
I'd only be with a man that thought I was a 10/10. If he thought any less of me it'd be wasting my time because their is always another man out there that will think I'm a 10

I'd only be with a man that thought I was a 10/10. If he thought any less of me it'd be wasting my time because their is always another man out there that will think I'm a 10
Looks aren't everything.
If there is no physical attraction whatsoever it's less likely it would work out.
Or worse, if someone finds you hideous then no that is near zero chance of working.
But, like say there are 2 girls,
None of them are ugly
But one is a bit above average or so when it comes to looks, at least a bit attractive, but doesn't really stand out in the looks department. But she got a great personality, great energy and just a good person.
The other one is physically stunning but she's dumb and mean.
The first one could perhaps make you happy long term and if you fall in love with her maybe you think she's getting more and more attractive as you get more feelings for her.
While someone who only has good (or even great) looks as their only benefit.
Maybe if you are only in it for a one night stand that might not matter.
But if you want a relationship you don't want to be with someone you think is a bad person.
I'm not saying that all people who looks great are bad persons or vice versa.
Just as an example that looks isn't everything.
Also if you are going to have a really long term relationship with getting kids and living family life together and such.
Even if you look great today. You may not look the same 30 years from now.
If looks are the only thing the relationship is based on. Then the relationship will probably not last getting old together.
For women this is more of a red flag.
If he think your 5/10
That is very disrespectful, seeing you as a lack of worth sexually.
((I think for girls, its fine)) For guys idrk.
Plain and homely is 8 or 9 in my book.
5 is like missing facial features and stuff.
Lol that number graph is completely off in my description of what I would percieve as beauty.
TLDR factually yes its fine. But boyfriend saying such things is red flag.
I Agree with your statement
Honestly the true scale, should be like 5 out of 12
some women are so good looking that it become distracting a bit of annoyance, like can someone actually date this person without looks interfering with the conversation or without getting into a fight or risking there life in a traffic accident because there so much distraction from her beauty.
Can this girl even relate to me, with my daily struggles, will this girl value my appreciation for her or am I just another number to her in a long line of others guys in pursuit of her. (Girls like Kate Upton may look like a 12 but she has that vibe that she seems like she has better things to do then talk about I don't know D and D or whatever. I would put her down as a 10/10 in terms of value))
Or if this girl even hits on you, would you even take it seriously and how long will this relationship last? ((THERE is definitely a concept of this in existence)) but I prefer to think like a winner. lol
I wouldn’t be with someone that rates someone and purely off looks.. It’s the whole package that matters to me and I would be with someone that feels the same🤷♀️
Well no but that’s not the question you asked..
@Brainsbeforebeauty. Spot on correct.
@Brainsbeforebeauty Exactly
bro don't gotta see me as a 10 but a 5? that'd hurt lol some things you leave to yourself
right? I could never say that to anyone. Not even a girl who I thought was ugly
@bananathunder yeah same I'm not sure how some guys could seriously rate their girlfriend a 5
I would chop a finger off before I would say some dumb shit like that lol
@bananathunder
Why do women have such high standards and men so low, like I get the fact that we as men want a family and everything like that, but still? ↗
This guy said his girlfriend was a 5 and is confused why she's mad about it 😂
hahaha wtf? I bet he's confused about a lot of shit
@bananathunder yeah he's anonymous for a reason 😂
haha wonder if he responded on here?
@bananathunder that's why I left it open for men lol
@Apple1996. A big part of attractiveness is ATTITUDE. If you are a 5 with a great attitude toward your partner your attractiveness skyrockets. If you are a 5 with a shit attitude, you will be shown the door.
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If I choose to be in a relationship with a woman who I think is a 5/10 based on physical beauty, it is because I see and value many things in her other than her physical appearance. If I am with a woman only because she is a 10/10 based on physical beauty, I will probably eventually lose interest and move on.
Nine years ago, I was in a relationship with a woman who was a great match for me and, initially, I thought she was cute, maybe a 6/10. As I got to know her, I became more attracted to her and saw her as a 9/10. After we broke up, I saw some photos on FB and wondered how I ever felt attracted to her. Moral of the story is that physical attraction can be fleeting but attraction to other qualities is much more enduring.
