My family (mother and sister) said that there must be something terribly wrong with me because I'm 23 and haven't had a boyfriend yet?

[Anonymous]

Do you think they're right? Just say what you think.

I'm 23 and never had a boyfriend, no sex, nothing past a peck on the lips. Not even a proper romantic kiss.

The problem is my type just isn't common (not saying I'm into "tall and muscular men" only, that's not true at all) but I'm more of an old fashioned type of gal. I've always wanted a "gentleman" whether that sounds silly or not and lookswise he's gotta look manly but neat.

Anyways, please feel free to comment and vote. Thanks!

Yes, they're probably right

No, they're wrong

[Exterminatore]

If your type is the gentlemanly type who is neat and masculine…. in 2023….. it is little surprise you’re still single.


In 2023 there a few who are gentlemen or even care about gentlemanly conduct. To make matters worse society is very much geared towards making soft and effeminate men. As far as dressing neatly…these younger men don’t care for dressing like a proper adult, let alone even ironing the clothes they wear. People go out in pajamas and house slippers now.


Alas, you’d probably sooner find a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow then the type of man you’re looking for. There are a few left, but most have gone the way of the dodo.


I think your fine. Pay no attention to them.

[JustinTheGreat]

They’re wrong. That’s super mean of them to say tbh. 23 is still super young and there’s no rush to commit to any serious relationship right now. You know what you want and you’re waiting to find the person who fits your standards, there’s nothing wrong with that

[Asker]

Well, they think I'm just waiting for the impossible and they may be right. But without chemistry or any sign of interest, I just cannot work. :|
Thank you though. I appreciate the comment.

[linka_pat307]

To me you are still young old but relationship isn't everything for a lady

I think what don't understand is someone without romantic relationship but doing what they love is much happier than those in a relationship

To me relationship drains a lot with sacrifices and leaving probably your dreams with someone because they act they want you and value you

All I can say is stay single as long as you are happy until the right comes when you are independent and can be without him

[PBandJ_Nerd]

There's nothing wrong with you. You're going at your own pace and taking your own time. I haven't dated anyone in RL either and I'm the same age as you are.

[Guy13]

That was uncalled for. Sorry that happened to you. I assume there was fighting soon thereafter.

[Asker]

Yeah but I've tried to not let it hurt me. Still, it did a little and I have been feeling pretty bad about it lately and now it's worse. I dunno what to do.

[Guy13]

Hang in there. I would talk to God, give it to Him, fix it kind of thing.

[OlderAndWiser]

What are you doing to look for a potential partner? Is there some social anxiety causing a problem also?

[Paul09]

Stupidest thing they have ever said? are they religious by any chance? People are so used to being part of a herd. And they follow the herd, Do what they do , or are told to do. You are you, when you are ready, or the time comes , it's all good. Nothing wrong with it. They have something terribly wrong with them. But describe gentleman? Why is it "old fashioned" ? We exist, it's called respectful men. Are you a "gentlewoman"? I'd it a 50\50 type of relationship?

[Asker]

Nono, but they all got experienced very early, especially my sisters.
Old fashioned, I say that usually when it comes to the "who approaches who" and I gotta say I hate online dating and dating apps. I want all to happen in real, in person. :|

[Asker]

I think both have to put in the effort and work together (on the relationship) as one not as individuals.

[zeitgeist057]

Nothing wrong with you. Nothing wrong with going your whole life without a partner or sex. There are so many different possibilities for how a life can go, it's not just one way for everyone and everyone has to follow the same path, nor have the same goals and destinations in mind.

[zeitgeist057]

You can decide for yourself is something is wrong. If you are dissatisfied with the current situation and do nothing to change it, then perhaps something is wrong, or at least could be better in your life. You may need to innovate and try some new approach if you are dissatisfied.

[Lionman95]

No modern dating isn´t easy. It could be hard finding the right person for a long term relationship in certain social scenarios. Like there are jobs or educations situations where it could be hard finding a guy that´s single matching your interests.

[Asker]

Exactly. I'm quite happy when it comes to my job but the lack of young guys in there is just saddening. Most people apparently meet through work. I don't think I'll get lucky this way.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Without knowing anything about your personality, interests, hobbies, habits, diet, looks, comprehension skills, health, etc., I cannot say whether something is or isn't wrong with you, but nothing about what you wrote already is bad.

Stay picky, wait for the right one.

[Adam1978]

Well feminism killed gentlemens so unless you seriously go up in age bracket, you won't find them. So you are looking for water in a desert without digging. So that what wrong with your choices. You might want something but if the environment around you is hostile against what you try to find. You will have to really look if you want to find what hasn't been killed.

[Asker]

How to look for it and find it though? I've tried dating apps but that was a big fail.

[Adam1978]

Yeah you wouldn't get anywhere on a dating site as a gentleman. That's a numbers game leveled up to the extreme. No one wouldn't notice the gentleman among all the pm from all other guys trying to get your attention. So if they enter they eventually quit or become like the rest.

[Hassan_8]

They are wrong, It's not a target you have to accomplish

If you meet someone you like then you'll like being with him it's as simple as that.

[Anonymous]

I'm over 40 and never had a girlfriend. Girl, it's not a problem unless you are ACTIVELY avoiding it. We connect to who we connect to when we connect to them. What's normal for one person isn't normal for everybody else. Don't worry about it unless you truly feel you have issues connecting with people.

[Darrelyn]

I don't think there's any thing wrong with you, I Am 22 and I never dated also. You just have your own standard and it's okay.

[KittyKat90210]

Not at all. I don't think it's fair of them to say that. You haven't met someone you want as a boyfriend and there's nothing wrong with that.

[AydenHazor]

There is nothing wrong with you for having standards. Stay true to yourself! Your self with has nothing to do with whether you date or who you date, you are already fully complete and whole just by being fully you.

[Brando10222]

They are not right at all. Don't listen to that bullshit

[Anonymous]

You're asking all the wrong questions. Your families comments are low vibrational and makes me wonder if there is some kind of generational curse at work...

[jjj101010]

It’s not strange. Happy to talk about my personal experience if that helps, drop me a message

[jjj101010]

If u can’t message then just follow me and I’ll message u

[DarkWinterNights]

You either aren’t looking very hard, are too shy or your standards are too high. There is such an extremely high demand for traditional women that guys are literally leaving the West to find them.

[Asker]

It's different here. I'm from Czechia.\
I don't know how "better" to look. My type is just rare and when I finally meet someone like that I usually forget how to act and how to do anything. I would even make a first move.
I'm just doomed I guess. They were right.

[Iron_Man]

That’s ridiculous you’re young yet

[msc545]

There is more to this than you are saying. Say the rest of it.

[Asker]

There's no rest to it. I've summed it up completely. I've told you about the situation, and about the no boyfriend and my preferences. What more can I tell.

[cloud9vortex1234]

Gentlemen seem to be rare these days.

[cloud9vortex1234]

Do you go to Church?

[Asker]

Nooo. I'm an atheist.

[cloud9vortex1234]

I trying to suggest a way to find a gentlemen, but it looks like that's not going to work. Those are Good
Guys, but your like Half a Century too late. I recommend just putting yourself out there and not looking for any one guy and allowing your heart to dictate your love of a guy with your head not too far behind. If your heart gets too far ahead of your head then that's when women can get in trouble with the wrong guys. Once you start to slowly realize a guy is Good Guy then it becomes easier to relax and then your heart can start to take over even more.

[Anonymous]

Start worrying about it past 25

[Cheerfull009]

Yes, they are right

[misogynistic_pig]

Yes.