always see this cute guy around and I’m friendly and flirty with him. I didn’t feel any interest coming from him. Surprisingly, he asked for my number. He didn’t text me until almost 3 days later. He seems very aloof and disinterested when texting me, taking up to 8 hours to respond back. He lets the conversation die. I text him again a few days later, he promptly asks me on a date. I’m surprised because I’m sure he’s not that interested. We go on the date and he seems pretty shy and nervous. I have no idea what’s going on in his head.
He calls me later that night and arranged another date. We went out about 6 times, he was very physically affectionate, liked to kiss and make out a lot. I held his hand often. He’d ask me on a date everytime i texted him to check in. But he never really texted me first. I am starting to get really tired of his nonchalant attitude, trying to figure out his intentions. I confront him, he says he understands how I feel and we should stop seeing each other. ?
He said he doesn’t feel anything for me, he doesn’t think about me when I’m not there, and that I’m out of sight, out of mind for him. I’m a little stunned. He says he wants to end things but we can still “hang out” sometimes. He’s never even pushed for sex. He doesn’t attempt to hang out and in fact dodges hanging out with me. I wonder if I’ve done something to make him so avoidant of me. He seems to avoid me like the plague. He says it’s nothing I did, it’s him (yeah ok ) and then he completely stops contacting me and starts ignoring my existence in public. What was the point? Like I said, he never pushed for sex. I told him if he wanted to be friends he could have began with that and I would have been fine but now it’s super awkward and I don’t know what just happened.
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I can give a unique perspective. I like being intimate with someone, physical touch is my love language and this is entirely exclusive of sex, sex is it's own thing. I love to hold hands, cuddle, making out, being present with someone on that level. The same goes for having a nice date with someone. I like all of that. But, I don't want to be hurt, or hurt anyone. I don't want to do anything that is a commitment. I'm not a good catch anymore, I'm not a sociable person and don't really have a positive direction in life socially. I will be a loner and that's just accepting the reality of my personality type. Relationships don't last either from mismatching on their part or myself knowing I won't be enough long term. So that is why I distance myself from going further in a relationship. Maybe he's similar or just not sure what he wants in life and doesn't want to figure it out at the expense of you or someone else.