Do you get attached quickly to people?

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Lynx122 · Accepted Answer

Hmm I don't know. I can open up quickly to people and talk about personal things like things I'm struggling with or so if it feels right and the person seems trustworthy. But in some other ways it's difficult for me to get attached to people. Like grief over losing someone, I don't feel it. I don't know if it's because of my autism and I just expect relationships to end sooner or later or what it is. I feel like I'm making progress but social stuff is the most difficult area of life to understand for me so I just have to be patient. Atm I'm happy with the people around me. :)

LiamJHayden · Accepted Answer

No. I am friendly till given a reason otherwise, but attachment takes trust, and trust takes time.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Not anymore. Unfortunate people have this knack of constantly disappointing me, intentional or unintentional.
I've learned as I've gotten older don't get too close to people- at least until they prove they're worth it, or put the effort in.

mandyfire98 · Accepted Answer

I don't it normally takes me awhile to warm up to people. Once I do I become really close.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, and I hate it.
I'm a real loner and an einzelgänger, so everything I do, I do it by myself.
So the few people I let in, it's always ride or die and usually, that's not mutual.

I've gone on solo travels a couple of times and I still think of the few people I interacted with on those days.
Some I'm still in contact with, others just linger on my mind.

If anyone shows any interest, I'm all over them. Which makes me appear as clingy, I think it's just insecurity.
Especially since I've always spend a lot of time on my own, I often feel like I'm not worthy of anyone else's time.

Which is why I feel extremely overwhelmed whenever I get invited.
Last year, I was invited to a classmate's house to eat pizza and I cried for three days at the thought of someone wanting me to be around.

Don't get me wrong, I have a strong relationship with myself, and get along with many people, but I'm not very good at conversing and have a hard time reading social signs. I'm very straightforward and don't like gossip, so I often push people away.

The few people that have been willing to pull me back, always occupy my thoughts. Even the people I no longer am in contact with, I often think of them, will always root for them and hope they're living their best lives.

Unit1 · Answer

That depends

Smokers, alcoholics, druggies, GOLD DIGGERS most of all 😠😡, religious fanatics, bothersome single mothers, bothersome jailbirds, racists, hot heads, political morons, man-haters, misogynists, fake friends, thieves, wannabe "alpha" douchebags, xenophobes, aggressive beggars ➡ EWWW, PEOPLE 🤢🤮

Wonder how I composed that list? You can probably figure from what I've encountered.

Of course I've encountered adequate and good hearted people too, to whom I have an easy time bonding with. I have adapted to friends coming and friends going. It's the nature of life.

kitsachie · Answer

I used to get attached fairly quickly to anyone who showed me attention, both from women and from men for two entirely different reasons. I've been hurt so many times by immature women that I come off as cold and distant, mainly because I have a bad habit of falling for unstable women. I used to chase father figures when I was younger and now that I'm older, I'm everything I need.

caitycat21 · Answer

Yes but I’m slowly learning to better guard myself because I’m a very caring person and so many people on this earth unfortunately are parasites who will suck all the love and compassion you have until you are just as miserable and hateful as they are so you have to be smart about who you get attached to emotionally

molonski2 · Answer

Not so much any more , I like to sit back and wait a bit , but this came with age. When I was your age ( and yes I can remember being 16 well ) I'd attach far too quickly , and believed far too much , quite frankly.

thatshydork · Answer

No, but I’m pretty shy and was kind of a drifter myself in grade school (also random side note that nobody asked for, but the guy in the picture from the main page kinda looks like someone I went to school with haha).

abc3643 · Answer

Only to my conjoined twin.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Too quickly... that's my biggest downfall, and always, i mean always i say to myself "do not attach", but i guess The Soul Loving is more powerful than the will...🤷‍♂️

serious · Answer

No, of course not. On the contrary it is very easy for me to get detached, it is very easy for me to remove people out of my life as compared to otherwise.

