When a girl is 33 and never lived with a man is that a bad thing?

[Jazzimeshele1234]

I never lived with a man. Just me and him with nobody else. is that a bad thing? I told a guy that and he said it’s a bad thing. I have 1 child who is 9.

I just feel like I haven’t found the right one yet. Why is this a big deal?

[Oliverlogan263]

Nah sis, don't let some dude make you feel bad about your situation. There's nothing wrong with waiting to find the right person before shacking up.

Like who cares if you haven't lived with a guy yet at 33? Better to be on your own than stuck in some whack relationship just for the sake of it. You got your kid to think about too - way more important things than what some clown thinks is "normal".

Fact is, everybody's path is different. Maybe past guys just weren't at your level yet. Or you've been focused on other priorities like being a mom. But that doesn't mean there's something wrong with YOU, feel me?

Dudes will always find something to complain about if it means putting a girl down and making themselves feel big. Pay him no mind - you do you, mama. When the right one comes around, you'll know.

Till then just keep working on yourself and your bond with your little. His opinion doesn't define your worth, trust. You're a queen either way - with or without a man! Chin up sis.

[Jazzimeshele1234]

Thank you !😊

[Oliverlogan263]

My pleasure luv 😊

[boggboss]

Its nit a big deal more guys would have a issue that u have a kid over never living with a guy lol

[Jazzimeshele1234]

They don’t know my story though lol

[boggboss]

Yet qe all draw conclusions on others before knowing the whole book

[Jazzimeshele1234]

What conclusion is that?

[boggboss]

Thats because u have a kid your are worth less then a partner without a kid this is not what I or all men think but what many will think

[Jazzimeshele1234]

I get that But this dude got multiple baby mommas by different women. He never married nan one of them. He told me he made a lot of mistakes. I hope he don’t think that because he can’t talk about nobody. lol

[boggboss]

Why would u pick him to be your partner lol

[Jazzimeshele1234]

Im not, we just talking

[boggboss]

Good good u see what I did their assumed he would be a shit partner foe u by having multiple baby mums

[Jazzimeshele1234]

So you trying to say I would be a shitty partner because I had one child and never lived with a man?

[boggboss]

No wait what how did u draw that conclusion

[PeachyPie93]

It looks bad to already have a kid and to have never lived with a guy. I don't mean to offend but it probably looks like you are a hoe to them.

[Jazzimeshele1234]

I was in a serious relationship with my baby daddy tho lol

[Jazzimeshele1234]

How? Lol

[PeachyPie93]

But why didn't you live together?
I guess it looks bad because you usually have a relationship, move in together, have kids. If you have a kid with a guy while not living together it seems rather chaotic or sort of not responsible.
It would also seem you don't hold down long relationships, hence you never lived with anyone. Not that that is accurate but that's what people would take from it.

[Jazzimeshele1234]

I lost my virginity when I was in my 20s then most girls to the guy I was in a relationship with

[Jazzimeshele1234]

I held long term relationship with a guy before my child’s father. Me and my baby daddy was engaged but it turn out it wasn’t meant to be. I did had guys who wanted to lived with me and be with me but it didn’t happened. I don’t know I just haven’t found the right guy.

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah I get it, but people will always jump to assumptions quickly about others. It seems strange you were engaged but never lived together.

[Jazzimeshele1234]

We did lived together but it was with other room mates lol I never experienced when it was just me and the dude alone lol people be missed the part when I say I never lived with a man alone with it just me and him lol

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah but with roommates means you were young and broke. So why have kids?

[Jazzimeshele1234]

Because I was dumb at the time lol but I learn so it ain’t like I kept having them

[PeachyPie93]

Haha yeah lol
From first impressions it sounds bad but I suppose if you really talk about everything with the person, they would understand you.

[Monalisa77]

I've never even been near a guy let alone live with one if I don't Count family lol

[dudeinohio]

It's ok.

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