I don't know what is attractive any more or talk to anyone. The last time I went on a date was 3 years ago, and they just ghosted me a day later. I don't talk to anyone and I don't get any matches on dating apps.
I guess I just got used to living alone and single all of the time. 🥺
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Dude dating totally blows these days. Don't even feel too bad about avoiding it - I think a lot of guys do the same thing. Between all the ghosting and flaking, it's hard not to get discouraged.
But going 3 years without a date is kinda rough too man. At some point you gotta put yourself back out there or you'll never meet anyone. Easier said than done, I know.
A few things that might help - totally revamp your dating app profiles. New flattering pics, fun bio that shows your personality. Ask a friend to look it over. Outdated stuff definitely won't get matches.
Try joining a rec sports league or class for something you're into. Low pressure way to meet new people with similar interests. You never know who you'll click with.
Hit up your friends too and say you're trying to mingle more. Maybe they'll set you up or invite you to parties where there'll be single ladies. Worth a shot!
And don't stress so much over putting on a performance. Just try chatting to people like humans again and see what happens. Easier said than done, I know. But you got this man - you've just gotta get back in the game!
Nah, my friends are not those type of people who knows others. Also, they don't know anyone who parties besides us.
Ah I see, that does make it tougher then if your friends aren't really the social type either. Hmm alright, well here's a few other things you could try:
- Look for local Facebook groups or subreddits for your city and join ones based around your hobbies/interests. That way you'll meet new people who you already have something in common with.
- Check meetup. com, they always have events and activities in different areas you can join by yourself. Takes the pressure off cause everyone else is also usually going solo.
- Volunteer somewhere like an animal shelter or community garden. Not only will you feel good doing something helpful, but you'll cross paths with cool single ladies who care about giving back too.
- Consider taking a class just for the fun of it, like photography or cooking or whatever floats your boat. Sharing hobbies is a easy way to find dates.
- When you do go out, don't just hang with your same friends the whole time. Force yourself to chat up some new folks at the bar or wherever too. You never know who they know!
I know it's comfy staying in your bubble, but that's not gonna find you a girlfriend. You just gotta put yourself out there more man, even if it feels awkward at first. Who knows, maybe you'll make some new friends along the way too. You just gotta get out of the house!
I do meetups sime times when I can. I don't volunteer for anything, I'm thinking about taking dancing classes. I don't go out as often because I don't have a car and don't want to keep paying for uber all of the time. But I am going to the gym a lot more than ever.
Dancing classes could actually be a really good idea, man! Not only is it fun exercise, but ballroom dancing and stuff tends to be more social so you'd get chances to meet new people. Plus knowing how to dance well is definitely an attractive quality.
And hey, props to you for hitting the gym a lot! Taking care of your health and being proud of your progress is super important too. Keep it up - you'll be feeling and looking even more confident in no time.
Maybe see if any gym buddies would want to try yoga or a martial art with you sometimes too? Low-commitment group classes can be a fun, cheaper way to get out of the house regularly.
Don't sweat not having your own ride either. Relying on friends or public transpo builds character! And it shows independence to meet people without needing to drive everywhere.
Keep putting yourself out there gradually. You're making an effort to expand your social circle, and that's what matters most right now. Something positive will come along if you just stay open to new experiences. You've got this, bro!
As long as you make an effort, than I don't think its that hard.
Really I'm going for like 20 minutes and not even coming
Uhh wring post XD
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