Told my boyfriend to show me he cares and he said I’m a beg?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend don’t even message me just once a day and I’ve asked him to show me he cares he said stop being a beg.. I said one message a day is not good enough for me I said imagine if your friends found out you message your girlfriend once a day he goes they would say ‘ she’s an amazing girl’ taking the piss..

he shows me when we are in person he cares and then afterwards he don’t bother when we are not together so it has made me realise he knows exactly what he’s doing.. I feel so stupid don’t know if I should jus break up with him as he wants to see me tomorrow and then the cycle begins again of me asking him to show me he cares can anyone give me any advice please

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn that sounds sucky. Your girl just wants to feel like you care even when you're not together, which is totally reasonable I think. Barely texting her at all would make anyone feel kinda lonely.

I don't think she was begging at all for asking you to message a little more. A relationship is a two way street, you both gotta put in effort to make each other feel loved and valued ya know.

If I were you I'd try to meet her halfway. Maybe compromise at a few texts a day to check in and a quick call once in a while too. Doesn't take much to let her know she's on your mind.

And don't make her feel bad for having feelings. We all get insecure sometimes. That's when your girl needs you the most. Instead of dismissing her just listen to why she feels that way, then try to reassure her with your actions.

You care about her right? So take five minutes out of your day to show it. Might save you both a lot of stress in the long run. Relationships take work from both sides.

[Avicenna]

Sounds very immature

[Asker]

It is isn’t it I feel so stupid I’m going to end it with him

[Avicenna]

If you aren't getting what you want in the relationship and that can't be fixed, there's no reason to stick around

[Asker]

He says he’s going to fix it but never does only shows me when we are together after that he don’t show me he cares

[Avicenna]

I think you have your answer

[Asker]

For real after the phone call you made me realise you know exactly what your doing by not showing me you care.. you just laugh my feelings are not a joke and your right I’m not a beg. We will meet up and then the cycle repeats me telling you how to treat me and asking you to show me you care it shouldn’t even have to be like that I’m not a joke so it’s best just to leave it how it is I rather be on my own

That’s the message I sent him..

I have had my answer for a long time it just hurts really bad when you love someone

[Avicenna]

I think you did the right thing