Should I explain, before ghosting them? (Page 2)

[KillinItHard]

Ghosting is a child's way of dealing with things. The way a kid will turn the lights off in one room and haul a** to the next lit up room because they're scared and trying to avoid what they perceive to be something bad chasing them. We have feelings for a reason, deal with them head on like an adult or don't engage.

[ZackBan]

In response to your update: you did do the right thing

You weren't dating any one of them and don't owe them a whole song and dance. A simple message letting them know it's not gonna work is enough

[DJB72]

Start as friends. Get to know each other. If your therapist is any good they should be able to tell you there's a lot more decent guys who'll be happy to be your friend than potential stalkers out there

[bobalife]

It’s good to communicate why it’s not a good timing for you right now and you can let them move on. From my exp in the past, they were mostly understanding and respectful of it.

[lightbulb27]

so now there's trust and security issues.

thats nice thing to do.

get yourself better, so you have strength. examine childhood... if wounds there are causing problems now.

[91bryce91]

just ghost them without explanation.
i talked with ur therapiat this morning and the concencus is i shall act as ur replacement stalker, to wean you off stalking.
But im kinda lazy so u'll have to text me ur every move.
you have my phone number ( i left it on ur kitchen table)

[whirled_up_girl]

I would, I know stalker situations can be scary but I would still let someone know why I won't be contacting them anymore. I don't like to ghost people.

[Sour-rose]

That's not ghosting if you don't explain. If you want to explain, then explain... aand bid them adieu. Do it that way, and there won't be regret or pain afterwards. A better way to do it.

[Amara_09]

Ghost them. You don’t need to explain yourself.


However, the appropriate respectful way is to let them know that it’s not working out for you. Then cut them loose

[strateguy632]

depends which. choose one for friends zone, tell others "i am not available now" then block those until later. keep one to meet and write.

[Smashingdoozy]

Explaining isn't ghosting them. If you're comfortable with explaining your situation to them then do so.

[rosemilk]

explain. no one wants to get demoted to the friend zone when you two were talking potentially romantically

[DeeDeeDeVour]

You have a valid reason to avoid getting into a relationship.

Ghosting people who have not wronged you is an extreme measure.

[Paris13]

Up to You. Your Choice, Your Voice. Depending on How You Feel and The Situation, Do as You Need. xxoo

[WhitneySnow]

You did the right thing, though it would have been nice if at least one of them would have been willing to start off as friends

[SweetDripp]

Why would you block them? You don’t need to cut everyone out of your life just because you aren’t ready for a relationship.

[Lisia]

Explain. Ghosting is rude in my opinion.. everyone deserves closure.

[jcampbell115]

lol funny

[Somoneelse]

I would explain it to them and tell them about the reasons. Most of them will probably understand it.

[SherwoodGladiator]

Let them know that you don't think you're ready to date. Ghosting sucks and shows a lack of respect and empathy for a person, sending a short message shows maturity and and understanding

[noohair]

I think that ghosting is horrible. I would let them know that you beleive that the relationship is not good for you. Then see how the reaction is. I there is no contact good, if there are continuing problems, block the number.