Why do women suddenly switch up on a person?

[Anonymous]

I went out this girl and we had a pretty good time laugh, joked, etc. We really got to know each other. Then we went out again and also had a great time the thing I don't get is that she is a dry texter but holds a conversation in person. Then I tried to set up more in-person hangouts and suddenly started to be too busy and Ignored me. Why do women do such things when I see based on interactions we had we are going in a great direction?

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

Some people are just more in person. It depends on one’s communication style or how much they communicate. I’m wary of people that don’t text, in my personal experience they’re usually gaslighters that run from accountability. It depends though. Most plausible reasons:

overstimulation.

if she’s not feeling there’s much effort on your part. Were you asking her out last minute or a day before? Then you’re calling them hangouts, rather than planned dates. I’m thinking she thinks you’ve put her in the friend zone and she’s talking to other people.

She doesn’t know what you want from her. Figure out your end-goal/intentions with her. Are you actually looking for a dating relationship; or looking someone to share certain experiences with (platonically)?

It might’ve been a boredom thing. Some people are annoying with that.

maybe you said or did something she didn’t vibe with. Rather than confront that some people avoid.

Now, you can either try and have a conversation about it or just leave it alone. That depends on how much you like her and feel like you want to get to know each other. Two outings and barely any conversation between. Talking in depth once isn’t really getting to know someone. That’s just scraping the surface of possible idea of them. What you described sounds like a “check-list”, I know you only get 2,000 characters to ask but did she say anything meaningful or what would make you want to talk to her further?

[MissStrawberry912]

Well it’s not black and white, but it can be multiple things w/o knowing the details….
1) she’s scare and not ready for a relationship 2) she met someone else she connect more or looking for 3) she was vibing but maybe realized something was lacking or not what she was looking for 4) she was still testing the water and realized it’s not what she’s looking for or she couldn’t feel the connection/spark 5) she might’ve had been too busy with life… and not able to date anymore that goes back to either bad timing or non commitment issues.

I would suggest asking what happened because I don’t think it will hurt to ask if you truly wanna have an open conversation… I’ve cancelled on dates or didn’t wanna continue… and had guys asked me before. I do feel bad but I was honest and wanted to give closure/not mislead. But just know you gotta be accepting and respectful of her answer. Or sometimes we will never know and just have to move on…

[AnusNdaPainus]

First off I’m a dry texter also but that’s because I was raised in the countryside for most of my adolescence I didn’t have phones or video games or anything

second if she is pretty decent looking and in your age group she probably has a few other guys trying to get with her ( it doesn’t make her a slut or anything she’s just exercising options )

lastly I don’t really know because I feel like I don’t give guys good enough advice because I’m not too horrible looking so I don’t have a lot of trouble attracting women

final thoughts try exercising your options also don’t get too attached to one woman especially when she isn’t reciprocating your feelings - Women need to earn affection don’t sell yourself cheap

[ManOnFire]

A lot of women get excited on a date if you're making her feel good with jokes and conversations and all. But later on when the date is over and they're by themselves, the high wears off and they're no longer interested.

Also, the joking and laughing and seeming like she was enjoying herself can be a pretense. Sometimes women just fake it instead of being real with you and saying they're not feeling it.

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

Sometimes you can do everything right and still be wrong. As you are probably well aware, girls are inundated with attention from every direction: coworkers, online, neighbors, etc. I was just reading a response on this website (Why are guys on Reddit lovebombing me?) where a girl was bragging about the attention she got from having a pickle pfp. So, if and likely when someone better comes along in whatever metric that matters to her present self, she will and did risk what you had for the promise of something better. Its a hard learned lesson most arrive at, but you have to understand you are mr. here and now, not mr. here and forever.

Reflect on what you learned, why she left, and get better in every direction - make her regret moving on and never take her back that is my advice to you.

[IslaTheWitch]

Not women, just one girl.

And as we don't know her, so, you have better chances of learning it, just by asking her :D

The only people I ignore are kids swarming my DMs...

[bunbunbunny]

I think most women ditch guys they think are ugly and that isn’t wrong. If they didn’t click it’s not her fault in my opinion

[IslaTheWitch]

@bunbunbunny I doubt it's about the appearance...

[lightbulb27]

Give it a full hormonal cycle fella...

ya never know do ya... that's the hard part...

Imagine for a moment, you went from being a testosterone driven Hulk into pee wee herman and then rotated back again. It messes with your view of things, ya know? Women... their hormones swing like that... some of em... at various times... so you gotta roll with it.

[Anonymous]

It might be you not giving her what she needs,

I liked a man and he was reserved, inattentive, flirted with other girls, didn’t show any progress of opening up to me, didn’t show actions of liking me back, other than just saying he did.

I went out to date someone else, not because I didn’t like him, I did like him, but I didn’t want to grow to like someone a lot and have my heart broken again.

So, try to think about your behavior.

[JHAYES317]

You have to be clear with men what you need though we aren’t mind readers

[bunbunbunny]

Coming from a woman, I’ve gone on several dates after talking online for a while. There’s been numerous times where the guy I was talking to just didn’t look up to par (not to be mean but just generally not that attractive). I often go on a few more dates after the initial one as I’m a very empathetic person and don’t like rejecting people. It’s possible you may have felt the click and she didn’t. Is she significantly more attractive than you?

[JHAYES317]

Women are delusional when it comes to attractiveness though…they think like 80% of guys are ugly and tons of obese chicks think they are 7s or some shit while objectively they are like a 3 because they are 50 lbs overweight…

[systemsareyo]

I've been stood up before despite a long chat and even a call. Go figure my man, humans are just that, humans. So in the end, I just tend to be a fairly flippant non serious guy. In other words, I don't dwell, I move on and I go with the flow like that John Candy guy in that movie about Thanksgiving lol l👌😁

[AutumnSerenity]

When it’s this early (dating stage) it’s usually because she didn’t find you attractive enough (could be physical or personality or both). In any case she should’ve been honest with you instead of ghosting you.

[rosemilk]

isn't that what dating is about? she can have a great time and you all can get along, but maybe she's still dating around. don't take it too personally

[ProbablyClueless]

Sometimes people get caught off guard on dates, and they respond to that discomfort by pushing the person away. Other times, the person genuinely had a great time on the date, but they never intended to pursue the connection further.

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe she got back together with her ex. Or she didn’t like hanging out in person as much as you did.

[RageBabe]

She's just one woman out of billions of us, but it sounds like a lack of compatibility.

[Anonymous]

I've ghosted before and essentially it is avoidance and I've been dating multiple men whilst dating the guy I decide to ghost. Basically I didn't respect you enough to tell you to you directly.

[Thestupidusername]

Cause she is a clown pussy. 99% of humans are.

[milesy67]

Chances are something happened outside of your control, there was another guy, or there was a misunderstanding between you and her.

[worldscolide]

Dude its not all women.. Just her. Some are flakes. Some are not. Most are not honestly.

[KittygosMeoWW]

She’s not that into you after meeting you in person

[KrakenAttackin]

She just wanted a free meal and to add you to her friend zone roster.

[bunbunbunny]

Or maybe she just didn’t feel the same way? Don’t blame her they’re could have been tons of reasons, maybe op was ugly

[kingmaker21]

Because you make her laugh so she thinks she dating a joker...

[Anonymous]

Ugh, another person that thinks texting is a real form of communication. Sad.

[Booklover_90]

Perhaps she’s truly busy.

[KrakenAttackin]

@Booklover_90 We make time for those we care about.