Can a woman who has Onlyfans be a loyal girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

The reason I ask is these.

1. A TON of beautiful, academically smart women whom I have met had OFs.

2. The reason they say they have it is because of money issues (high student loans etc).

So, all in all if I keep on seeing OFs as a dealbreaker then I have to cross out a LOT of women I meet as potential partners in relationship.

If the only reason for them having OF is money, then I don't think it reflects that much on their character right? I mean at this point I think for women, screwing an inanimate object is considered better than screwing their OF subscriber.

Yes

No

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

In my opinion. No. why? Sex workers quite literally have a skewed view of relationships, sex and intimacy. Once you take those things and move them to a transactional dynamic, they find it difficult to disconnect that part of their thought process.

For reference, I know multiple women who do porn and OF. Some have done it for some time and NONE of them (including people i have met through them) have been able to have anything resembling a happy and stable relationship.

The boyfriend's were always super excited, at first, but as time passes they all realize they are having to sacrifice their happiness and relationship stability for her "career". They often find themselves wanting intimacy only to have their girlfriend turn them down because they were filming all day. Not to mention when they are intimate, they catch their girlfriend's going into "porn" mode where they are obviously not into the act but have started to "act". This often ruins the act of intimacy as a couple.

For me, any type of sex work is an immediate deal breaker. The risk is too great to consider them a viable dating or even a hook up partner. I will avoid like the plague.

[OlderAndWiser]

Would you want one of these women to be the mother of your future daughters, teaching them that it's okay to get naked and fuck themselves for strangers if they need the money.

If you think it is wrong to do that, the justification shouldn't change the result: it's wrong.

[Miristheiss]

Amen.
It is wrong and it is disgusting.
I'd advise any man to flee and not have a thing to do with ANY woman who'd do that.

[Inbox]

@OlderAndWiser Not only that, but women change when they enter those kind of fields.

[Anemone978]

Probably? but if she is that comfortable to have loads of guys that she don't even know to be watching her in moments that only a boyfriend should see, seems like she wouldn't really care if it happened in real life with a guy she likes.. I suppose it just makes her morals not seem as clear because they are basically cheap porn stars LOL

[Anonymous]

what kind of women have you met? because unless they're in the way top percents, very rare, they're barely making enough to make a dent in their student loans lol. they really don't get paid that much, unless of course top percent like i said.

[Anonymous]

The issue isn’t that they might have sex with an OnlyFans subscriber. That’s not something to be afraid of at all.

They’re not attracted to the men who subscribe to them, because those men are desperate losers. They see those men as being beneath them, because if any of them could get a woman like her IRL, they wouldn’t be paying her.

I know that sometimes they claim to have sex with a subscriber, maybe they post a video or something, but they’re just selling a fantasy to their subscribers, who obviously like the idea that one day they might get their chance also.

The issue is that it DOES reflect on her character.

Somebody who uses OnlyFans is less likely to see sex as a big deal, otherwise they wouldn’t be selling sexual content. Somebody who sees sex as a big deal is likely to see that as being morally wrong, as being degrading.

Or another more simple way of putting it is that somebody with strong moral views on sex will not be using OnlyFans.

Who is more likely to cheat on you? Somebody with strong morals, or someone who doesn’t have strong morals? It’s common sense.

If you have morals it doesn’t matter how much you need money, there are certain things you just won’t do.

[ZackBan]

You are suffering from selection bias.
Fact is as of late last year OF had 3.18 million creators, that's men and women put together but for the sake of simplicity let's say mostly women
The world is now home to 7.888 billion people split in half between men and women. That's 3.944 billion women

This means that about 6% of the female population is made up of OF creators.
The other 94% are regular women (that number does include minors so you have to count those out)

But bottom line is you don't need to settle for an OF model that you have to share with dude with an internet connection. You can find an amazing woman in the other 94%

[Miristheiss]

No.

Taking your clothes off for other men is BETRAYAL!!! It is being disloyal to her man.

She is NOT committed to her man if she takes off her clothes and exposes herself to other men. She is a prostitute and has given away something to other men that is ONLY for her committed mate.

She is already a sleazy cheater. The act of her doing that to begin with is already vile and putrid and she is worthless.

Any man that would be with a sex worker is a pathetic cuck and isn't a man at all.

[BadApple69]

The reason I say no is this…. You said the only reason is money…. Well that’s the only reason for prostitution.
I had a friend whose wife was doing online porn before Onlyfans…. He thought I’d was great, she made a ton of money, she had some females that paid her too. They both hooked up with one of these females… well eventually some online guy was dumping a ton of money on her and eventually talked her into meeting up with him… that was it, he had money and good looks, my friend had neither.