I understand the question.
What I don't understand is why EVERY woman wants to think she is above average. By definition, that is impossible.
My fiancee satisfies me in every way and I am very attracted to her. But she is a 60 year old woman; if I compare her to every other woman on the planet, she is not at the very top. . . and that is okay. I don't need that for a relationship.
Okay. You want to think you are a 10/10. What are you gonna do when you get older and you are no longer a 10/10? Do you think your partner will leave you? Otr do you want him to lie and continue telling you that you are a 10/10 when you have wrinkles in your face and a few extra pounds around the middle? Or do you think you will still look like you are 20 years old when you are actually 70?
If that scale has ANY objectivity to it at all, then 50% of all women are 5/10 or lower, and 50% are 5/10 or higher. Very, very few women are 10/10, maybe 1%. So should the other 99% feel that they are doomed to never find a guy who thinks they are a 10/10, or will you be happy with a guy who says you are 10/10 even if every other guy on the planet says you are a 7/10? And even if you are a 10/10, there are probably a few other women who are even more beautiful than you?
I have dated hundreds of women over the past 50 years. One or two were 9/10, several were 8/10, most were 6-7/10, and some were 5/10 or lower. If I was dating a girl who was 5/10, I never broke up with her because a 7/10 girl came along.
Isn't the point of knowing you are beauty having security in the knowledge that you satisfy your partner?
Most women are 10/10 to someone even if they are older. If my husband didn't think I was a 10 anymore I'd want him to leave so I could find someone that thought I was a 10. I'm not the type to settle.
Thinking that 1% of women are 10s is fucked up. You dont understand what true beauty is if that's the case
You keep vacillating between talking about physiucal beauty and being attracted to the whole package. Reread my original opinion and you will see that I understand something about the beauty of my partner. Yes, your partner make think that you are a 10/10, but that is not solely because of your physical appearance.
Can you disagree without saying ugly things? If you are triggered, I'm sorry, but I haven't said anything to try to trigger you.
The rating scale you have in your question is based ENTIRELY on physical beauty. If you think EVERY girl is a 10/10, then it isn't a 1-10 scale, and you aren't rating anyone.
I DON'T rate all women low. But I have seen women who are 1/10, I've seen many women who are 5/10, and I've seen some women who are 8--10/10. Apparently, use are using a different rating scale, and gettting mad because the rest of the world doesn't see thinigs the same way that you see them.
"I'm saying most girls are 9s and 10s" Right. You aren't using the same scale.
"5/10 as @turnpost said basically is missing parts of their face." The picture you posted, which has a 1-10 scale, says that 5 is "plain." So apparently that is NOT the scale you are using, but it is the scale that everyone else uses, so you are comparing apples to oranges. If you are just looking for a reason to rant, go piss in somebody else's cornflakes.
Plain is missing parts of their face in my opinion. Maybe means something different to you 🤷♀️
And no this is not a rant I'm acutally trying to hear out both sides from men and women on this. It's just super odd and shocking that some men don't find the majority of women attractive. I think it's honestly just a way to belittle women
I am not one of those guys who hates women. I LOVE women and I do not look for reasons to put them down.
When I look at the women in my part of the world, some of them are ugly - to me, many of them are plain or ordinary - to me, some of them are cure or pretty - to me, and a few of them are beautiful - to me, all based strictly on their physical appearance. Perhaps when you look at women, you see things differently because you are a woman. There are fundamental differences between men and women; we look at the world and see it differently. You don't understand why we see things a particular way and we don't understand why you see things a particular way. That doesn't mean one of us is wrong; we are just different. It is part of the fundamental differences between the sexes.
So, if you want to look around and say 50% or 75% of the women are a 10/10, you can do that. I don't understand it, but that's okay. I don't need to understand it. You're not wrong, but you're not right, either. You're just different.
And when I look at women and rate them in different categories, primarily following a normal or bell curve, you're not going to understand it. That's okay. You don't need to understand it. I'm not wrong, but I'm not right, either. I'm just different.
Most women are quite easy to look at. lol Like rating a girl 5/10 in the average guys eyes, is very low standard.
