I find some men on instagram attractive but my friends said not to dm first. Is dming a man first as a woman actually desperate and embarrassing?

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To be clear these are men who I am mutuals with meaning we are both following each other but I post and they’ve haver shown interest / dmed me first. My friends say I should just wait for a man to message me first but often times they are unattractive to me and generally I don’t get dms at all.

I don’t want to seem desperate or get rejected but I also deep down am desperate, I want an attractive boyfriend and i genuinely don’t believe they’ll (at least these specific men) and possibly other attractive men will message me first. I also don’t want to have to tell my friends if I do dm first I’d look be made fun of.

What should I do, is it worth message first even if I could get embarrassed and rejected?

I find some men on instagram attractive but my friends said not to dm first. Is dming a man first as a woman actually desperate and embarrassing?
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