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He’s at war and I don’t know how to deal?

And I don’t know what to say to him.
I keep in touch. I went to stay with him on his only day off. I ask how he’s doing and I told him I’m here for whatever.

But..

Like yesterday I asked if he’s doing ok, he told me he’s still alive hbu..
I said also.

That’s it.

Should I be making more conversation? Or should I leave that up to him? Maybe he doesn’t feel like it?
It feels wrong for me to bang on about myself when he’s on the front line.
My country is at war and everyone is feeling pretty shitty right now.

I honestly don’t know how to approach this situation.
I want to be there for him, but selfishly I also want him to be there for me.
I don’t want to make it about me but maybe this is where my need for him to talk to me is coming from?
I want to support him in the best way I can.

Should I be reaching out a lot?
Or leave him alone to reach out to me?
Or continue to just check in with my usual “hope you’re ok” “good weekend” “❤️” messages?
They just feel so underwhelming.
But I also don’t want to dwell on how fucked up this situation is.
Honestly I have no idea what to even talk about..
I want to bring some light to him. But also don’t wana be inappropriate or insensitive.

He’s always smiling, happy, positive. Even when I saw him the other week he’s joking and saying we have to laugh because what else can we do.
He was called from his normal life to go to reserve duty 3 weeks ago when war broke out.
And I should mention, we are not together. We were on and off for a long time, most recently off, but we happened to be speaking the week before the war broke out so sort of kept checking in with each other and I stayed with him on his night home.

Any and all suggestions welcome 🙏
He’s at war and I don’t know how to deal?
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