Its like trying rate a bad review for a burger, like most burgers are just really good, to mess it up, its quite hard. 5/10 is like literally missing nose ((Like Micheal Jackson sort of situation))
Personality is very much part of the rating for me, it shows a story and that story is sort of like foreplay. Like for example a classic librarian at face value quite boring. But what if she is friendly sits on your lap talks to you about favorite movies. Puts her glasses in her mouth and then into yours. Like wow we have to something to work with here.
Librarians are hot. k
If you are married to your wife for like 50 years, yeah looks strictly there fading away, but the way that she makes you feel and loving feeling you with this person, makes you feel 10/10. (This is how I see the scale. ))
50% of women being 10/10 to be honest sounds like an immense stretch. Its just most women are like 7 and above. Plain jane "girls next door" is still super hot and guys preferences small boobs big boobs both are fine likes its all very elusive in terms perference.
Most women are good looking, I don't know maybe there is crappier neighborhoods or something.
"Older and Wiser" You like the only one that gets my name Turnpost cereal lol
I prefer to express my opinion, rather then just say a one word answer that hardly gives the true opinion of how I feel or think about such an issue. To each there own. She asked for an opinion on such a question, I think its very welcome to go into detail about it.
The scale means like is this female going to be super hot in your eyes. Cute goes along way in my book a cute girl can be 10/10.
A girl with big boobs can be quite distracting for me, but I know in terms of society that it is valued.
it would be sort of 8/10 I don't know depends how I feel at the time. Its like sometimes I want to eat Chinese and the other day I want Mexican food.
Average in terms of society, is blasphemous, tell me what YOUUUU THINK, not society.
Thank you @OlderAndWiser for setting her straight. “every girl is a 10 out of 10 to someone.” That sounds so immature. @Apple1996 no one looks are perfect. Stop thinking like a 6 year old.
@Kingofkings1992 many people look perfect to me so I dont have that problem. You probably just have some unrealistic view of beauty
Apple, you have some quirky ideas. Being viewed as a 10-lookswise is asking way too much. Looks are not the most important thing anyway.
I once had a girlfriend who wasn't attractive physically, but she had the best personality. She definitely got more attractive to me over time.
I would because I'd know he was with me for my personality and that he genuinely enjoyed my company.
Oh shit I chose the wrong one lol... I meant to go with the "I'm a man" so please ignore one vote for the "Yes I would..." and if I was a woman I would have chosen "No I would only be with a man..."
Now, as a man, I have never been in a relationship with someone who I did not think was a 10 and I am not talking about the Bo Derek 10 rating stuff but 10 in overall attractiveness as a person factoring looks, personality, fun nature, sexiness, positiveness, good person, etc.
P. S. Love your "crusty dusty men" update :)
If he only rates you at as a five but still wants to get with you I suspect he's only doing it to get his dick wet. And how are you being rated? On looks alone would be sad, it needs to be the whole package, especially intelligence, personality and a good sense of humour for me
I wouldn't be with him in the relationship even if he rated me 100/10...
I don't date men who rate other people.
I think he does if he dates me, right? Can't imagine a man forcing himself to date me :D
Never happened to me :D
@Apple1996 no all men do not settle for anything they can get and you shouldn’t put that out there like it’s a fact…
@Brainsbeforebeauty never said all men
@Brainsbeforebeauty some men do settle tho because they can't pull women that they acutally want
I don't the ratings system.. I think it's a bit derogatory in a way.. So, I just say women are either not my type, decent or okay, cute, pretty, or beautiful.. Of course my love for my SO would have me thinking she's the most beautiful woman in the world..
I know I'm not the target audience for this but I'm pretty sure if you're in love with someone it doesn't matter what they look like they'll be above a five in your eyes.
Me, as a man see my ipotetical girlfriend as the most beautiful in the world, so I would give her 10
Personally, I would not be in a relationship with a guy, who rates people on a numerical scale. in my opinion that's objectifying, dehumanizing and immature. Now of course everyone would want their partner to find them the best-looking in the world, that's a no brainer. It's offensive and humiliating if your partner doesn't find you physically attractive. That means he's using you
I will not like he does not like me why I would be with him
An 8/10 girl is a pretty solid rating. Realistically if a guy is calling you a 10/10, he's lying to you and there are likely girls he finds more physcially attractive than you in the world. I would never rate myself a 10/10 even just physically. That's an extremely arrogant and unrealistic rating of myself. I find that girls that call themselves 10/10s or expect guys to call them that are delusional.
