Does he really want to have a serious relationship?

[Anonymous]

we've been dating for about 2months. He said he is looking for serious relationship and he shows quite a lot of signs that he's into me (I think) He told me he feels there's chemistry between us. I found him always staring at me and when I gaze back, he will smile. He shows affections even in the public. He wanted to have sex with me but i rejected. i dont want casual sex/ hook up. So I told him not until he's actually my "Boyfriend". He respects me, we still go on dates and sometimes cuddle at his place. I know 2 months maybe too short to get into a relationship, but sometimes he will bring up the convo that he wants to find a girl to settle with. which confuses me. Does he really likes me? Or he's just player?

[Truthatanycost]

If he does, he's unwise. How will a serious relationship serve him? Assuming he's a similar age, he needs to know why he's here, what he was born to do, his life purpose, become financially independent and financially free. Get in control of his health, wealth, wisdom and so much more. How will a serious relationship with you help with any of that? You are asking all of the wrong questions.

What often happens is a young man is led by his sex drive, gets involved with a serious relationship and then expends time and energy on this, as opposed to becoming the man he needs to be. Instead of thinking about your needs, perhaps think bigger... think big enough for the both of you.

[ManOnFire]

I do not believe he truly wants a relationship, no. I think he's a young guy who is confusing his hormones or desires for sex with the sparkly fascination he has with you and feels like it should be a relationship. Two months is not nearly long enough to get to know a person before feeling like you want a relationship with them. It's better to grow together more on a neutral level first.

[Guy13]

Doesn’t seem committed

[CanadianLearner]

How many times have you seen each other in 2 months?

I have a hunch that you might be too structured/rigid, not going with the flow of your feelings.

As for a relationship 2 months in, if you aren't feeling that (notice the word 'feeling' instead of 'thinking'), then don't do it.

There's additional pressure put onto the label of relationship, given that you made it clear you won't sleep with him until then.
That could be part of the source of your uncertainity.

[Summeroflove]

I think you should wait until marriage to have sex. A guy only wanting sex won’t wait until then.


If he respects your boundaries on that. Probably

[Luckycharms12]

He around for 2 months. So ya he in to you otherwise he be gone by now

[dustybiker]

It sounds promising.

[artsy_dragon]

Not sure