Was he actually serious about a relationship or wanted to get laid?

[Anonymous]

So I met this guy on a dating app. We went on 4 dates and date 5 is when we had sex

He asked me out first, we had dinner. The date went fine, a day later he messages me again asking for a second date and we went to another restaurant and the date went well. He then booked a third date and the date went OK... he said he wants to be alone with me next time lol

I noticed after this he wasn't speaking to me as much, when i asked him, he told me that he gets signs from me that Im not interested in him... This is because he is a man and I expect men to be chasing the woman

Initially we had a fourth date which i planned, it was at an amusement park. After the date he told me that he doesn't know whether he is serious about me anymore as I keep myself away from him, i act weird in public by calling him a creep in front of people and he doesn't like that

A week later, when he refused anymore dates, I then told him, fine lets meet at yours as I wanted to have sex with him and I was desperate as I was very attracted to him, he was refusing me for sex too 😂

I then went to his place and apologised to him for my behaviour, he kept saying "Don't worry, its all fine" and he kissed me

He couldn't get hard on me at all, he kept saying it takes time and Im inexperienced etc... when i said he has a small willy he was about to throw me out

He then calmed down and it was around 3am he woke me up as he was hard and we had sex

The morning came and he told me that i dont have any good vibe in me..

He dumped me by text a day later when i was at home

My question is, was he actually serious about a relationship?

Updates

4 mo

He has blocked me straight after dumping me saying that Im rude, disrespectful and don't understand

Okay, so blocking somebody straight away isn't rude?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, that whole situation sounds messy. Here's what I'm thinking:

- It definitely seems like he was kind of half-assing this from the start if he was flip-flopping so much on whether he was interested.

- Telling you that you weren't putting out the "right vibes" seems like bullshit. More like he just wanted to hook up.

- Getting upset when you called him out for being small is a major red flag. He shouldn't have taken his issues out on you.

- Bailing via text the next day is such a coward move. That's not how you treat someone you actually care about.

Honestly it sounds to me like he was never that serious about an actual relationship. He just wanted to get in your pants with minimum effort. The way he kept making you chase him and then ditched you so fast points to him not being interested long term. You can do way better than that dude, trust me! His problem, not yours. Don't waste any more time worrying about what he thought - just be glad you found out his true colors now before getting more invested.

[MrCommodore]

Sounds like he just wanted sex with you, there were probably signs in the earlier sates from what you describe.

[Asker]

He told me the first, second and third time he is 1000% serious about me
I know i insulted him and acted weird out in public hence he dumped me

Its sad but he seemed serious until that

[MrCommodore]

No the clues were in the earlier dates when he questioned whether you liked him or whatever. He was pushing for sex and was getting frustrated that dates were dragging on and it wasn't happening. He probably expected sex by 2nd or 3rd date. A guy who genuinely likes you wouldn't care how long it is until sex

[Anonymous]

I just prayed for you because living in this way will never lead to true happiness, contentment or peace. May God bless you.

[getwiththepg]

How audible was it when you called him a creep? Like mad people looked at you guys? Not smart

[KrakenAttackin]

😂😂😂😂. You two were made for each other.