[aceleon]

your friend was an idiot, sorry but this is it.

[BadApple69]

Actually I agree 100%

[nastyb]

["if I keep on seeing OFs as a dealbreaker then I have to cross out a LOT of women I meet as potential partners in relationship"]

if you most of the women that you are willing to date have an onlyfans account, it a lot about you. Because truth is... most women in the world are not on onlyfans.

[JacobJordan]

of course not. the single act of exposing yourself online isn't loyal. while I don't agree with the islamic faith they have a point when it comes to that only your husband should see what you truly look like. I don't think it needs to go so far as covering your face and hair but only your husband should see what ALL of you looks like. a woman who has an onlyfans automatically disqualifies herself from being with a good partner. trash with trash

[Wraith_Cemetery]

Christians used to be the same way. It's their fault that the rules became a joke to them.

And Orthodox Jews still are like that.

[JacobJordan]

@Wraith_Cemetery quite so. it is also something that morally centered people like myself follow and that is also becoming rarer.

[Wraith_Cemetery]

"if I keep on seeing OFs as a dealbreaker then I have to cross out a LOT of women I meet as potential partners in relationship"

So? I'd gladly cross out all those girls. If there's none remaining then I'd rather be alone with my dignity intact.

[FenixG45]

First, I'm openminded and try very hard NOT to judge people prematurely.

Second, my Ex-wife was an money-loving, abusive b! tch with an MBA & PhD!

Although I don't know anyone who has an OF page, I do have friends who are strippers and hookers!

You would be surprised who these people are! They're are NOT ALL crackwhore golddiggers!

Many of these women are single Moms with limited resources and wanting to get an education. I would be happy to marry any of these honest women!

[Miristheiss]

You trulu have no standards or values that you'd wife up, legally bind your assets and romantic love to a woman who sold her intimacy and body to 100s...1000s of men.
Simps disgust me.
You give men a bad name.

[BCRanger10]

She's selling her body. Or worse, digital copies of it that will be on the internet forever and will be for as long available to satisfy the creepy fantasies of strangers.

The answer is no.

[Anonymous]

Can a woman who works in a supermarket be a loyal girlfriend? She has to be fake to the customers that work there and who knows maybe there could be a guy that works there who’s more appealing to her than what you are?
Onlyfans is a form of work. Women being streamers is a form of work. The end users of onlyfans and the viewers of streams are customers and they are usually lonely men that don’t want to get into shape and approach women or haven’t had that much luck with women or they have no social skills with women so they go onto onlyfans etc and engage in parasocial relationships

If the guy is willing to accept that this is his girlfriends job and she is willing to commit to the guy then there’s no reason why she can’t be a loyal girlfriend

It’s 2023 women can do whatever they want. The main question I think that should be asked is why are men so concerned if a woman gets money from other guys for doing things like sharing spicy pics to lonely men?

[Screenwriter]

OFs includes much more than spicy pics. Women perform sexual acts with toys and objects and masturbate for viewers. I'm sure there's a wide variety of acting out on OF. But it IS sexwork. And it's on-demand sexwork. The OF person performs to requests from viewers, though she has some input. And I suppose she can refuse to do certain requests.

But I bet the most lucrative action comes from the most sexual or bizarre requests. It's no-touch prostitution.

Sure, women can do whatever they want to make money. But don't compare being a cashier at a grocery to being naked performing sexual acts.

The only two things you own completely are your mind and body. It's one thing to give the use of your brain for a few hours a day. But to strip and expose your intimate body parts and act out sexually crosses many boundaries. It violates your personal space and time, and you're performing acts that are naturally involved in love and affection for those you love for strangers who pay you money to "perform", or "ACT" as if you're enjoying yourself, or in love with them.

This is psychologically unhealthy and doing this for a living will impact on a woman's interpersonal feelings about sex with a significant other. This is true for women who are prostitutes. And it's tramatizing because of how physically and psychologically invasive sexwork is.

[Opinion Owner]

@Screenwriter I am allowed to make whatever comparison I wish thank you very much.

The comparison between the supermarket work and only fans is the principle. The woman is being fake for money

I think you’re making generalisations about sex work. It’s not for everyone sure
However if a woman wants to do it - it is her choice and hers alone to make. It’s her body and some of the women on onlyfans say things like “so and so friendly” so in other words they do place limits on what they want to do for the customers

I don’t care if a woman does onlyfans and I think it won’t impact upon her ability to be a loyal girlfriend

[DextroShade]

How much do you spend each month simping on OnlyFans?

