Who takes rejection more harshly, men or women?

[Anonymous]

Men/boys

Women/girls

Not gender specific

[jennifer_bloom]

I have only rejected one woman since I am more likely to attract men than women. I believe men take rejection more personally. Because a rejected woman views the man in functional and symbolic terms while the man views the woman in stationary and power deflation terms when he gets rejected.

[Asker]

I think women take more harshly because they're expectations of acceptance are higher. I've heard many people say that.

[devilish-cutie]

In my experience - men. I am really clear and polite in my rejections yet they still would hate on me, made things really awkward, would be really rude etc.

I, on the other hand, have also been rejected multiple times - YES; even tho I look good which makes most people think I get what I want and hate me for it, anyways, I just think of rejections like their loss and I dont need really need someone that doesn't want me and like I even partly lose interest.

I deal better with being rejected than rejecting someone, and that speak volumes, but I think that is not really common and Im weird like that.

[tzdc21]

Women. There's a lot of women out there who for much if their lives have never been told no just because they're women and they're pretty, and when they do finally face that rejection, they freak out because it has never happened to them before.

[Hulk_kitty]

I don't think any gender has it more harshly, it depends on the individual on how they take rejection.

Some men don't care, and its water off a ducks back, and other men, cry about, same goes women. It all depends on the individuals self-esteem.

[PrincessBunBuns]

women will have their feelings hurt, and men will literally kill you for saying no.


so id say men.

[TenderFantasy]

Not true. Women are just SCARED to do the ultimate but I am sure they've felt it. I have!

[Asker]

I've never had thoughts about killing anyone lol

[TenderFantasy]

Well great for you. How did you not get mad when you were treated unfairly or got insanely jealous or or accidental or passionate. Maybe you need to get off your high horse. People aren't perfect and they can have thoughts of this. If people can have thoughts of hurting themselves (suicide), they can have thoughts of hurting others as well. Especially if pushed far enough to the edge.

[Asker]

@TenderFantasy Strange for a girl coming to the defense of men, especially one that thinks that a man liking cute little girl pics is a pedophile lol.

[TenderFantasy]

Uh I never said that lol. And I'm not defending men. This is just from observation. We are all human and we are not perfect. I feel women feel just as strongly as men do. And I don't think it's a gender thing really for the most part. You can't (actually NO ONE can) really know what is going on in the minds of anyone nor can they make sweeping generalizations like this. I've seen a woman go postal and I've seen a man do the same. I just think it's more accepted that men have trouble with controling themselves and are more encouraged to be violent in comparisson to the "softer" sex. I'm just the messager bringing forth what I have observed, that's all I am doing!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PZZbfa0HPXY

Oh and before I get off topic, like I said, it's not a gender thing about who takes rejection more harshly. I believe it's whoever is more dependent on having a working successful relationship or who ever got more DEVASTATED/DISAPPOINTED from the break up/rejection more than a gender thing!

Oh and that lady in the video might not have been romantically rejected but she was fired from her job at the post office some years before her rampage.

[Asker]

@TenderFantasy I don't believe most men are transgressors. Just that demographic of which most are men. We must not compare the demographic with the majority.

[JHAYES317]

That’s a bit of an overstatement…

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

A man once called me a “I hate you, you snake!” just because I didn’t go on a date with him.

He tried apologizing but I blocked him.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

One day, from college outing, I played with snowballs with a guy, who randomly kissed me and when I told him, I wanted to leave, I didn’t want to kiss,

he grabbed my arm and forcibly was taking me somewhere, when suddenly my guy friend saved me.

All that because I didn’t want to kiss him back. Of course men are taking it in worse ways.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am so thankful to that friend of mine who stood up for me. He took my hand and accompanied me to my place, and told me to call him if I felt unsafe.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I was crying whole night was so scared. Especially that we were having outing in a different city and we were staying in hotel rooms.

I heard that creepy guy standing and calling me whole evening in front of my hotel room.

I was even scared he would knock down the door.

I was also very upset I got kissed by someone so awful. I called my cousin and was crying and really very scared.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

The next morning my guy friend came to me and accompanied me to breakfast. He didn’t leave my side, until after we went back to our city.

[Minahh]

Ngl that's funny insult 🤣🤣 I'd say I hate you more rat

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@Minahh Yeah, my cousins and I laughed a lot after blocking him 🤣

[TenderFantasy]

I don't think it's gender specific.

I've been rejected before in speed dating and I couldn't do anything about it.

I've been cheated with and I did not know about it.

Everyone who's ever had feelings or an ego can hurt, but maybe my answer is biased because it's my body that feels things, but I really wanted to KILL/HURT my last ex and the way he broke my heart! It just took a lot of strenght and family support not to go biserk on this jackass! The way I gave him a lot of me and the way he LIED to me many times and disappointed/led me on for five months! Also the stupid way his family acted around me, it was truly a shit show!

[Anonymous]

I think men might take it more personally upon immediate rejection. As in a woman isn’t interested in talking to them or giving them attention at a bar or wherever they get hit on.
Women might take it more harshly after weeks or months of interaction and the guy acts like he never cared or was just leading her on. Women get emotionally attached and men want to be validated that they are attractive. Rejection in either of these cases is rough.
That being said, I do think it is still unique to a person and their view of themselves and how they handle rejection in general.

