I feel bad about it but whenever I see a man who doesn't specify his height, I swipe away. Asking someone for their height just feels disrespectful.
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Is it rude to ask for a person's height on Tinder?
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If you don't mind them asking your weight... or "body count," or measurements, then ok... (though you could change your weight easier than he could change his height, and you could easily lie about body count). It's kind of like asking his income at this stage of the game. Yeah, eventually you should know if you continue to date or want to get serious, but at this point, if he can pay for a date, and can look halfway decent (not old grubby clothes), then he probably has a decent income. There wouldn't be a second date if the woman asked my income first date.
I would be honest on height, but not expect her to bother with me after I gave it (I am under 6'0), so it'd weed a lot of girls out, which makes it easier for me. I might even consider lying and saying I was shorter than I am just to see if it's that much of a problem. If it is, then I'm not wasting my time.
If you don't mind the weight question, or how many have you slept with question and you give an honest answer, then it's ok to ask for height.
Unless you're asking for the height of his dick, then it's a stupid question to ask.
Are you the sort of moron that thinks a good relationship relies on such things?
He doesn't see an issue with it, and is filtering out girls like you that do. He probably won't be interested in you anyway if that's going to be your first question. Or maybe they are hoping that will be your icebreaker.
It is very likely for me to meet him in person and realise then that I'm a lot taller than him. That situation is awkward asf so yeah, I'd much rather get the conversation out of the way first
No you certainly even even tho it's a bit pointless you will see when you meet them unless you don't want to give someone a chance because of the height even tho you could be a perfect match 🤷🏻♀️ also guys who have their height written in the bio are of putting to me like okay chad what a flex that you're 6.3
I think it’s okay to ask after getting know each abit more, but I don’t think you should swipe left just because it wasn’t specify in their bio since you might missed on good opportunities
And i was so often asked about my hight on dating Apps, it really lowered my self esteem. So i think its best to see if your personality fits together and once you find one where it does, the body doesn't matter anyway.
I know there are some genuine folks out there, but the odds are not in your favor of finding them. Yes I certainly did miss Twitter and I agree it is absolutely the worst.
I need him to be at least 5'11. If he's much shorter than me I'm really just not attracted to him. I think those are reasonable standards. Though a lot of these comments are making me sound like a bad person so I don't know anymore 😭
yes. I despise people who have a "height limit" or stuff like "if you're smaller than 1.80m swipe left" in their bio. Should men also have a "weight-limit" or a "if you're fatter/heavier than 80kg's swipe left" in their bio too?
If a guy came at me with a weight question, I'd answer him. "62kgs. Now, what's your height? Right, 5'6, gotcha. I'm afraid we're not going to make this work." I just want to know what that weight question is supposed to do. Show female hypocrisy? In my opinion it just proves having standards for a person's appearance is valid.
I recognise that I could meet my future husband right now and turn him away because he's short. It's shallow, yes, but everyone is shallow. You're in your rights to reject overweight women just like I'm in my rights to reject short men.
@wiltingrosepetal I believe most people use it to show the hypocrisy of most women. Like some people have a saying "why punish someone for something he can't control while you have something you CAN control?". But yeah thats also why I hate dating-apps in general. Its just a dumb stigma or hype in my eyes.
I mean I can understand people have preferences or rather have someone who is taller than herself. But the way most girls (but most likely also men) place it in their bio is the problem. "if you're smaller than 1.80m swipe left" "If you're smaller than 5"7 you're just looking for attention" "If you're smaller than 5" you should get banned from this app" etc. But yeah mosy dating apps have both terrible people but also good people on it.
Tinder is funny to me. It's the app that depending on your gender will have a completely different experience. Let me tell you, men never put 'if you're taller than 180, swipe left' on their profiles. The rare bio that has a statement like that is talking about zodiac signs or politics (eg. If you think there are more than two genders, swipe left).
I realise that men have an awful time on dating apps which is very unfortunate. I also hate that I'm part of the bandwagon of women who wouldn't date a man shorter than 6ft. Lemme tell you, if I was a short girl, i wouldn't care about height in my partner. But just like men can't control their height, I can't control what I find attractive. I want a man my height or taller, which means 6ft+. Short girls who have these standards paint us all in a bad light while hurting men's self asteem. It sucks, but there's nothing we can really do about it 🙃
"The rare bio that has a statement like that is talking about zodiac signs or politics (eg. If you think there are more than two genders, swipe left)." Yep I've seen that a lot as well. Politics, Astrology and tattoo's.
I've once tried Tinder on a "female"-profile as well. I've seen that the app will give tons more likes & matches, but also a lot of terrible people who only want sex or nudes, or immedially sent dickpics.
If a girl asked me that question, I wouldn't mind, but it'd speak volumes of her character. You would find out the answer when you go on your first date, but to use it as a stipulation for the date would cause me to block you - we wouldn't be compatible.
No, it is not rude to ask height. Bcz if things from both side matches, then only u will go ahead. N after asking height, if he feels rude then he is not understanding type person. So u must not go with such immature guy.
Just add this to your profile and thank me later... "I am a tall goddess looking for a tall king to reproduce beautiful tall babies. If you're not meeting these criteria, don't waste my precious time with your thirst messages."
Dude, I'm 6ft tall 😃 I've dated a guy who was much shorter than me before and I wasn't very attracted to him because of it. It's not shallow to want physical attraction in your partner. I agree that girls who are 5'4 shouldn't be rejecting every man who's not 6'3 but I don't have the liberty they do. If he's not tall, he's not taller than me
Ok, that's fair. But you are an exception to the shallowness of women in general when it comes to men's height.
Truth be told, I don't actually fault anyone for being attracted to people in a certain height range. It's normal human attraction, not a choice really. What I do fault people for is hypocrisy, and female hypocrisy about "shallowness" is very common.
Yeah, we are hypocrites 😭 we complain about how men expect so much from us, the perfect weight, body, face, but in reality we're just as high maintenance. Overweight men get a lot more hate than overweight- oh, sorry- plus size women. And I feel for the short men who have to hear the 6ft standard every day. That would eat away at anyone's self esteem 😁
@EnglishArtsteacher I also don't blame her for wanting a man her height. If you read our entire exchange you'll see I don't judge anyone for it. I'm also 6'2" and am attracted to short women. It's not a choice... we are attracted to what we are attracted to, and everyone is different.
What I do judge are people who are hyocrites about so called "shallowness", and QA is not a hypocrite. She's a good egg.
@wowop99266 Are you suggesting people should ignore their instincts and date people they find unnatractive? Come on bro. Most physical features can't be controlled. That goes for both sexes. It's a fact of human nature that physical beauty is attractive. People are attracted to what they are attracted to, and you can't ask them to dte people they don't find attractive,
It can't be that only one single physical characteristic alone is universally unattractive, there has to be a spectrum to determine if something is unattractive, not just one detail.
@wowop99266 People are attracted to what they are attracted to, and you can't tell someone else what that is for them. It's not a choice. Now, someone can choose to date someone they find ugly, but why? That's just dumb.
Men have to fill out their height. And it's not rude to ask, just like it's not rude for a man to ask a woman's weight. Between height and weight, only one is controllable by the person.
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Anonymous
(25-29)
3 mo
Of course it is, because unlike weight, height can't be controlled. And it is extremely reckless and sabotaging to one's mental health to reject people for something they can't control. If someone asks me for my height, 9.9/10 I know they're going to hate the answer.