Anemone978 · Answer

Yes.. that is why I try my best to avoid people at all costs to save myself :P

DizzyDesii · Answer

Yes but I detach just as easily if I truly feel we have no future together

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

If truth be told NOT REALLY however for some strange reason people get attached quickly to me.

blueonblack22 · Answer

I am quite the opposite. I am usually very friendly to people but the barrier to gain my real trust is very high.

rosemilk · Answer

nope, i'm pretty independent and like my alone time. so i find it hard to attach to people when i need space also lol

syncheart · Answer

Because I can't make friends, whenever someone acts friendly I feel like I want to form a bond. But I must hold back because I know that chances are people don't really like me all that well!

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Yeah unfortunately I do.. At least in certain situations.. Although I am. kinda guarded so I guess that makes up for it... Or it could be the reason. 🤔

DJB72 · Answer

As I get older it takes longer than when I was a teenager, simply because you get hurt too easily.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

No I’m opposite. I‘m friendly with people, but it’s rare that I connect with someone enough to be friends.

rachel776 · Answer

not usually but my current boyfriend i did do

Anonymous · Answer

No, quite the opposite. I have a million acquaintances but only a handful of friends. But I'm a warm person so many times someone will think we're friends and we are not. As I said I'm a warm person so I don't exclude people. But few people do I have enough deep trust in to call friend.

Yyyyp789 · Answer

Sadly yes I do, I recently did but the guy is not into me anymore 😞

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Used to but not anymore, been hurt a lot of times because i used to listen to my heart and now i used my head more than feelings...

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

No, it's a slow process. I can be friendly with you, but that doesn't mean that I trust you.

Benjiman19 · Answer

No. It takes me a while to put trust into someone. My trust is followed by attachment and loyalty.

Sasha0426 · Answer

Depends on who. But, even if certain people stuck around for a long time, I have my guard up.

deus_ex_sisyphus · Answer

OP tryin to locate the stage-4 clingers ahhaha

AmeerX · Answer

I can tell if I want that person with me or not in a relatively short time now.

Juxtapose · Answer

No lol, you gotta prove yourself to me before I let my guard down.

boobliker · Answer

sometimes it's good to get in quickly with both feet, but other times we need distance.

2021biguy · Answer

Yes sadly, I try to be nice to everyone too.

SotiCoto · Answer

Nah. I'm not into grappling, don't mess around with bondage, and haven't spilt superglue on myself in many years.

Boomchakalaca · Answer

Yes i already am thinking about marriage

Anonymous · Answer

No because I worked on myself and I discovered that I had a fear of abandonment

IslaTheWitch · Answer

No. I rather need time to feel attached.

lilBigPotato · Answer

Not at all unless I crush on someone

bededazzle · Answer

yep. it’sa big problem

Brittanykeen88 · Answer

Yes but I'm trying to change that

lightbulb27 · Answer

Yea…  Why is that ya think?

Altheavas · Answer

No, I’m a little cold and distant!

NathanDavis · Answer

no, no reason to

Simslover92 · Answer

Depends on the person.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Sometimes if I really like them

Agape93 · Answer

Nope. I'm slow to attach and quick to detach.

urpapi69 · Answer

It takes time. What about you?

SolitarySolace · Answer

I used to, yeah. But circumstances changed that

Wise4myage · Answer

Yes, that has happened to me. 😂

Clyde_123 · Answer

I used to. Not anymore.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Depends on the person

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Nope. Because no one really cares.

KonkeyDong · Answer

Unfortunately, yeah. I'm feely over thinky.

Monalisa77 · Answer

Yes easily

Night_Descends · Answer

No, never faced that. Hbu? 😊

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

I have bpd so yes

Bigjake1995 · Answer

Sometimes also depends on the person

strateguy632 · Answer

not quickly

Apple1996 · Answer

No not really

Al_Musafir · Answer

Nope.

helva · Answer

Somethimes

Anonymous · Answer

Nope I have mind that work 24×7

sheikalana · Answer

Not really.

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