Can't relax on dates without alcohol?

Anonymous

The first date didn't exactly go to plan, it wasn't the instant connection I wanted but we connected over text so i put in the effort. On date 2 at first I found eye contact awkward and the conversation difficult but after a drink or two (I don't drink very often) I opened up and was enjoying myself. Im an introvert and a bit socially awkward so the drinks definitely made it easier. I found hugging easier too, was very open to kissing if we got to that point. But we didn't.

I came home buzzing about it and feeling like the next date Id be confident to do anything. Now it's the third date, were going on the 4th aswell this week and I really want a repeat of last time, drinking and talking but he says he wants a bit of a change of scenery. Do I compromise, cinema then drinks, or drinks then cinema? Or do I just see how it goes sober? Also any drinking date idea that are different from just the pub?

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4 mo
An update: I'm not dependent on it, I rarely drink, I'm just not confident in social situations. I wouldn't drink the entire relationship because things will be comfortable when we get used to each other. But if I didn't for the first date or two there would be no physical progression because I'm too shy and nervous about it to actually enjoy it. Plus I'm not physically experienced at all making it more difficult.
Can't relax on dates without alcohol?
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