Am I bugging or am I tripping?

[Anonymous]

My fiancé asked me to cook his grandma something in particular for her dinner at 5 PM. Agreeing I said OK and proceed to set an alarm 30 minutes before 5 PM. Not hearing my alarm go off I woke up out of my sleep and woke up hour and a half later. I rushed downstairs to find his grandma and ask if she needed anything or wanted anything. She proceeds to say no and then she didn’t know what she wanted to eat and before I could ask her where this particular food item was, she was already out the door I even looked high and low. A few hours later my fiancé text me stating he asked me to do one thing and basically that he won’t ask me to do anything else.

I apologized immediately because again I understand if he feel like I let him down but on the flipside, don’t make it as if I don’t ever make sacrifices or help when it comes to her when I’ve literally helped him physically carry her inside the house once before. I’m not someone who throws up what they do for people in their face. But you will not sit here and make it seem like I’m not reliable when I’m more reliable than your actual family.

But yet he’s been a disappointment in the relationship. I’ve been promised dates. I’ve been promised get weekend getaways and I haven’t gotten that yet. So he may feel like I let him down in this one situation but I’ve been let down for months now.

Wtf is he on

No but I understand both sides

[boggboss]

Relationship is in a terrble place if one partner being upset leads to the other partner also pointing out that they have been let down at the end of the day I would hope your both adults yes u screwed up and I get he is upset but its not like u did it deliberately or to spite him u simply fucked up equally if u have issues in the relationship u need to address them not hold onto them and when a issue arrives use them against him all that will do is further strain the relationship u guys need to communicate more

[Asker]

Tell him that lol. Sometimes he’ll call me to do something when she asked HIM specifically to do it. But I don’t complain I help since I’m there to actually help.

I’ve been expressing for to him the let downs he’s given me and nothing changed. I never mentioned the last part to him but it’s definitely how I feel. He’s put all his energy into taking care of her that he’s completely neglected the relationship and even himself

[boggboss]

Which I get is hard but it doesn't sound like it's somthing he can just drop or change again u guys sound like u need to communicate more if u hope to get married or stay together

[Asker]

I’ve tried so many times. He’ll either text how he feels & won’t reply if you have a rebuttal or he walks away and shut down face to face. I’ve expressed how I felt and he only made it about him and how he has to take care of her. I knew he was looking after her before I moved with them but I didn’t know majority of his day consisted of taking care of her. He wasn’t honest about the dynamics in the household even when I asked. We don’t Ben sleep in the same bed let alone same bedroom. So honestly I don’t see a wedding happening when there hasn’t been any new positive changes.

And because I love him I suck it up and go with the flow but no more.

[boggboss]

Fair enough I guess but if nothing changes and u both remain unhappy the relationship won't last even if u do love eachother

[Zestyassmf1997]

You shouldn’t have overslept. But it’s not a huge deal.

[Asker]

I didn’t plan to which was the point of putting an alarm in the first place. I agree it isn’t that serious

[Zestyassmf1997]

Well you might not have planned to, but you did.