[PonyCar]

The day I see an equal number of news stories about women verbally assaulting, stalking, raping and hitting men w/bricks after they reject them is the day I will consider that maybe women react as harshly as men to rejection.

Or the day biology/psychology/sociology produces peer-reviewed, published research that supports the exact opposite conclusion that all of it has so far (that males react much more severely to rejection than females).

[mandyfire98]

This ☝️

[TenderFantasy]

No, men are just stupid and don't have any self-control. I've FELT violent in the past too at times especially because I was treated unfairly. Women just know how to PLAY the system. They get spoiled.

Here's a great example of a spoiled woman. She gets high on drugs, gets in a car with her three kids. Kills them "by accident" and then gets only 2 years jail time and probation. Talk about unfair in terms of sentencing. If this had been a man, it'd probably be TWICE or THREE times that.

https://youtu.be/1yVNUMCgE4U?si=xIOi--yyYXMQ3n8a

[Asker]

Stupid take. Women don't approach men nearly enough and so the comparison is irrelevant. Also, almost all men don't react this way and so you shouldn't compare men in general to that particular demographic.

[Asker]

@TenderFantasy Men aren't any more stupider than women. Many of them lack just as much (if not more) self control.

[Asker]

... if anything, it's women that are stupider since we all know that they aren't good liars.

Man has put himself on the Moon 🌝.

What has a woman done besides trying to look pretty for us?

[PonyCar]

So the comparison you made in your original question is irrelevant? Did you come to that conclusion before or after you wrote it out, selected your poll options & posted it?

[Asker]

What comparison? I "asked" a question. I didn't compare anything.

[Asker]

Man what?

[PonyCar]

"Who takes rejection more harshly, men or women?"

comparison (noun)
1
: the act or process of comparing: such as
a : the representing of one thing or person as similar to or like another
His poetry invites comparison with the poems of Robert Frost.
b: an examination of two or more items to establish similarities and dissimilarities
His faults seem minor by comparison.
a comparison of the sports cars
2
: identity of features : SIMILARITY
several points of comparison between the two
3
: the modification of an adjective or adverb to denote different levels of quality, quantity, or relation

Source: www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/comparison

So somewhere in your mind, the question you asked does NOT meet the literal dictionary definition of a comparison? You're NOT asking people to perform "an examination of two or more items to establish similarities and dissimilarities?"

[Asker]

Ok I see your point oops 😬. The comparison may be "relevant", but I was responding to your answer with the premise that men take rejection more harshly.

What I meant to imply was that the data and your evidence is "misleading" (rather than irrelevant) especially when men and women are victims of sexism because of members of their own gender. More men may act out violently, but we must not confuse that tiny, almost non-existent demographic with the entire male population. It generally matters from person to person.

[PonyCar]

So if news-worthy levels of violence don't meet your criteria for "harsh," then what does, exactly? Also, how would you explain the fact that every woman has a story about some super-negative/extreme reaction she received when she rejected a man, but most men don't have a similar story of rejecting a woman? Is it just that "tiny" subset of men going around hitting on literally 100% of the women?

[TenderFantasy]

@PonyCar, I honestly will NEVER believe that men take rejection more harshly. Being hurt, feeling hurt and ACTING on that hurt is a different thing. Some men are better able to hide their feelings but so can some women. Like I said, women can maybe better able to "control" themselves because they know what's at stake! Some men, they are ENCOURAGED to be violent and brute and grunt their way to life. I really think it's an individual thing more so, even though I said that women take it harder. Because it's also who's able to take NO (or at least who's USED to it) more than gender. It's who VALUED the relationship or lack of an opportunity for one, that gets burned/hurt the most.

[Asker]

I wonder where you got "every woman" lol

[Asker]

@TenderFantasy Yes "stakes". Was just going to mention that. Also far more men than women get rejected because men initiate I would say. So the sample size would be an unfair comparison.

[JHAYES317]

I mean it happens more but that’s also cause women don’t ask out men very often…

[mandyfire98]

Men, considering women get assaulted and murdered or raped after rejection. Somebody on here just posted a news story where a woman rejected a guy and he shot her to death.

[Asker]

I always take everything with a grain of salt 🧂.

Just because women don't do something... doesn't mean they don't want to lol.

Emotionally, it's impossible for men to take rejection any more or less harshly than women.

You might as well say men have more to lose than women.

[Asker]

Or maybe you have bad experiences with men which is the reason for your hate?

[mandyfire98]

Actions are what matter most. Self control is extremely important.

[mandyfire98]

I don't hate men at all. I'm just stating a statistical fact.

[mandyfire98]

Men are more violent in nature than women.

[mandyfire98]

It is what it is.

[Asker]

Nah don't believe you Sorry 😔. You're gonna have to convince me otherwise.

[Asker]

Though I disagree with the reverse also, many people have said women take it worse because of the way they are raised and to have high expectations.

