Sexted this guy online but he confuses me. Guys out there, please help me understand?

Question

I got bored one night and decided to get into one of those online chat rooms applications (don’t judge me).

I started chatting with this one guy. After a few words he asked me what I was wearing... and well you can guess what happened next. Somewhere in between he sent me gifs of his you know where, doing you know what. I shared nothing back, I don’t feel comfortable with sending nudes to strangers.

**This is where I gets weird** After we are done sexting he asked me my number, and that he wanted to be my “friend” insisted upon it. I refused. He knew immediately that I wouldn’t trust a stranger.

Next night, same thing happened but no pictures this time. He asked again... insisted upon the friendship thing. I told him we are strangers, and that to be my friend he needs to know me not just what I like in bed. We ended up agreeing in being online fu**buddies (but I don’t think he’s dropping the friends thing).

He’s just... WHY? Why does he want to be my friend, why ask for my number? Does he think one day we’ll have sex for real? That one of us is going to drive all the way to the other side of Texas to have sex? Is this is way of making me trust him and get nudes from me? What the f**** is going on here? We don’t even know what each other look like (just described ourselves in a very basic level no pics). For as long as I’ve been in that silly app, I’ve never ever had a guy like this... I thought guys liked sexting and anonymity, no strings or anything... so I’m just here going like “WTF”. I’m probably not the only girl he’s sexting and asking for numbers.

My question to you is... “What’s his game?” Guys our there, help me understand here.

Note: I don’t need a lesson on the dangers online, I’m a grown woman. I know how it works.

About: I’m 25 latina, he’s 28 white. We’re both in Texas. We have no idea what each other look like or anything at all about each other.

Thank you so much to those who answer.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The best way to deal with these kinda people is to block em... and honestly there are plenty of guy to sext around, so if someone is acting like a jerk, leave him over there, block him and since he doesn't know a thing about you... it's no harm 😊

Goddess_Gag18 · Accepted Answer

You never know who is on the other end of the line. He is strange for sure. He is playing head games. Don't trust him, girl, do not believe him. Don't ever give out a number until you know it appears to be cool. Don't be no one's fool online.

MrKinktastic · Accepted Answer

he's giving me the heebie jeebies reading your story for some reason... I dont like that he continued pressing after you said no.

TsubasaCorrupted · Accepted Answer

He is using the guise of friendship to get access to you offline in the hopes of sex

DavidRain · Answer

Hey.
From what I can tell it sounds like he wants you to trust him enough to send nudes. On top of that, if he got them, if he were going to brag to his mates, he'd need details to make it plausible, and so a 'friendship' would help that.
Alternatively, he could be extremely socially isolated and genuinely be reaching out to any sign of positive attention in his life, no matter how remote you are and awkward he is about it.
The third option is that, since you're in the same state, he may consider it possible - he might have family over this way who he visits, be looking at moving, or think that "it might just happen".

Any three of those options seem to be semi-plausible to me as an explanation of his mind, in descending order of probability. I hope this helps.

mattwojtak · Answer

Look at relationships, if you put more time into it you get more out of it. Maybe by being friends you may get to the point where you send nudes. Maybe he would offer to go and meet you for sex. These base reactions are powerful, there is a saying that goes "the power of (female) boners are stronger!" It actually was a battle cry for a generation and is still a strong belief in movies... look at what guys will do for girls and vice versa in movies especially romantic comedies. However I think you may be overlooking the big thing here, if he likes you, and feels that you and he connected on some metaphysical level, then friendship and potentially further is only natural. Nevertheless you do need to be careful too... It's amazing what someone can do with just a phone number.

Shauny_B · Answer

In my opinion, I think he is just changing his technique to find a way for u to get Ur kit off. Sorry to sound crude, but I get the impression he is seeing u as a good looking girl who is a bit of a challenge... The moment he gets what he wants he will be off and you will feel annoyed and betrayed

Eagle_Sam · Answer

It's simple.. having your number just to be able reach you easier than app.
Of course it's not for friendship
And yes he might had a fantasy that you might meet in real
No judgment I'm married and I don't want cheat in real on my wife while I'm not happy sexually so sometimes I go online try to get some sexually attractions and get things done
You might send some photos but try never do showing your face with nude body unless you know him/her
I guess yes he is trying to get close to you but belive me even sharing pictures will never satisfy him one day he will ask for cam later maybe his fantasy of sex with you might led him to meet you.

