To all girls who got cheated on and the guys who are against cheating, What advice would you give to single girls who are entering into relationships?

[Anonymous]

[JacobJordan]

Don't ignore the redflags you just saw because you think he is nervous or anxious or whatever he just showed you a glimpse of his true colors. Shitty people are incapable of showing you some of their red flags very early. So do yourselves a favor and when you see those... run.

Second bit of advice know what the redflags are. Things you don't like are not redflags. Redflags are largely universal. When a guy shows you a redflag super early know that that is your queue to leave because he meant it and he will mean it the next 5 times he shows you. And eventually he will escalate into very obvious abuse at which point you will be wondering why you didn't see it. You did... you ignored it. Consider this your wake up call to stop ignoring them

[TommyMountainFigure]

You have a firewall on your computer.. right? The purpose of it is to protect you against those who would do your computer harm..

Until you have a very good insight into the person you are entering a relationship with. be like the firewall. Guard yourself from letting them in psychologically.

If they are worthy, they will treat you like you want to be treated. Only then should you let your guard down!

[TommyMountainFigure]

Thank you for selecting my answer as most helpful.

[Rei13]

I am not a hundred percent sure if my first boyfriend cheated on me or not, but he broke up with me regardless. I would say most of my actual ex-boyfriends were decent people even if it didn’t work out. I think one of the biggest indicators on how they will be with you is how they talk about previous relationships or their family members and friends. If every ex-girlfriend was crazy he is the common denominator. Was he unfaithful in the past? What is his relationship like with his parents, siblings, friends, etc? How does he treat you? (Is he distant or coming on way too strong for example) What potential red flags is he giving off? Is he someone that you feel like you can ‘change’? You can generally tell. Also don’t be so quick to have sex with him. Sure it can be fun but you can weed a lot of men based on how they act towards you, or react in general, to you abstaining. Another important factor is how open he is to you or does he keep a lot to himself, does he hide his phone from you (not saying you should go through it but if someone has something to hide they’ll either never leave their phone unintended or they’ll turn it from you when using it)

[ohsheeT]

When we were born we were all giving a gift that gives his choice

We get to choose who we want to be in life by the things we say and do

When you enter into a relationship you have to have your own rules your own boundaries and you have to follow through do not sell yourself short.

People come into our lives and they open new doors for us they bring something new you go out and do things together and you become happy remember that happiness came from the inside of you you're the only one that can bring happiness to yourself and sadness to yourself.

Whoever comes into your life just opens up those new doors for you to experience new things.

Before you give yourself away to this person make sure that's who you want to do it..

Make sure it's for the right reasons..
8 out of 10 guys are going to say whatever they want to say to get into your pants..

8 out of 10 guys are selfish when making love they're only thinking of themselves if a guy gets on top of you last 2 minutes and is finished and wants to leave he's not for you..

Make a guy prove himself to you before you give in to him..

Your first relationship your second relationship probably won't last I'm sorry to say the odds are against that

Find yourself first figure out who you are who you want to be and go from there don't you just jump into anything..

Become one with yourself one with others one with the universe do not get caught up in other people's judgments or drama because that will hold you back all your life

[zeitgeist057]

Be wary of him if he is constantly accusing you of cheating, and doesn't trust you. It's those people who think someone is cheating on them, it's a reflection of their own guilty desire and motivations, and perhaps even what they are either doing or will do with the opportunity presented.

Much like a liar accuses others of lying, and a thief is overly concerned that others might steal. It is a reflection of the mindset.

[OlderAndWiser]

Dn't be so eager to jump into bed with him. what and get to know him, wait for some feelings to develop, and eventually have sex beause of the emotional desire to be closer instead of just having sex because you're horny. Make sure that the guy respects you and the relationship and doesn't just see you as a fun time w hen you're naked.

[honeynut-scenarios]

You are going to get cheated on at least once in your life time. There’s nothing you can do to prepare for that, but you’ll get yourself through it. You will not marry your first, second, or third love, or maybe you will… You will know if he loves you, and you’d never question it. Save heartache by being particular. Know that if he is not ‘husband material’ when you meet, more than likely, nothing you do alone will change him. Only he can change himself…if he wants to… and he probably doesn’t. Be so madly in-love with yourself that such a thing would hardly phase you.

[superchan2011]

Well I would say that while you won't know for sure if a person will turn out to be a cheater until you have a relationship with them, that generally speaking you shouldn't rush into anything with the person you're interested in. Start out as friends and really get to know each other before you start getting real committed. That way as you get to know each other you will overtime see what their really about and if there's any major red flags to be seen they will show before your in way too deep and too emotionally invested.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Become close friends with your love interests for a good while before going on a single date. Only date people you know really well for whom the people in your community can also vouch for on top; don't date in order to get to know them.

That also makes it impossible to ever be ghosted, for example, since dating within your community means you'll have to see each other (unless the person leaves the entire community behind to ghost you; they'd have to ghost their entire community).

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

That is how I met my wife after I almost gave up on dating and relationships. She became my closest friend for a year, hanging out together all the time with the rest of our friends, for almost a year before we started dating. I knew she was a decent person and she knew I was, both through each other and through our mutual friends, already by our first date.

It was the same for my little sister in the US. She almost gave up on dating and relationships (she actually even tried online dating). Then she met her husband at a home party and they became close friends for around half a year, hanging out with their mutual friends, before going on a single date.

[jahaims]

Be happy and secure with who you are as a person prior to entering a relationship. Take your time and make sure you have the same morals, values and goals. Don't make it sexual beyond flirting and kissing for a few months. Read obvious signs using common sense. You basically have to put blind trust in a partner and risk being burnt but using everything you know to not get burnt. If you get cheated on a lot that probably just means you aren't smart and you can't see the signs or read people.

[_justimagineit_]

Dn't be so eager to jump into bed with him. what and get to know him, wait for some feelings to develop, and eventually have sex beause of the emotional desire to be closer instead of just having sex because you're horny. Make sure that the guy respects you and the relationship and doesn't just see you as a fun time w hen you're naked.

[strateguy632]

must specified we must be exclusive. maybe bluff "i am waiting until wedding" to see the type of reply.

[JHAYES317]

Stop looking for the perfect guy physically or financially instead look for the perfect guy spiritually, emotionally, and mentally because ultimately where you are both old together that’s what counts…

[didichi]

Be patient and listen to your intuition. Your body will react if he’s not the one. Trust, I had that experience lots of times.

[lilyanony1]

Trust your gut.
If you stay get therapy together.
If you leave know it wasn't your fault.

[Sameone]

Don't trust
Don't believe everything
Be careful
And try to test him

[Anonymous]

Stay away from people who are self centered and don’t have regard for others. If someone cares about you and they are doing something that bothers you they will make an effort to stop if they only care about themselves they will just try to hide it

[Nikki1989]

Stop overthinking and being so insecure over cheating. It will happen to you eventually. Get over it.

[IslaTheWitch]

respect yourself

[laly520]

not to trust easily

[OtterMan68]

Be open and honest and look for red flags

[CallmeTheKnight]

Advice pertaining to what? Cheating?