I was talking to a guy through a dating app, we spoke a bit, and we didn't know much about each other apart from our ethnicities and religion
He asked for my phone number (whatsapp), I told him that I don't know him well. He told me how can we date without exchanging numbers.
I told him we can meet up for the date through the app or through instagram
I also told him due to bad experiences giving my number out, i won't give number out easily
He then said OK, he then said why should we wait until next week for a date why not tomorrow
I straight away uncrushed him...
1) He was desperate for my phone number
2) He wanted to date me asap and I didn't even tell him that I had a child who needs babysitting whilst I am out
Its like he was just messing about, he didn't even wanna know me well on the dating app but wanna take my number asap
So was I right to uncrush him for those reasons?
He asked for my phone number (whatsapp), I told him that I don't know him well. He told me how can we date without exchanging numbers.
I told him we can meet up for the date through the app or through instagram
I also told him due to bad experiences giving my number out, i won't give number out easily
He then said OK, he then said why should we wait until next week for a date why not tomorrow
I straight away uncrushed him...
1) He was desperate for my phone number
2) He wanted to date me asap and I didn't even tell him that I had a child who needs babysitting whilst I am out
Its like he was just messing about, he didn't even wanna know me well on the dating app but wanna take my number asap
So was I right to uncrush him for those reasons?
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2 mo
Its such a put off and i hate desperate men like that
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Hey mama, from how you described the situation I think you made the right call unmatching with that guy. A few reasons:
- Pushing for your number right away without even getting to know you on the app is rude. Guys gotta earn trust.
- Demanding a date the next day when you JUST started chatting is super impatient and desperate. Major red flag there.
- He didn't even stop to find out about your life situation - like if you have a kid to look after. Dating takes consideration.
You were right to protect yourself since his behavior already raised some flags. Dating apps can attract some dudes just looking to hookup ASAP without caring who you are.
My advice would be only exchange numbers/socials when YOU feel ready and comfortable after chatting a good while on the app first. And a first date should always happen at your pace too when it fits into your schedule.
Any guy who can't respect those boundaries ain't worth it. Good call trusting your gut - you probably dodged some BS there! Keep doing you, sis, and don't settle for desperate dudes who don't care to get to know you.
Unfortunately In this case you were more in the wrong. I get it, you had a bad experience. But you matched and he is there to meet and date. Too often girls complain that guys just talk and talk and never ask them out
by the way if that happens again it’s ok to let him know that you are busy this week but can try for next weekend. That would give you time to talk and get to know him
but how do you ask for a woman's number several times begging for it when she refused? and he dont even know me well so why exchange numbers
how can u support creeps like that
He’s not a creep, you don’t know much about him like he doesn’t know much about you. You didn’t saying that he begged repeatedly for the phone number. He wanted to get a number (if he’s acting in good faith) to talk to you and not rely on texting on the app. That’s his way of getting to know more about you and you can use WhatsApp if you don’t want him having your information.
Now you may be getting lots of gentlemen and going on lots of dates? I can’t know. I just gave feedback based on what you said. And knowing that too often on dating apps people use them just to talk and never do end up meeting irl
he sounds so desperate