I Iike white guys?

[Anonymous]

And I believe my manager notices and got mad because he is developing feelings for me which I dont reciprocate. So my manager is black, married and has kids with a woman of another race! And tries to flirt with me. I am not interested because not only is he taken but also I dont find him attractive, at all!!

So this happened to me yesterday. He got mad at his white superior (yep his boss) that we were talking and all smiles. Just being polite and professional after a successful session with a client. Mind you my manager heard our conversation because he was a part of the meeting. After the meeting ended he blew up dissing me and his superior (after he left) in front of coworkers, saying basically we are underperforming and his knowledge is far superior. I know it's jealousy but people who act like that makes me dislike them more. I find the whole situation uncalled for.

He is full of pride and believes no one can outshine him. But this meeting arrangement (my first time meeting his boss) really set him off. I have work next week and I want to hear your opinions on how to go forward.

[greycadillacs]

I mean, I don’t think race really plays a role in this at all, and I doubt he knows your preferences. I would say it more comes down to just plain old jealousy and some narcissism. He may have gotten his way easily with other workers under him and is frustrated it’s not working out with you. If I were you, I would document everything, get things he says to you in writing if possible, save emails, and be prepared to talk to HR if it escalates.

[Asker]

I will take your advice because I forsee the trouble if I don't document everything.

[greycadillacs]

Yeah retaliation can be a big problem and I’ve been in situations with coworkers before and if there’s no hard evidence or proof, HR won’t really do anything. And in my experience they’ll usually take the supervisors side before they take the underling

[Asker]

Agree

[Massageman]

Pride goeth before the fall.

[Massageman]

Thanks for the pick.

[Tim2nice]

Just tell him you’re not interested in him. End of story