SO deserve better than both of you. Leave them alone and let them be happy and find people who will love them and not stab them in the back.

[SnakeBoop]

Need to tell your partner,
he's a fucking idiot, and so are you to even think she's not going to hop into other peoples bed IF they even end it. Meeting up in private tells me everything
You're both dicks, and both kinda deserve each other, for the simple fact of all you'll do is both of you spend more time looking for greener grasses

[Asker]

I do think he’s a idiot for not leaving her as well honestly. I would have. And your right I do need to tell her but I don’t have the courage to at this moment in time. Me and her have always been like this, like I said. Neither of use have never physically cheated on anyone until recently. It’s been more of a emotional thing until this point. We are just different together. When we talk all the bad shit in the world goes away and we both feel complete. Your right though, we both are dicks and what we’ve done to our partners is truly fucked up but maybe it’s for a greater good.

[SnakeBoop]

wow. so on top of being a dick to your own partner, you're also a hypocrite because you think he's an idiot for NOT leaving a cheater? aight.
Nothing good comes out of cheating though, all you've done is fuck around with the OTHERS who were innocent, because you two couldn't keep ya pants/legs shut and respect what a traditional relationship boundary was.

[Asker]

How does thinking he’s a idiot for not leaving her because she cheated make me a hypocrite? And it wasn’t just fucking around either it meant something to the both of us as mentioned above.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

@SnakeBoop the asker doesn't understand, clearly he needs to grow up some more. You are 100% correct in your assessment!

@asker its hypocritical because YOU cheated on your SO! How fucking dense are you? "It meant something" if it meant something, she wouldn't stay with her SO who wants to work it out, she would've left. Grow a fucking set of balls you fucking coward!

[Dazed0N0Confused]

@asker maybe when you get cheated on, you'll understand the irony of the situation

[SnakeBoop]

@Dazed0N0Confused YES.
I seem to sometimes hope the gag population isn't as full of idiots as I know it is. My fault for being in small denial XD they always prove me wrong tho!

[Dazed0N0Confused]

@SnakeBoop IKR! Too bad idiots can't comprehend the irony of the situation they put themselves in! "How can i be a hypocrite when i think the cheatee should leave the cheater, when im also a cheater & would leave my partner if i found out they cheated on me?" ffs the stupidity rolling from that statement is laughable!

[Avicenna]

Tell your girlfriend what happened and let the chips fall as they may.

[Asker]

I’ve actually thought about leaving her and not letting her know what happened so she’s not hurt by it. Just because my feelings for her are not as great and will never be as great as they are for Sara.

[Avicenna]

She'll figure out what happened when she finds out you're back with your ex

[Asker]

You are right

[Dazed0N0Confused]

Wow, you both are so shitty, you both deserve each other. You need to leave your SO right now because she deserves better than a cheating POS like you.

Any conflictions or difficulties that have arisen because of you conscious decision to cheat is something you need to deal with alone.

[Asker]

I understand how we look like shitty people and agree with you. I do need to leave her.

[Dazed0N0Confused]

How you "look" shitty? Seriously? You both have people that trusted you to stay faithful!

You two seriously deserve each other, but be careful, a little rule of thumb: If they're going to cheat WITH you, they're more likely to cheat ON you.

I hope you at least have the fucking balls to tell your soon to be ex the truth about the whole thing & let her have her say. Don't be a coward

[Bee-Hatch]

You made a conscious decision to fuck around. Any upset ot difficulty you're experiencing is something you have to deal with. Theoretically at your age you're a man, time to start acting like one.

[Anonymous]

All I gotta say is grow up or be single. Both of you are crappy people

[Asker]

I respect your opinion.

[Iron_Man]

You should’ve thought about that before

[Asker]

Thought about what

[Iron_Man]

The sin that you committed