[Miristheiss]

This analogy is way off.
Doing sexual things with ANYONE but your committed partner IS CHEATING in and of itself.
Taking off all of your clothes and parading in all sorts of graphic, naked poses, masturbating with a video panel of hundreds of men watching IS CHEATING.

Morally corrupt people will try and defend it and make all of these pathetic attempts at mental gymnastics to excuse it, they'll play loose with language to semantically ok it or make apple and orange comparisons.

NO THEY CANNOT BE LOYAL because performing sex work is sharing their intimacy, body, nakedness in a sexual way with other men that are not her mate.

THAT IS CHEATING.
Case closed. They are already cheaters the moment they try and do sex work while being in a so called "committed" relationship.

[Miristheiss]

Yes, and I'll rightly point out your "comparison" is complete crap, as I pointed out already, that she is already a cheater by sharing her body with other men. If a girl takes off all her clothes, stick a camera between her legs and masturbates and lets 500 pervert men pay her to watch it all and display her body sexually for other men she is already a cheating whore. The "be a loyal girlfriend" is ALREADY out the window.

Only the most perverse, corrupt morals of people could actually try and say that is being "LOYAL".

LOL, what a load of utter crap.

[Opinion Owner]

@Miristheiss so if an actress in a movie is kissing someone else, are they cheating? You guys are so predictable

In your minds relationships act a certain way and that’s totally fine but not everyone shares your view and also a woman can do whatever she wants to do

Not every woman decides to do onlyfans but some do and that’s totally fine

If you don’t want to have a woman doing onlyfans then don’t date one that decides to do it or break up with one if they decide to do it, nobody’s forcing you to stay in these relationships

[Opinion Owner]

@DextroShade here we go with the usual assumptions
Why are you so against a woman being on onlyfans? Why?

[DextroShade]

Because they are ruining themselves and society.

[Miristheiss]

Changing the subject to something else won't save your lame case. Fail.

[EmyyWolf]

Well I wouldn’t date a man who used butt plugs online. For views and money. Or him dressing as a furry online. or him blowing nuts on himself on videos online….

So, the problem is them putting their faces online and if someone recognizes their tattoos. They’ll get exposed.

“HEY YOUR DAUGHTER IS DOING THIS ONLINE”

[molonski2]

When we had the strip club , many of these girls had boyfriends partners , how involved the actual dancing was I'm certain affected many relationships , some girls just did not want sex after doing all this sexual work during the night , for a number it was their sexual outlet.

Now , if Only Fans had been as it is today , they would have all been on it , all of them , stunning , well educated , many were also on seeking arrangement , makes it tough to have a relationship.

[Kaneki05]

Thinking a girl who does OF can't be loyal is equal to that guy who thinks if he subs to a her it will get him a chance at been with her.
Both are delusional.
OF is work nothing more. And I ain't saying all girls who do OF are decent people because of course some won't be, but you can't just judge on them having a OF you would have to get to know them first.

[Strong_Warrior]

“A TON of beautiful, academically smart women whom I have met had OFs.“

They are not smart. They are retarded. I would not even be a friend with a girl who has OF or who search financial slave. Because those women are toxic and misandrist.

[Drumlin2001]

It's possible to do all sorts of things on on onlyfans. There will be some people who only pop balloons, or sit on cakes (clothed), show off their feet. That's all rather harmless. If your naked and masturbating as someone directs you it's a little less palatable. But then it's only online, no real life interaction.

[Anonymous]

Would you class a prostitute as a loyal girlfriend?

They have shown their cards by ending up indoctrinated by the 'education' system into starting adult life drowning in debt because they likely have done a course with zero earning prospects, if it had earning prospects it'd negate the need of OF
Unless they do it for pleasure because of having their ego stroked

[magiusX26]

not likely due to her addiction (need) for attention and validation from outside sources (strangers on the internet) . also, acedimically smart or not, doing OF shows how little she truly values herself or her future/future children. then, if she has actually slept with many, her emotional ability to bond with someone afterwards is lowered a lot. in essencen OF girls create themselves a past that blocks a good future for themselves.

[Pohjolan]

Depends on what you consider loyal. She doesn't necessarily sleep with other men but she is a sex worker and thus more likely to see relationships as purely transactional and is more likely to cheat on him.

Also she has to live the rest of her life knowing that he settled for her because he was unable to find a decent woman.

[Joshydavid25]

She probably could be somewhat of a loyal girlfriend.. In terms of not getting with other guys, but I mean she ain't loyal in that she's making money (or probably not) off of guys beating one to her.. If she had an only fans in the past and is done with it, fine.. But definitely not one to continuously have an Only fans..

[sheikalana]

I doubt. If this is what they do for money imagine what else they’ll do if some guy offers them a decent amount in exchange of anything they want.