Church girls don't date from the same church?

[Anonymous]

I notice most church girls don't date guys from the same church.

They would either find boyfriends outside and try to bring them to church to convert them or wait till they are leaving the church before making a move on a guy.

One of the church girls said, "It's better to date a guy from outside the church so that it's easier to break up if we go on our separate ways."

Is this what every church girl thinks?

[jennifer_bloom]

I view dating a guy at your church the way I view eating a lamb you killed yourself, it’s awkward and weird. My friend was so involved in his church that it was like a full time job for him and he never tried to date a girl at his church because he viewed it as exploiting God for personal gain.

[Asker]

"Eating a lamb you killed yourself" meaning that guy is home-bred (same church) and that it's weird to date him? Is it because it's like dating a brother?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo man, dating in the church can definitely be tricky. But I wouldn't say every church girl thinks that way.

For some girls, they may wanna date outside at first just to avoid potential drama if things don't work out. Like if it's a small church community, a breakup could make things messy.

But I also think a lot depends on the individual girl. Some may see more value in dating a fellow believer who gets their faith. And breaking up doesn't necessarily mean cutting that person out of your life completely if y'all go to the same church.

Personally, I'd say don't rule out church girls too quickly. But also don't put all your eggs in the church basket either. Get to know a girl for who she is, not just if she's "from church" or not.

And the best thing is usually just being a genuine dude with integrity. Treat girls, whether from church or not, with respect. That'll serve you well wherever you end up meeting someone special. Just my two cents man!

[LazerBean]

I dated and married someone from my same church. But I will say, everyone I know who dated from the same church then broke up, it did screw up the dynamic and one of them always left the church. So if you're going to screw up your choices, better to do it outside your group.