How to explain to someone why I ghosted them and cut contact?

[Finfin1981]

So I was chatting on the phone and online to a guy I went to school with years ago and he became more and more flirtatious and suggestive in his messages and then mentioned casually he is newly dating someone but it’s not serious. I have immediately cut contact as it’s just wrong but I have to see him at the weekend at a party shall I be honest about why I’m avoiding him?

Updates

6 mo

He sent me a message saying ‘what’s wrong I thought we were friends …’
Those messages from him were NOT between friends 🤣

[Anonymous]

See I don't normally like to ghost anyone, which sometimes is the correct answer to avoid being harassed or otherwise. I don't blame you for how you handled the situation. But if you're afraid of running into him at the party you might just want to send a simple reply at some point. That you don't want to continue whatever you've got going on with him because of his loose approach to dating, which doesn't fit your style. Dating him would likely have gotten you in the same boat. If you were sneaky you could have asked his new date if that's how she also feels, but that's just causing extra headache.

[Anonymous]

Why do you think you have to explain it? Ghosting someone just because you aren't feeling them is wrong. Ghosting someone for a legitimate reason (and I consider this one one of them) is not wrong.

I don't consider it my job to teach women right from wrong. And you're not his mom so it isn't your job either.

[OlderAndWiser]

"shall I be honest?" Is that REALLY your question?

[Finfin1981]

Well either that or just blank him or say he doesn’t interest me?

[OlderAndWiser]

Why wouldn't you tell him the truth?

[Finfin1981]

Good point might be awkward is all

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, but you will get over the awkwardness and will feel good about yourself for being honest.

[Finfin1981]

Yes and hopefully he will learn to respect others

[OlderAndWiser]

Maybe he will learn, but at least it will be good for your self-esteem, and you should always protect and foster that.

[Finfin1981]

Yes completely agree. Thanks for your replies.

[OlderAndWiser]

You are welcome, and good luck!

[AviatorTom]

Why say anything? Just continue to avoid him.

[sheikalana]

No, you don't own him an explanation.

[boggboss]

Just tell him the truth

[Carina0]

Yeah just be honest that should be enough

[nawtee_me]

Always be honest….

[PreciousJewel]

You don't. Just stay out of their life

[BLP11520]

Tell him the truth

[jimmy2]

You are not wrong