What do you think is wrong or is ruining today’s dating scene?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Social media definitely played a big part on ruining relationships , for a lot of reasons , mainly feeding most peoples’ minds with mostly bullshit advice and allowing us people to easily enter into each others lives with just our finger finger tips, Most people Today are glued to their phones and don’t look at the world around them , they constantly compare their lives to others’ and think grass is greener on the other side , people aren’t as content and satisfied these days because most people choose selfishness over giving , most people Want more than what they have right in front front of them. Before social media apps was really a thing , most people valued each other more and cherished each other more , People valued marriages more , nowadays divorce rates are higher than marriage rates. People rather live their lives threw fantasy instead of reality. And sadly believe most the shit they read or hear about , technology is destroying the foundation of old school relationships by opening up so many doors of options, and opportunities. Most People have a harder time trusting each other and valuing each other , and sadly , it’s just going to get worse sadly to say , marriage will probably be a thing of the past once we allow technology to keep advancing and controlling our lives , people will be screwing robots over screwing each other because it will be safer to do and people won’t have to worry about STD’s etc. people are sadly loving themselves more than actually loving someone else. It’s our way or no way selfish mindsets , Love will never grow between 2 people
If you both don’t know how to remove selfishness for each other. Mark my words

Lliam · Accepted Answer

Too many men just want to have sex and aren't interested in relationships. That leads to a lot of women being afraid of men's intentions.

Also, on-line "experts" giving terrible advice about what constitutes "high value". They act like "average" (anything short of movie star) is substandard. You are "settling" to chose someone who is average. And being a gentleman is "simping".

Dating sites themselves. Instead of meeting a nice, attractive person at work, school, or by accident, and then going on dates, forming a connection, and eventually falling in love, people, especially women, form the most unrealistic standards and swipe on hundreds and hundreds on on-line bios from around the world in search of a unicorn.

Social media has impaired people's ability, and even desire, to interact with real people in the real world. They can't read body language or converse.

Little_Bumblebee · Accepted Answer

Dating apps has been a huge hit. Sure, the few have found a great partner that way (my brother found his wife) But damn, why use an app to find someone, when it literally gets profit from people using it...

Other than that.
People not being honest with what they need or want.
People not reflecting on themselves or work on themselves.
People not working through the hurt from previous relationships and then they turn around to hurt the next one.

Those are some of it

Siri137 · Accepted Answer

Reliance upon social media, rather than... you know - going out into the  real  world and meeting  real  people. Anyone can present themselves in any manner they choose online, and how is anyone to know? Deception and fraud are everywhere (so I've heard).

JacobJordan · Answer

So many things. Casual sex, hookups, "friends with benefits" (the irony of that one) some women making a very bad name for all women because of how vocally awful they are. Some men doing the same thing. Marriage not being the sacred bond complete with "until death do us part" now it is just "until I am unhappy then I am leaving and taking half your shit" then we have the trans people insisting that you or I as a heterosexual male are being "transphobic" because we are not okay to be in a relationship with a man who pretends he's a woman. That is a short list as there are many many more

SotiCoto · Answer

We're living in an age where anyone can communicate with anyone else in the world instantly, and people tend to have what they regard as hundreds of millions of dating potentials. So they treat any given one as completely disposable... and when people treat each other as disposable from the start, there is very little chance of anything meaningful ever coming from it...

BUT to make things even worse, people also lie to each other. They falsely represent themselves with altered pictures or random AI images. Many even ARE just bots or scams to steal money. Others issue unrealistic demands and antagonise each other.

There is quite simply no potential for trust online... and since the Covid epidemic, people are even less prone to going outside to socialise.

With any luck the human population will start plummeting soon.

Anonymous · Answer

everything , girls are too picky , don't really date around much and few guys meet there standards so its like impossible to even get anywhere with some of them. i get it that girls want guys with a good job who is good looking but in reality not every guy has a high paying job and a hot body. and what does this have to do with if we'd enjoy spending time together? just cause i have less money does that mean i'm less interesting or less fun to be around? a lot of fun activities don't even require money

