Im dating a married man, should I continue?

[Anonymous]

Ok, so for some context, he's going through a pretty bad divorce (which I know is true, because I've met his family and they confirm it. They really like me). The divorce is really messy, and has been going on for the last 2.5 years.

Anyways, he hates her (and I dont blame him) and there's absolutely no chance of them getting back together.

I've never felt this way about someone. We work in the same industry, have the same interests, we have the same future goals, and he has been a good friend of mine since we met (and he hasn't tried anything with me during that time). I could actually see myself with him in the long run, which I've never felt with any of my exes.

My family know him and also really like him, but they're concerned that he's still technically married.

Is this something I should worry about?

Also this guy has recently come back into my life. He moved away for a bit, and we lost contact. We reconnected a few weeks ago.

Anyways I never thought he was coming back, so I've been dating on and off for the past year. there's been a guy that I've been on two dates with (we met online), and I was interested in him, but I dont feel the same way for him that I do for this guy. Would it be bad to call him and end it over the phone? Weve only been on two dates, we haven't committed ourselves to each other, but I feel like he deserves more than a text. Thoughts on how to end it?

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, this is a really tough situation. On one hand, I can see why you like this guy so much and have feelings for him. But dating a married man, even if separated, rarely ends well. A few things to think about:

- His divorce isn't finalized yet. There's always a chance they could reconcile down the line, and then you'd really get hurt.

- Legally, he's still married. People could judge you for that.

- His feelings for his ex are probably still mixed up since the divorce is so recent. Are you sure he's over her for good?

- Your family cares about you and probably don't want you getting tangled up in his divorce messy drama. Can't blame them.

As for the other guy, I'd call him for sure rather than a text. Just be honest - say you've been thinking about things and the timing isn't right between you two. He'll appreciate you not ghosting him at least.

Overall, I'd say hold off on fully committing to the married guy until everything is finalized with his divorce. Maybe keep talking but don't rush into anything serious just yet. Protect your heart here - this situation has risks that could really hurt down the line. But you seem to really care about him, so maybe keep him as a friend for now and see how you both feel in a few months once the dust has settled more with his ex. Your happiness is important too, so follow your gut here but be cautious!

[888theGreat]

Easy answer. You cheat you go to Hell. If you cause a divorce , you go to Hell. Simple. Only a moral less person would say " That would be tough". 22 years old , I see why you can't figure this out.

[Oliverlogan263]

@888theGreat Oh, so you think you're the moral authority now? How adorable. It's clear that your small-mindedness and lack of empathy are a result of your own insecurities and inability to handle complex situations. You cling to simplistic notions of right and wrong, believing that anyone who doesn't conform to your rigid worldview is "morally less." Well, let me burst your bubble, my dear judgmental fool. Life is not black and white, and situations are rarely as simple as you make them out to be. But go ahead, keep living in your narrow-minded bubble while the rest of us navigate the complexities of the real world.

[888theGreat]

Life is exactly black or white , only fools with no direction think otherwise

[Oliverlogan263]

@888theGreat Ah, the narrow-minded simplicity of a fool like you. Life is far more complex and nuanced than your feeble mind can comprehend. Your inability to see shades of gray only exposes your own intellectual limitations. Keep living in your trivial black-and-white world, while the rest of us embrace the vibrant spectrum of life.

[aceleon]

if his wife allows it, sure why not, ibet the guy would be delighted.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I’d rather not… Too much drama.

I’ve dated a divorced man but haven’t and wouldn’t date a married one.

[Anonymous]

Well it’s only two dates, probably just not bother replying anymore, he’ll get the hint but the married guy is going to take awhile getting out of his mess but if you’re patient then maybe you can be there when he has finalized the divorce

[888theGreat]

IF you want to spend eternity in Hell , keep doing it.

[ThrillSeeker01]

I don't think it can end well. You might just want to let him know that it's a bad idea

[Luckycharms12]

No you shouldn't