To flatter the girl? To get with her? To make her think he has the highest opinion about her physical attraction? 🤣
Look I'm sorry to say, but you're living in a delusion. Less than 1% of girls are 10/10s physically 😂
Low standards means I can grasp a bigger population sample then you can. I also know Spanish and Urdu so I can mingle with the most biologically available women on both sides of the earth hemispheres which both sides also have excellent food as well. But my goal isn't ONS, so this is overkill. Ball is in your court.
Strangely enough I have been in 3 long term relationships, I was the one to always leave. I think most Asian girls dont have guts to dump someone so they just annoy you until you dump them lol
I don't know flex not flex (I was jking about the low standards thing, I probably have really high standards, but I am quite flexible (self claimed lol) in what I find attractive. Personality wise though I might be asking a lot, given the way that I look.
I don't agree with the terms on that scale at all, why would a cute girl be a 6? Cute is a form of attractiveness as opposed to sexy which is a different form. She can look absolutely beautiful but have a cute look because she's for example a more petite girl. And a 4 to me isn't homely but better than averagely ugly.
Realistically, I am a 5, but I'd hope my hypothetical boyfriend thinks I'm at least an 8. 😂
^^^There's the @Apple1996 we know and love.
@love_conquers_lust 😊😊😊😊
@love_conquers_lust it means their good looking lol
My husband is only an average looking man, but he more than makes up for that in so many other ways. Looks have never been important to me when it comes to males.
The only woman that was ever a literal 10 on the beauty scale was Eve since God directly created her.
No one is a 10 on the beauty scale so get over you wanting to be rated a 10 because you aren't.
I never seen your face but the most you can be is a 9.
I do not rate women (since I do not want to be rated myself :-) )
I was with a girl i consider 3 out of 10...
I was with her because she going through bad phase of her life she want someone to hold her in her bad time..
Not everything about sexy boobs n hot pussy..
There is life beyond this cheap stuff...
😊
I would hope none do, if he wants you you're 100/10
A 10 out of 10 would imply perfection with no room for improvement which simply has no business in adult conversations based on objective reality.
A 5/10 is a solid average. Most average women look good enough to me.
@Juxtapose. This is spot on correct!
This is why I don’t like giving a number to the “How Do I Look?” questions here.
If she's got a beautiful soul that is usually enough.
If you want a man to lie to you and just tell you what you wanna hear, that relationship is going to be awful for him. If you want him to call you a 10, then be a 10.
Trust modern women to obsess over looks but you are not likely a ten as you are past your peak of 23.
For your update, yes that is accurate. There is no such thing as a 10 out of 10. No one looks are perfect, and neither is anyone’s personality. Stop using a number scale. It’s immature and Dehumanizing.
we’re not the ones who need to fix our way of thinking. That would be. YOU.
I’m the one who’s unrealistic? Lmao!!! I’m dead 💀
Nah.. I wouldn't.
Actresses and models are 10/10 so to insist that someone finds you to be a 10 is genuinely delusional. But to each their own i suppose 🤷♂️
my exes were 14/10's
I still fuck 5's
The 1-10 scale always stay far away from my romantic relationships.
I rather think you're a 11/10.
That's because you are a 10😉
Thank you for being amazing
You said you have acne on your face; you're not a 10/10.
How many brains cells does your acne make you lose?
Who?
Care to post the link to when he says such quote?
Not a girl but I def wouldn’t.
As long as we like each other’s personality
So you want a man who will lie to you. Got it.
Every one wants someone who is attracted to them, but us guys know we are not "10's". If a girl called us a 10 we would assume it's an effort to manipulate.
@Apple1996. Because we have to live in the real world. The "10's are the giga chads who are the top 4%. Also, women rate 80% of men as "unattractive "... not average, not OK, but "unattractive ". So we know better.
@Apple1996. That's cool and nice to hear.
Some models and/or actresses are attractive and some aren't.
I don't think you can take them all with those professions and judge them only by that.
Well maybe you can but I don't think it's right.
They are people to with different looks and talents and personalities.
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