hotwheelz78 · Answer

THIS "GIRL POWER, THEY CAN DO ANYTHING WE CAN DO" MOVEMENT. THERE'S A BOOK CALLED "WHY YOU DESERVE MORE AND SHE DESERVES LESS" THAT EXPLAINS THIS IN DETAILI HAVE IT ON AUDIOBOOK.. (AUDIBLE). THIS SO CALLED WOMEN'S RIGHTS MOVEMENT IS DESTROYING EVERYTHING WE KNOW ABOUT GENDER DIFFERENCES AND DATING... WOMEN ARE SOOO GUNG HO ON DOING EVERYTHING MEN DO THAT THEY FORGOT...**WE ARE EQUAL, YES, BUT DIFFERENT"... MEN ARE NOT ALLOWED TO BE MEN ANYMORE.. IT'S LITERALLY CALLED "TOXIC MASCULINITY" JUST TO BE A MAN.. WERE NOT ALLOWED TO MAKE DECISIONS, TAKE CHARGE, ASK WOMEN OUT.. IT'S INSANE!!!

OGname2 · Answer

I haven't been in the dating scene for ages, but it seems like an actual nightmare.

The way people use dating apps and don't give a person a chance unless they tick every box. I am convinced the people who seem good on paper aren't necessarily the ones that'll be compatible.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I think this stuff has always been an issue but more so now than before. Hookup culture. Plastic Surgery. Get rich quick through social media and crypto currency schemes. Smart technology (smart homes, cars, and other shit that will backfire and takeover us one day). Jobs thinking they’re too good for you and that you’re disposable/replaceable when really its the other way around.

LiamJHayden · Answer

1. Lack of socializing by people who grew up disconnected from others due to immersion in technology.
2. Guys believing nonsense like 80%/20% or 90%/10%.
3. Unrealistic expectations by many, many people.
4. Complete fear of rejection by many.
5. Wasting weeks and months planning for one, only to be shot down and going on to hate "all."

MissStrawberry912 · Answer

Normalizing ghosting > honesty & open conversations
Easily referring to almost anything as “red flags”
Battle of genders
Not intentional / authentic
easy sex or intent for casual > meaningful dates / relationships

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I think people just have a hysterically inflated sense of their own romantic options/dating market value, and they let their friends call the shots in their relationships.

There are very few people on Earth who are as hateful and intolerant as a mildly attractive woman who has axe to grind.

Anonymous · Answer

Dating apps. Too many fake photos, fake personalities, and lies told on apps. People need to actually meet people in person and get to know them rather than rely on some fake resume about a person that anyone can lie on.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Unrealistic expectations set on by social media, porn, and happily ever after movies. Even if two people have a connection, if one person does one thing the other doesn't like, they are done..

Anonymous · Answer

The ILLUSION of too many options.

A 150 years ago your avg. Petson never went further than 50 miles from home in thier entire lifetime. This means the person they married they probably new well. So thier pool to choose from was small. Today you click a button and you can talk to someone on the other side of the planet. This has given the impression that thier pool is 4 billion. And so they looking for that needle in a haystack. And when they find it. Odds are it won't work.🤣

Nikki1989 · Answer

Terrible online advice and social media. This site is a perfect example.

robhazelnut · Answer

Money-printing for primarily war, excessively restricting businesses and partisan, if not bribed, courts. It all serves malthusian population reduction.

slatyb · Answer

In the US? Economics -- low working class wages and outrageously expensive housing. Dating is fine for employed men with degrees. It's hell for men struggling to make a living wage.

AutumnSerenity · Answer

Probably a mixture of social media and body standards sprinkled with a dash of misogyny and feminism.

turnpost · Answer

You wasting your time on this website asking why half of society struggles to get laid.

Like did you think this was an original question. Not enough burpees. Not enough plates bra... we need the fitness

NathanDavis · Answer

not my dating scene... that of others... is not on me

nawtee_me · Answer

Not enough spankings… people not being taught right from wrong. Lying about who they are on apps instead of being who they really are in person. Listening to social media instead of thinking for themselves.

sheikalana · Answer

Online dating and social media make people think they have lots of options hence it makes people think everyone is disposable.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

I'll tell you what is wrong CATHOLIC people 🙄

Guido · Answer

Social media has ruined dating and hampered relationships.

TheeTrybrid · Answer

Men competing with women Women thinking men should buy them a house

Enginn · Answer

Girls with high expectations who can't keep their cool. Cold people.

DSan09 · Answer

I believe we are killing masculine energy

Exterminatore · Answer

There’s people in the scene. That’s the problem.

Anonymous · Answer

Use of online dating apps

DextroShade · Answer

Feminism and social media.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

80% of women chasing the top 5% of men.

DreamLife7 · Answer

Men..

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