Oof girl, this situation is definitely confusing. A few things that stand out to me:
- His social anxiety could definitely be playing a role in pulling away now that things are getting more serious and involved your families meeting. Meeting new people is hard for him.
- The ex cheating on him in the past has probably made him really guarded with trust too. Even little things you do may trigger those fears.
- The mixed signals - wanting to spend so much time with you one minute then distancing all of a sudden - suggest he's feeling unsure and conflicting feelings. Pulling back is his way of dealing with that.
- 4 months is still pretty early to gauge how serious he really wants to take things. He may be getting cold feet without meaning to hurt you.
My advice would be to try having an honest conversation with him - share how his actions are making you feel and that communication is important to build trust. Hopefully he opens up about what's really going on in his head.
But you also need to think about whether this uncertainty is something you're willing to deal with long term if his anxieties don't improve. Protect yourself too, you know? Best thing may be seeing other people if he can't meet you halfway.
Whatever happens, just focus on your happiness sis! You've got this.
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