I like a girl in my work. I tried to talk to her she's smiling and even asked questions. when I asked for her number , she just gave her insta inste?

[Anonymous]

she gave me her Instagram instead and she followed me. I saw her giving her number to a random guy , he's not handsome tho but maybe she's just being nice so i was confident i can get her number but i wasn't. i know it's just our first long Convo but I'm just curious if she's just not interested in me or just want to know me more before she gives her number to me. pls answer my question guys

[Truthatanycost]

You want her number because you find her attractive but yet you think she will just give you her number because you asked? How does that make any sense?

[Asker]

bro read the entire text. i share an additional info. we talked for like 20mins and when i need to go I tried to get her number but she gave her Instagram instead. do i still have a chance bro? she gave me my Instagram and followed me tho maybe it's a a good sign? maybe I can try again? build some connection and make her comfortable with me? do i have a chance?

[Truthatanycost]

Everything is dependent on how much attraction you are able to build. Since you have a little time to do so, that is what you should do. Then the attraction she feels will lead to her wanting to share her details / phone number. But you need to stop looking at it as whether you have a chance because you are placing her above you. But I guess that's part of not yet knowing your true value yet.

[Asker]

can you give some advice bro? we actually see each other in person and our site. maybe if i see her I'll try to her more? and build that comfort?

[Asker]

coz i saw a random guy talking to her for like 20more minutes he was together with his friend and when they talked. he came back after few minutes and then talked again and asked her number and she gave it (she was actually working that time). maybe she just being polite bro? or she just wants that guy to stop bothering her?

[Truthatanycost]

She may not have been being polite. The guy may have known how to build enough attraction. This can be done through teasing, flirting, touch, wit, humor, emotional connection and not hiding your desire for her. In other words not having a boring conversation where you pretend you just want to be friends. But attraction building will differ from one person to another and I think it is the central point of almost everything.

How you look and carry yourself will of course also make a big impact.

[Asker]

but maybe it's because she doesn't want to be bothered? she's actually working that time and then that random guy just approached her.

[Asker]

maybe one big factor that caused her not giving her number to me was I acted like a creep? lunch time i actually went to the unit she's working and was looking for her and then i started the conversation. i asked her where's the other girl that's her co-worker. like i was so dumb that time. i wasn't able to start the conversation well. and there's time I can't maintain eye contact.

[Asker]

i really thought i can get her number coz she was engaging. she was asking me questions. and she was even smiling at me.. but then i asked her what she usually does on weekends (she replied) and asked for her number then boom just Instagram

[Truthatanycost]

Yes. Acting in the way you described including the lack of eye contact will destroy attraction. A lot of women will be polite to avoid problems due to fear as well.

[Asker]

most of the times i maintained eye contact but there are times that i didn't but few seconds only. i even asked where does she live bro and what's her previous job. is it too personal that caused her lack of attraction?

[Asker]

yeah that guy probably was expecting something but for the girl she maybe nice and didn't even reply to him

[Truthatanycost]

There is nothing wrong with those questions but if the conversation never goes beyond such questions then attraction is unlikely to ever occur.

[Asker]

can i still try to talk to her the second time around bro? i mean i can coz we share the same work site. I'm not gonna ask for her number tho just try to build that connection

[Truthatanycost]

No reason not to.

[Asker]

yeah bro noted to this. I'll try again to build that attraction and comfort and trust

[Anonymous]

Move on.

[Asker]

am i rejected? or i still have a chanceshe followed me tho it's a a good sign? maybe I can try again? build some connection and make her comfortable with me? do i have a chance?

[Asker]

i really thought i can get her number coz she was engaging. she was asking me questions. and she was even smiling at me.. but then i asked her what she usually does on weekends (she replied) and asked for her number then boom just Instagram

[Asker]

plss replyyy

[Anonymous]

It’s early yet

[Asker]

do i still have a chance bro? she gave me my Instagram tho maybe it's a a good sign? maybe I can try again? build some connection and make her comfortable with me? do i have a chance?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes —//

[Asker]

so maybe when we see each other I'll talk to her again? I will not ask for her number. j just build that comfort and trust. what else can u suggest pls bro?

[Opinion Owner]

Cool

[Asker]

should i talk to her again?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes…

[Evelyn99]

That's good.

[Asker]

it's a a good sign? maybe I can try again? build some connection and make her comfortable with me? do i have a chance?

[Asker]

i really thought i can get her number coz she was engaging. she was asking me questions. and she was even smiling at me.. but then i asked her what she usually does on weekends (she replied) and asked for her number then boom just Instagram