Anonymous · Answer

Well it might be he wants to be friends and have sex. Its a way to open you up and feel safe.
Also if you do fall for him trust me it is not that strange to love drive long distances for sex when your really borny or need someone to talk with.
He is trying to make you more than a sext and forget girl.

I say break it of and save yourself the heart ache he wants more and to be real. You seem to just want sex.

roughedges · Answer

Just a thought... Sure, he could be a creep but he may be craving the sound of a woman's voice. Sexting can be hot, but is in no way fulfiing.
Talking with someone on the phone is so much more personal. He may feel like he needs that.
It's sad! People don't talk on the phone any more. Everything is done by text. Text is a cop-out and is barely human interaction.

Afaq135 · Answer

First of all if you are so Independent Than You Shouldn't be worried
Second he is guy duded and if you were sexting with him than its surely meand that he'll try his very best to be physical with you ok
So if you don't want anything like that and just wanna have online fun than just get rid of him as soon as possible cause he has made up his mind and he is gonna stick to it

Samuel_george2017 · Answer

He honestly just found what you described sexy and what's a constant way to contact you. And he is a dude so he would drive across texas to have sex. Especially if he thinks you're a 10. But he probably isn't being thag weird about it. It honestly pretty hard to find females who are open to sexting or fwbs. Young women now days want these long lasting marriage potential type relationships and he is just happy he found one who isn't

Soupaman21 · Answer

Hola! Well, us guys tend to think with the wrong head when it comes to women. Especially when the chick is willing to carry on a sext message chain. It only intensifies the mystery that is actual sex. I've been in his shoes. I've done the sexting, sending nudes/videos and I get nothing back. But I was expecting. And lost interest instantly. That could be his motive. Only time will tell. And if he's sticking around. Then maybe he's for real. Only time will tell. Hope I helped a bit. :)

alsalman007 · Answer

Beware of fraudsters. They play well with emotions and get what they want. Best to date is a guy or girl whom you know in person or whom you have met at least once.

Futurelooker · Answer

I think he likes not only getting nude sexy pictures but doing sexting over the phone. That maybe the reason for asking your number.

bacca400 · Answer

He might want to talk to you in person to continue his fantasy. in my opinion sexting is just a fantasy thing.  But good idea not trusting him.

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

1) There's no such thing as "game"-- he wants to have sex with you. It's very, very simple. 2) Why do your ages and races matter that you'd even mention them.

Amir7496 · Answer

I think this guy is not very good with girls in real world. Maybe he, s shy and want to find a girlfriend in social media. Or maybe he is not who says he is. And here comes Danger.

TheDarkWolfSif · Answer

Well as friends, you two can sext whenever you want. As just strangers, he might not have another chance with you.

You need to tell him straight up you won’t do anything your uncomfortable with though, and threaten to leave if he refuses to listen.

Snusmumriken · Answer

He just wants to f*** really, or to be f*** buddies. It isn't really much deeper than that.

Roooni · Answer

You're analysis is correct.. why you confusing yourself just drop it and move on

Anonymous · Answer

It sounds like he is hoping to take the relationship beyond just online, though a bit fast. he's probably lonely and you indulged him. Been there before and the best way to handle it is to be upfront if you have no desire for a real relationship. Just tell him its a strictly online anonymous thing. He might decide thats not what he's looking for and leave but dont take it personal, its most likely he just doesn't want that kind of tease (like having a cake behind a lock you'll never get lol)

annoguy19 · Answer

Well be carefull with this dude. I dont know his intentions, but he is trying to manipulate you. I dont think he wants something serious. Either that or his social skill are not very well. If i were in your shoes, i would cut off contact

lazermazer · Answer

Sexting != Sex  He wants to fcuk you in real life and move on.  It’s rare if you really became friend.

Sexted this guy online but he confuses me. Guys out there, please help me understand?

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