of any woman who lives relatively local to me that I’ve met in person and have been interested in, I have never been able to get any of them to want to be my girlfriend. And I’m 34. This is ridiculous. I don’t know what the hell I’m doing wrong. I’m not ugly. I’m fairly intelligent. I try to be funny. I don’t get it. I feel cursed. I didn’t kiss anyone until I was 22, and my sexual experience is pretty limited, because I have had reservations about doing things with somebody who might eventually not care about me.
There must be something wrong with me, because I seem to have a complete inability to establish a relationship with somebody?
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Dude, don't be so hard on yourself. Relationships are tough, and it's not always about what's "wrong" with you. A few thoughts:
- Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not others. Focus on self-improvement, not lack.
- Put yourself out there - join clubs, events, apps, etc. to meet people naturally through shared interests. Takes time and numbers.
- Work on confidence without coming on too strong. Believe you have good qualities without needing validation.
- Listen without waiting to talk. Ask questions and remember details to show you care.
- Flirting should be fun, not pressure. Look for easy chemistry over looks or status.
- One rejection isn't failure - keep things casual till interest is mutual. Don't overthink motives.
- Be patient. Right person may not come until you least expect. Work on you meantime.
You'll find someone man. Relationships take luck as much as anything. Keep smiling, stay positive and it'll happen when you stop stressing so much about it. Focus on living your best life - people are drawn to that.
“I have had reservations about doing things with somebody who might eventually not care about me”. Are you sure that you’re not closing yourself off to people who may be interested in you? Are you giving people a chance?