Why are men on dating sites these days in such a rush to meet up?

[strawberrybaby3]

Many of the men that I match with want to meet up after just a few messages and claim that they don’t want to play games and meeting face to face is the proper way to build a relationship.

Lol, I just started talking to you a day ago, why would I meet up with someone that I don’t know? Do they think we are that gullible?

Seems like a sneaky way just to meet you once and sleep with you.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. Guys have the experience of messaging women and it continues and continues but she NEVER wants to meet in person, and it is all a silly game to her. Guys don't want to waste their time with such women.

2. Guys are correct in saying that meeting face-to-face is the proper way to build a relationship. You can message someone for months and not know them as well as you will after one face-to-face date.

3. You sound like you are very distrusting of men, so you may want to discount everything I say, but I used online dating sites very often until December 2020. I met my fiancee on an online site, and I wanted to meet her soon after. She agreed. We did not have sex on the first date, or the second date, or the third date, or the fourth date. Every guy on the planet does not have the sole objectibe of getting into your pants.

4. Finally, men have all had the experience of getting friend zoned because they did not express their interest quickly enough. Can't win!

[strawberrybaby3]

You are correct , and yes it could be that I do not trust after what I’ve been through but it’s also just not safe in my opinion. I want to speak to the person for at LEAST a week before just meeting up. Come on, after a few messages you think I’m going to just meet you in person or let you come to my house and pick me up? That doesn’t even sound logical.

[OlderAndWiser]

No, of course not! I ALWAYS asked a woman to drive to a location and meet me for dinner. After dinner, she got in her car and went home; I got in my car and drove home. That is how you do online dating safely. I was very sensitive to how scary online dating could be for women and never pressured them to let me come to their house or apartment. And I never pushed a woman for sex because that just makes most women resist. When she feels ready, it happens, and it's much better that way; sometimes it was after dating for a month and sometimes after five or six months.

[strawberrybaby3]

Unfortunately not every man is like you. I don’t think that every man’s sole purpose is to get into a girl’s pants however if that isn’t what you want then you should be understanding when a girl says they are not ready to meet after a literal day and a half of speaking. If you are so set on building a relationship, that doesn’t happen by rushing things THAT fast. Good things take time. Most women I feel would be extremely turned off by this unless they are desperate.

[OlderAndWiser]

ost of the women I met online did not want to spend weeks chatting via DMs. Many of them would agree to a date within a week of our online meeting and almost every one agreed to a date within two weeks.

[slatyb]

Because chat before meeting is a waste of time. If a woman isn't willing to meet for coffee or lunch, she's a waste of time. she's either not really interested in dating, nor she's not mature enough to be worth my time.

I dated online 9ff and on for about seven years -- off when I was in a relationship, on when I was single. Then I got a message from my wife. We met for coffee after bout two messages and we've been together since.

[chrissykerdock]

i find dating sites overtly competive... once a guy claims you he will report you maybe saying your a prostitute then you get suspended so he thinks you'll go to him... it's too cut throat for me... here nobody really lives near you so it's not cut throat at all.

[MemeSupreme]

ngl texting gets old quick like when you haven't met before or know anything about each other. small talk is awful and a lot of guys suck at texting

gotta meet in public with people nearby. feel them out and let my bullshitter meter go to work

[strawberrybaby3]

So you would meet up with a guy after a day of speaking?

[MemeSupreme]

yeah in public. im not gonna go somewhere private like his place or sleep with him. you don't know what someone's really like over text

[spartan55]

If you are diligent about your personal safety then that shouldn't be an issue. There are LOTS of women who are online dating sites with no intention of going on actual dates. They are there for the validation, ego boost, who knows. Guys don't like texting very much which women can't/won't understand for some reason. One week is my max to set up a date in person.

[Lionman95]

It could be that they are looking for sex. I actually tried to meet up with women early too being on dating apps because I´m not a social media person and I find it easier to get to know people in real life and to build an emotional connection to them than on apps. For me it´s therefore easy to forget a person if I don´t know them personally.

[Holsen]

Well it’s the effect of dating sites as men feel excited and rushed by the idea and accessibility of it so that’s not quite uncommon to happen!;also you’re right about that sometimes that happens too!!

[BarryLiverstone]

Because they don’t want to take two weeks chatting just to meet you and decide there is no chemistry. If you match on a Monday then planning a Friday date seems reasonable

[Kaneki05]

Now if only this problem was reversed because then there wouldn't be any problems lol.
But yeah that's exactly what they want.

[genericname85]

well you gotta understand that girls are on there for a very short time before they find a guy and logg off and it's like 1000 dudes for every 1 girl... so that behavior makes perfect sense.

[shortster]

Because 99.99999999999999999999999999999% of the profiles are scammers and the only way to weed them out is by meeting in person.

[Slim57]

Because women are constantly talking to other men on there and they want to meet them and not waste time on the apps

[YAsQuen]

noone is forcing you to sleep with them after the date?

You do realize this makes u sound like a used up hole right?

[Bklynbadboy12]

Cause he's trying to fuck! That how it is now a days and that's so sad

[justabuddy]

I couldn't tell you. Those things seem like scams to me.

[4ngelic]

translation they want that v

[Joker_]

the days are getting rougher

[eagle1951]

they probably want sex