Is platonic love ridiculous? Why do I always fall in love with men far away from me?

[Anonymous]

In relationships, I attach importance to character harmony and the similarity of our lifestyles rather than physical characteristics.
There are no men around me who suit me in this regard. For this reason, I search for men I don't know on social media etc., find out that I am compatible with them and become platonic. And I can't reach anyone, I'm also a shy person.
What should I do

It's perfectly normal, love is sometimes far away.

Nonsense. You must fall in love with someone from your close circle.

[Naruse]

You are using platonic in the sense that none of these men are romantically interesting right? I think the last time I heard language like this was Philosophy and ethics in school. To answer your question finding friends is difficult for introverts and you have the added difficulty of finding others when shy people aren't exactly the most outgoing groups. Maybe try literature clubs if you want to meet some in person but again it's about as difficult as drawing blood from a rock.

[Anonymous]

The fact that your not married to any of theses men, raises the question if you really do have standards of their physical body which none of the real men around you can meet.

The alternative is your simply choosing men you can't actually be with for some preferred personality/economic reasons.

[slatyb]

Because they are just a fantasy. it's easy to fall in love with a fantasy. Having a loving relationship with a person is more difficult because no real person is going to fulfill your fantasies.

[madhatters4]

platonic relationships is significantly important. a good relationship has a strong romantic and platonic component. so no platonic love is not ridiculous at all

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

you're telling me that the lifestyle you live is so outlandish you have to scope men out from half way across the world to feel comfortable enough to commit to them?

Is your lifestyle that of a furry?

[RHK36]

Because you ignore the red flags and just follow the potential fantasy with guys far away. Basically you're too scared/immature/not ready, whatever the excuse, to do any real dating.

[molonski2]

Neither of the options given , but no it certainly cannot be platonic.

[Anonymous]

No. I've found platonic love is the ONLY love that makes any sense. Once you start adding feelings things get f***ed up pretty fast.

[bededazzle]

listen to your own needs

[TheSpaceGnome]

Thats called having friends.

[Anonymous]

Maybe its a sign you need to move to another city?

[Asker]

im actually live in big crowded city, also I am a specific person with dreams and goals. Unlike the majority, I have my own lifestyle.