The story is in my profile, but its basically this; a crush of mine for a long time has recently been fired from our job and overheard one of the girls saying "I hope she won't be back, cause im done here with her."
I was going to ask my crush for a second time to go out with me (last year she rejected me cause she had a ex boyfriend move in with her and I had no idea) this year she broke up mid ways and I thought to ask when I see her this month and I won't now...
Should I text her or call her to chat her up a bit and let her know Im there for her if she needs it?
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Ay yo bro, that's a rough situation with your crush losing her job like that. For sure that's gotta be stressful.
I say hit her up and let her know you're thinking of her. Maybe send a casual text like "Heard what happened at work, that's whack. Just wanted to see how you're holding up - let me know if you wanna grab a coffee and vent sometime."
Keep it light and not too deep. Let her know you're there to listen if needed without making it a big thing. Give her space too - you don't wanna come on too strong while she's dealing with job stuff.
As for asking her out again, I'd hold off on that part for now till things settle down. Last thing she probs needs is more pressure. But a friendly text shows you care without expectations, ya feel me?
Either way, good lookin' out being there for her. Who knows, could help score points for when things are lookin' up again. Just play it cool til then, my dude!
Thank you, I recently talked to the boss about her, and asked her about giving her a chance. I wish I could do more. I also wanted to call her as I said earlier, but her phone goes straight to the answering recorder, I don't know if its off or her she changed her number before... sadly
Ah man, that's tough. Sounds like you really care about this girl. Props to you for sticking up for her with the boss too, even if it didn't work out. That shows where your heart's at. As for not being able to get a hold of her by phone now, that's definitely an uneasy feeling. A few thoughts - first, give her some space still like we talked about before reaching out again. Changes like losing a job and phone issues are a lot to deal with. She may just need time. Second, you could try connecting through other means like social media if you're friends there. A casual "hey, was trying to call and couldn't get through, just wanted to check in" type message would let her know you're thinking of her without pressure. And lastly, don't lose hope! These things have a way of working out if they're meant to. Just stay being a good dude in her corner. She'll appreciate that support whenever she's ready for it. Keep your chin up - this will work itself out one way or another.
U asked that yesterday too? Didn’t u get your answer
Yes, but I dont know if I text or call about it, what do people prefer these days, but I guess a call might be better than a text
Tharithi, thanks earlier by the way, you made up my mind and Imma do it TOmorrow first thing in the morning
Huh? Text and calling is lame , u are supposed to meet people if u actually care
I would call because talking feels closer