Have you ever liked someone only to find out they only wanted to be friends? What did you say?

[Pinay_ako]

What did you do/say?

[MG1004]

Yes, I misread the signs and felt so awkard and embarrassed, I wanted to run away and hide under a rock. Thankfully the person was great and I was up for being open and honest. Super nervous.

I still blush at my...

Sometimes lol

[MrDaveAPSI]

All the time. And even then, they wind up either staying away, or worse, blocking you, like this immature little brat of a girl who literally kissed me, then blocked me as if it never happened

[blueonblack22]

If they say that early in the process I will remain calm and respond “well it was nice to meet you. However I was interested in dating but I understand if you’re not interested. I’m not angry but I don’t do the friend zone. I wish you the best though”.

That’s being honest without getting angry. But I also have too much self respect to be used as someone’s “friend”. Because it will never be a true friendship. Those feelings don’t switch off like a light switch. However I know I have no right to get upset if someone isn’t interested. Sure it’s disappointing and heartbreaking but that’s how it is.

However when I’ve pursued a woman for quite a while and she says something like that I get pissed. Really pissed. Especially if she’s over 30.

Reason being is she knew damn well all along I was interested but decided to play dumb because she likes the attention. It’s not a sex/love issue but rather a respect issue that I get so angry about. Reason being is the other person knows they have emotional leverage over the interested person and they took advantage of it.

When a woman says that to me (if I known her for while) she’s literally telling me she views me as another woman and not a real man. And again at a certain age women should understand men well enough to know that’s an extremely deep insult. Even if it’s not meant that way there comes a point women should know better to say something like that.

The proper response in that scenario would be:

Joe I think you are a decent man and I respect you. But out of respect I have to be honest. I am just not interested. I know that’s not what you want to hear but you need to know where I stand. I would like to still be friends but if that’s too difficult for you then I’ll understand if you go along your way.

That above is the right way to handle it because you are being conscientious about someone’s feelings and yet you are being tactfully honest about where you stand. You let them know where you stand while be considerate about how they feel.

I have only come across a small handful of women in my life who have shown that level of tact and respect. Sure it burned getting rejected but after the initial shock I calmed down because they showed me respect. And respect is not the same thing as likeability. Attraction is not a choice but respect is.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Yes, actually I have a prime example. She's the woman of Indian descent on my cover page (together with her husband in that picture).

I really liked her the first time I met her in a bar. We were talking a lot and so I dashed to the store near the bar to buy some construction paper and pencil and white chalk so that I could sketch her portrait.

She looked Disney character to me with those huge eyes and she had a type of combination of mischief and innocence which I found so attractive along with very enthusiastic body language. Like instead of just saying, "Yep," she'd say, "Yes-yes-yes-yes-YES!" It was so fun talking to her given her enthusiasm.

So I asked her out on a date after our conversation and she rejected me and told me only dates Hindu guys. Aww, shucks. So that was a major bummer but I was used to being rejected by that point and so I said, "No problem"! and we just kept chatting and becoming the best of friends while we dated other people, like brother and sister.

Later she ended up inviting me to a picnic and introduced me to a new friend she made. That new friend would become my wife.

[777GgG]

Yes, an old coworker/friend.

But he has initially led me on. He was flirty with me, kept asking to take me out, calling me beautiful, and making sexual comments and saying we'd be cute together.

Then one day texted me while we were working, asking if I had any single friends... I went up to him like 'bro you know I like you".

He friend zoned me. I let hims know he was jerk leading me on. He apologized and disappeared.

Turns out he was on drugs and ended up getting fired 🤷🏾‍♀️ guess I dodged a bullet.

He messaged me recently actually. Apologized some more and blamed his behavior and the initial drug use and a later relapse. Think he just celebrated his sober birthday..

[Pinay_ako]

Ouch

[silyt_ghoest]

yes, and i was wildly in love with her for years. I was okay with being her best friend, and watching her be happy with other people, as long as she was happy. she ended up being a shitty person in the end, though.

[Biancam13]

I think this is a rarer occurrence for women. Guys usually don't friend zone you, they f-zone you instead or just don't associate with you.

[NathanDavis]

nope... I never get ahead of the train

don't want to get wrecked like that... lol

[RavVid]

I don't think there is much to say. I might be tempted to say I have guys to be friends with.

[genericname85]

yup. shit sucks. tried to somehow in her over for far too long and then broke up the friendship.

[Fuentes]

Never happen before everybody likes me, it's like a movie star.

[Nikki1989]

Nah, very rare when that happens to me.

[MrPickles13]

Multiple times. Tbh I think I just thanked them for me honestly and then didn't really stay in touch with them.

[YevBor]

Just stay friends. Friends never be too many.

[dolemite58]

Everyone has, I just say I have enough friends and move along.

[sing_in_the_shower]

Ivw been friendzoned by basically ever woman I've ever dated

[NewgodOmega]

Nope never happened to me
I was mgtow before I knew about mtgow

[In_Trance]

This never happens to me

[msc545]

Yes, I have. Quite painful if I remember correctly

[RMSTitanic]

Thought so, but then got ghosted anyways

[bananathunder]

Yeah and it sucks 😕

[BLP11520]

Several times 😐