Does it matter if there is an age difference in a relationship? Would you be with someone older or younger than yourself?

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Age gaps in relationships? That's a tough one. I once dated someone much older, and at first, it was exciting. We shared stories, learned from each other, but over time, our age difference started to show. Different goals, different energy levels. It taught me that while age is just a number, it can really shape our experiences and expectations in a relationship. It's all about what feels right for you, I guess.

Staximus · Accepted Answer

I think once both people are adults and living adult lives it doesn't matter so much, especially if they have similar lifestyles. I have girls in their 20's hit on me at the bar I work at. Most of them are drunk and still in party mode, going out drinking all the time and stuff like that. I'm not in my 20's anymore, I'm not trying to go out and get stupid drunk and then try to make it home alive every weekend. I want to have a nice relaxing evening like an old man. A barbeque, go to a museum, old car show, go fishing, a nice dinner, hike in the mountains, walk down by the beach or something like that.

Joshydavid25 · Accepted Answer

It means it matters a little bit, but what's most important is the mindset.. Younger and older people do have different mindsets a lot of times.. Older people are set in their ways and younger people are still finding theirs.. I think it could work if they both want the same thing regardless.. At least up til a certain point.. Like a young 20 something year old and a 30 something year old.

NZGirl07 · Accepted Answer

My first boyfriend was basically my age but the year below at school. This caused a lot of gossip and rumours which was sad, but our age difference didn't mean much. Unfortunately he was an a hole and immature, but probably unrelated to age.

My second boyfriend was a year older, but I was probably more mature than him.

My partner now is 7 months younger, so again negligible. I haven't dated anyone significantly older or younger, but I personally I do feel large age gaps can be strange or cause issues. But then again, each to to their own.

Genevieverudd · Accepted Answer

I don’t think it matters if there’s an age gap, but just be wary. I dated a guy two years younger than me (he acted mature for his age) but soon I found out he wasn’t very emotionally mature which would cause arguments. I’m not sure if I would date someone that much younger again, only if they proved to me they were just as emotionally far along as me. At the end of the day I think age is just a number and it’s usually not a big deal as long as the chemistry is there and that person isn’t under age.

overthinkergirl · Accepted Answer

i think i wouldn’t date younger boys and i prefer older. but older they’rebmore diffulct it is to get along and have simillar interests about life.

WilmaReportц · Answer

Can I just say I was educated in literature, and I abhor the reference to Lolita. Vladmir Nabakov, the author of the book, was a literary genius.

In no shape or form was this book written in the vein of "50 Shades of Gray" or whatever other garbage people read. Nor was is at all about what it appears to be on the surface.

Read it closely - this book is about the sacredness of creativity, the molestation of art.

Jezzzter · Answer

Depends on how wide the gap is. It seems the older you are, the less the gap matters.

I wouldn’t mind dating a guy a bit older or a bit younger than me.

However given my age, I really mean only a bit. Like, a year and a half at most. Any more would be uncomfortable.

Too old would be gross and illegal, too young would make me the gross one.

Rei02 · Answer

In everyone's case: age gap doesn't matter as long as:

- Both partners are over 18 years old.

- There is respect, a real connection, the sharing of similar interests and life goals.

In my case: a range between 8 years younger and 5 years older than me.

BasedBaeBecca · Answer

I agree that age gaps are something that should be taken into consideration but that ultimately it's not all that matters. Different stages in life, different goals, energy levels, these things play a big role.
Some people won’t date older and some won't date younger. I think that age is something that should be taken into consideration but also, age is not a deal breaker if you have good chemistry with someone, are at a similar stage in life, and your values and goals are aligned.

MemeSupreme · Answer

18 - 30 is my range depending on when they're wanting kids bc if i ever do have some it won't be anytime soon lol

i just want someone who i can connect with, can trust, and is in a similar spot that im in rn in my life

Paulalove98 · Answer

My fiance is 7 years younger than me I’ve always preferred younger guys or guys my age, or not that much older but not too old.

HaleyCatgirl · Answer

I personally think it's creepy but that's because I seen too much to Catch a Predator and Predator poachers and that's my shit love seeing them whine they get caught males and females looking beautiful thing I tell you

HouseMoat · Answer

Age difference SHOULDN'T matter. However, there's also legalities too. Check your state for minor rules. I believe in my state it's 16, so, if you're 18 or older, you can date a 16 year old and older but, if they're 15 and under, that's illegal. Girls often don't understand this.

TrueConfection · Answer

I think it depends on the individuals that make up the pair. I personally couldn't be romantic with anyone old enough to be my dad or young enough to be my son. 10 years would be fine, but I prefer guys my own age.

mandyfire98 · Answer

I've always dated older really since I got into college and my boyfriend now is ten years older than me. I actually dated a guy that is my dad's age once.

exitseven · Answer

When I was younger I would have had no problem dating somebody older, even a lot older. Now if I was to date somebody older she would be on Medicare.

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

For me personally and for my situation, two years older/younger is as far as I'd go 😅 so I have to say that age differences matter in a relationship

BourbonAndBacon · Answer

If you notice an age difference in your relationship, it's not going to work. All the things you think are important in a relationship are the same no matter what age your partner is.

katiesmuff · Answer

Everyone has there own idea of what they will or want to be happy with. In my case I am with someone older, 7 years older and I'm super happy.

Starrrboy · Answer

Yeah it does, just basic stuff really... I'm currently in a weird situation cuz I like the looks of younger girls and the personality of older girls.. so, either I meet a cute older babe or a very cool younger one lol..

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have always preferred much older men, but I prefer women around my age.

nastyb · Answer

Data shows that the larger the age gap, the higher the divorce rate.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I like men 2 to 15 years older than myself because then I feel more feminine, young and submissive. I have dated a younger man but it didn't work for me.

Carina0 · Answer

I prefer older men so I don't think age gap matter that much

Likes2drive · Answer

Someone younger than me, maybe around 15 years age gap

Pohjolan · Answer

To a extent but there isn't such a thing as a perfect partner.

Maddy2002_ · Answer

I got something in the works she got 15 years on me.

4ngelic · Answer

why did u put lolita as a cover pic..

Apple1996 · Answer

I only go for younger guys

Angelo75 · Answer

Sure... why not.

PreciousJewel · Answer

As long as they have money

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Yes.

eagle1951 · Answer

yeah

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