I’m 22 and I’ve never had a boyfriend before, or ever been on a date or asked out, I’m starting to lose hope and something wrong with me?

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The simplest way to put it is that, I’ve been single since the day I was born. Throughout high school, I never had someone say that they liked me. I was basically lonely throughout my senior year. Neve kissed or went on a date with someone. But I always thought that maybe when I went to college I would meet someone. But sadly that’s never happened, just felt like high school all over again. I’ve had guys tell me that they were interested in me, but they never really meant it. I’ve always hoped that maybe this year someone will be out there for me, but I’ve kept hoping that for 22 years and nothing has come true. And what’s sad is that, I can remember growing up how I planned my dream wedding dress, and a place to get married at. I always wanted to be a mother as well. Every time I see girls my age in a relationship, it just makes me feel like I’m no the only one with nobody. There are times when I would be in a room full of couples and I was the only one with no one. And I get my mom doesn’t want me to be by myself for the rest of my life. But it just seems like that’s how it going to be. I’m really losing hope that there is someone out there for me and I’m just to the point where I don’t want to try anymore.

bobalife · Accepted Answer

:( oh no, you’re still so young at age 22 to feel this way… honestly you’re at the age where you’re identifying who you are, forming more dating/relationships, and on the road to adulting. I think you’re being too hard on yourself sis… I know people don’t think this way, but I believe love can happen anywhere at anytime. Not sure of your backstory, but try to be more approachable with your body language and interactions when you’re in public and social events. Depends on your interests & social gathering is key to meeting new people. I hope you know, you still have a whole life to discover and live. The right person will come to you at the right time and place I’m sure. You can’t really force what the universe has in plans for you. I think it’s normal to feel disappointed and the feeling when guys don’t actually wanna know us for us but only our bodies when we want something meaningful. Just know you dodge a lot of bullets. Now focus on the ones who wants to get to know you and connect with you deeper when that time does come :) everyone has their own time and journey. I know a few people who didn’t get a relationship until later and they actually ended up marrying the person lol. Best of luck, stay positive, take it easy on yourself, and be more open to opportunities ahead!

DevikaButts95 · Accepted Answer

No there's nothing wrong with you. It's pretty common for women to not have had a boyfriend by 22. Most of the women who date early end up in shitty relationships with fuckbois anyways.
My advice, YOU ask out the guys you're interested in. Would help alleviate some of the stress put on men, as you probably had a multitude of men interested in you to some degree that feared asking you out for one reason or another.

DarkWinterNights · Accepted Answer

I don’t think there is anything particularly wrong with you. Your pfp looks attractive enough, so barring any severely bad personality traits you sound like the silent majority of Gen Z. Socially invisible, born at the wrong time, graduating and becoming an adult during some of the most politically charged times with drastic social and gender changes, and the added bonus of online dating going mainstream.
If it makes you feel better, you’re basically already in the majority for both men and women within the next 5 or so years. But as bad as things look, this too shall pass. It sounds like you go to church, which is hands down going to be the best place to meet a decent guy that shares your values and beliefs.
You may also consider being a little more forward with guys you find attractive. You don’t have to ask them out directly, but just being social and introducing yourself can lead to good conversations and open up yourself for guys to feel more comfortable asking you out.

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Ayo nah don't lose hope sis, you still got time. So what if it ain't happened yet, everybody moves at they own pace ya feel me? Just cuz you ain't had a date don't mean somethin wrong with you.

Lotta girls be chasin the wrong dudes and end up hurt, maybe you just ain't met the right one yet. And these college boys be clownin sometimes too, don't take they empty words serious.

You sound like you got ya head on straight, you gonna find someone who sees how special you are for real. Till then just do you and have fun with ya girls. The right dude will come around when you least expect it, that's how it works sometimes.

But I feel you, it's hard always seein couples and feelin left out. Just remember though, you complete by yaself already - no man gonna fill no holes in ya heart, feel me? Keep ya head up sis, ya time comin!

Avicenna · Answer

Well, I would suggest starting with what makes you a great potential partner. What are your best traits?

Anonymous · Answer

💔 I truly understand you. I told my dad "I am as the day I was born" . I don't think people understand how tough it is. On the bright side you are a high value woman and it's not easy because there are so much fools out there 🤦‍♂️.

I on the other hand avoided girls for educational reasons and some of them really loved me. Now I attract women but they don't love me 😐 .

I'll pray for you. Just know that God loves you and does not want to see you get hurt. You're lonely , I know how that feels especially when you deserve all the love you can get. I don't think you've given up because if you're bringing it up it means that this bothers you. The thing that bothers me is that it feels like the longer I am without someone the more I lose touch with parts of me needed for a relationship. I'll make it a thing to pray every night for people like you to feel better and that they may meet their kinda perfect. As for myself I am going to hang in there as I still need to do some things for myself.

sawno · Answer

Alright assuming the girl in your avatar is you its not your looks. But I did notice two reasons your single in the replies.

1. You are softspoken.

2. You don't approach guys.

So ask yourself this, if guys aren't noticing you are you going to play by some made up rule that girls don't approach guys hoping you eventually maybe get noticed? Or are you going to approach the guy you want and at least be noticed.

Interstate · Answer

There is a Supreme being that determines if we date and marry. I get angry with God everyday for committing me to single life.

The most you can do is to make the best of your life everyday. But being as how the world is anymore, it is probably best that we are single. The dating world in particular is cutthroat, and it tends to cause more harm than good.

abc3643 · Answer

Well, you are not unattractive, so that's not the problem.

Tell us about your current life and let's see what we can do so you can meet a decent guy and find love.

If you want, you can PM me. (Although, I am not sure you can yet; if you want me to PM you first, I can.)

Drumlin2001 · Answer

22. That's nothing. I was in similar position till I was 35.
Only advice i can give from my experience, don't sit back and think something will change. You need to be proactive, try new things, meet new people. Really should search as to why and address things head on. Have you ever tried being the one to ask someone else out?

exitseven · Answer

My heart sort of breaks for you because I was the same way. I finally did find somebody when I was 19. It lasted a few years and after we broke up I met my future wife. I know people tell you this all the time but you have to be positive and go out and meet people. Try and be the best version of yourself. Participate in activities and try and be confident.

Staximus · Answer

You said you don't want to try anymore but you probably haven't tried much. You don't have to throw yourself at guys, you just have to show that you're attracted to them. If you don't show any attraction to a guy, he's going to think you're not interested in being more than just friends. We're not going to read your mind.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Try flirting back with the next guy you find attractive who says he’s interested in you

Alex-Snow · Answer

When u least expect it you will meet a wonderful guy. Just be yourself, show interest in others, smile and make good eye contact. It is the person inside the body that counts.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Why would guys want body pics if they can see you irl?

Anonymous · Answer

If that's your picture than you don't have an appearance problem. I would think its just a matter of you being shy or something.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel the same way as you. I've honestly just gotten used to pleasuring myself.

Anonymous · Answer

No. You're just emotionally unavailable.

Anonymous · Answer

Start worrying past 25

I’m 22 and I’ve never had a boyfriend before, or ever been on a date or asked out, I’m starting to lose hope and something wrong with me?

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