[mandyfire98]

I don't have to prove anything. I don't owe you. You can just research it too. You can easily google if men are more violent than women. There are statistics. It's up to you whether or not your mind is just made up even with facts presented.

There are some people in this world that no matter what facts are presented they'll just cry fake news until they get what they want. If that's you then have a great day but I really can't take part in an argument online just to give someone else their daily entertainment. Some people just troll with gender war questions just to get a rise out of people. I'm far too busy to entertain that. So have fun. This is it for me on this question.

[mandyfire98]

I'll even let you have the last word.

[MAC1983]

I really liked your replies @mandyfire98. Please consider following me too.

[Asker]

Chill 🤗. Just because more men are violent doesn't mean they take rejection more harshly lol what happened to common sense?

[mandyfire98]

😘😘

[Asker]

You see it's this type of competitive, immature mindset that divides men and women. You aren't solving anything with this childish attitude. And then you wonder why men don't approach women anymore, which they rarely (if ever) do these days.

[mandyfire98]

I don't give a fuck about men like you and others like you. I have a boyfriend who respects and loves women. He isn't negative towards women. He's a real man. What true masculinity is. He's not interested in constantly looking for negative things that women do. He doesn't believe that men are superior to women as a whole. He's an amazing man. I would never give any redpill or incel even a second of my time.

So now I really will let you have the last word and I'll know you'll definitely take it because your pride and ego have to have it. So I'm outy. Have a good life. Hope you have a better relationship with women in the future. I truly hope you do. Night night Elliot Rodger.

[Asker]

LMFAO!!! That was hilarious 😂. Your tone is further proving me right. And my wife is laughing at your childish attitude.

[Asker]

I respect women. And she respects men. However, me and her both wouldn't respect sexist people like yourself.

[JHAYES317]

On average sure but those are outliers

[MAC1983]

It's s scientifically and sociologically proven that men take break-ups harder than women, regardless of gender identity and sexual preferences.

I rest my case, Desii. The proof is online for you read in a library or computer of your choosing...

Giddens' "Sociology" and The Kinsey report are as good a place to start as any, but it's entirely up to you and your readers.

[MAC1983]

Oops, not Desii. Sorry.

[FreyaRed]

I think men are more accustomed with rejection. Girls go nuts when a guy they like ignores them. "I don't care... I will kill him... I don't care again... I feel so ugly..." Playing a rational counselor for rejected girls isn't fun

[McLlovin]

Tell me 1 incident when a man threw a brick through your car window because you rejected them or slashed your tires or better still burned down the house… yea women definitely take rejection harder… most women dont even attempt to ask any dude out because they are scared to get rejected and men take on most of the risks. Mind you i dont like aggressive women, im just making a point that women can't take rejection.

[Somoneelse]

Honestly. Most women will say men. And most men will say women. I've already seen this in the ccomments.

me myself I believe it's not gender specific. Both some women and some men were convicted for murder, rape or assault after being rejected. Some people will only cry when being rejected, some people will accept it and move on with their live and some people will go phycho after rejection. It may depend on the person itself how the reaction after being rejected will be.

[Fireguy17]

I would say women, most guys are pretty used to being shot down over the years from asking women out, where now some women are starting to make the first move and now, they are the ones being rejected.
You just have to love all of this equality now.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the person. Nobody likes rejection. But I rejected a girl and she stalked me for 2 YEARS afterward. So my personal experience is women take it harder. But that's experience. I think it really all depends on the person and how mentally stable they are and how they're able to process the rejection. Women are Notorious emotional so you think this would make them more disposed to the inability to accept rejection. But again I think it all depends on the person

[Asker]

Unfortunately that's not the popular opinion 😂

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not trying to be popular, just trying to answer the question.😆

[Asker]

Yes it has to depend on the person. Most people are just stupid.

[Billlewis]

Oh, guys take it much harder than women, not only because of the humiliation, but the misery of being so frustrated, as well. But it's good for us, and we need it.

[Asker]

Why do you think men take it more harshly?

[Smashingdoozy]

Women may get upset but we get over it pretty quickly. Men often hold a grudge or don't even accept the rejection

[Asker]

Sounds childish and immature to me. Maybe many guys have broken your heart and so you're holding grudges against all men now?

[Smashingdoozy]

Nope... I get more upset when a woman rejects me tbh

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Intuitively I'd think the individuals with the fewest options would generally take rejections most harshly. I suspect a much higher percentage of those individuals are males.

[HighValue]

Women by far. Some men may say something negative or insulting after, but some women will try to ruin a man's relationships and job over her being rejected.

[jazmiine]

It depends on who invested more in the relationship. This includes feelings, time, goals, and future planning that includes that person.

[TenderFantasy]

Yup, yup, yup!

[Phoenix98]

I think it's probably more even if you take all people into account. Because I've seen both men and women flip when they've been rejected but I've also seen both take it fairly well.

[EmmaMary]

Definitely Men... They're like little babies throwing their dummies out of their prams if they don't get their own way! lol

[JHAYES317]

You definitely shouldn’t be in a relationship if that’s what you think of men…

[IslaTheWitch]

The guy I declined today my phone number request took it pretty well, lol