There are many question options bc I’m not only interested in IF it happened but HOW it happened. What was it that was important to you beyond friendship, that was unattainable. Being in a friendship when you have greater feelings for someone can be frustrating or painful but we are not all bothered by the same loss nor do we all prioritize the same experiences, so in light of that I wanted to get into the weeds a bit.
Thanks!C’est la vie….
Yes. I wanted a full on relationship and he or she wanted to be only friends.
Yes. I wanted sex and he or she wanted to be only friends.
Yes. I wanted love and he or she wanted to be only friends.
Yes, I wanted something generally beyond friendship and he or she wanted to be only friends..
No, I have never wanted more than friendship and been told “I just want to be friends” I’ve been rejected. But no friend request was made.
No. I have never been rejected when I wanted more than friendship, in whatever way I wanted it.
Honestly I’m not sure… 🤔
Select gender and age to cast your vote:
Please select your age
Updates
+1 y
Hmm I think the question should’ve been has anyone ever tried to friend zone you bc obviously it can’t happen without consent. But someone still could’ve tried 🧐
Have you been friend zoned (you wanted more than friendship — sex love commitment etc) and the other person said they only wanted to be friends?
It's happened several times in my life, the basis of all of them I met a girl make friends with them and a few months pass by and I realize that I actually like them. After a few more weeks I finally tell them how I feel and get rejected. Most of them end up going pretty well and let me down easy but still sucked in the end though. Then every time at some point might be a few weeks or even months I eventually just leave and just stop being friends with them period. Don't talk with them unless I have to, don't text them, don't hang out with them whatsoever. I'm not hostile or anything with them I just don't make any real effort to be friends anymore.
Just too painful to stick around, I'd rather leave and try to date someone else rather than sit and let bitter feelings stew than sit around pretending I don't want more with a girl. I'm not interested in being the guy that is sitting around and waiting for the possibility a girl changes her mind, I'd rather have some pride and do something productive. Doesn't seem like a proper friendship if one of us is platonic and the other is romantic to me I mean can you even call yourselves friends in that case? Because I don't think it is.
Yeah I think this is wise. Sometimes when you haven’t known each other long, being rejected will zap whatever feelings you had but less likely once you e been friends. Of course sometimes we just lose the feelings which is lovely, but mostly it’s prob best to just move on 😊
It seems in relationships, it's first come first serve. Sometimes people mostly women wants to focus on themselves, but then again that can just be lies just to find someone else they find attractive.
For an example: My girlfriend said that she needed time to focus on herself since she got her family, and her job and her college degree. But then, three hours later she's texting me pictures of her new boyfriend both giving me the middle finger. After she specifically told me that you were just going to focus on herself and she told me that she lied because she says I was only falling in love with her for sex. We only saw each other three times throughout the entire relationship and this is what she says to be. Some of it was true. but as a gentleman, I was waiting for her to make the move on me. I don't like putting the moves on females cuz I don't want them to think that I'm a rapist or something. Sometimes being a gentleman has a downfall, waiting for a woman to feel comfortable and she's ready to give herself to the person she likes or loves.
Since super powers aren't real, it's ultimately extremely hard to know who wants to be friends and who wants a relationship or who's lying about being friends just to find another relationship with somebody else. If superpowers were real, then the best super powers to use for situations like these is memory reading, telepathy, lie detection, truth detection, thought detection, and speech prediction. But since superpowers ain't real everybody including me have to do it the old-fashioned way with only a 50-50 chance that relationships will happen and friendships will just stay the same.
Yup. Happened to me. I started developing more feelings and he said he did too but didn't wanna act on them. And I was ok with that but for me personally if I have feelings for someone and they don't have the same feelings, then I need to distance myself in order for me to deal with them. He didn't wanna let me do that. So I essentially let myself get strung along for years.
Actually yeah. One of my best friends. When we first met I wanted to fuck real bad, but he had a huge crush on someone else. We never hooked up, he got with her, and now they're both some of my best friends.
I choose D, because A, B and C all applied to me so D was more general. If I could of choose all that applied I would of selected A through D.
Me personally I never met a girl that I was interested in that I was not attracted to in some way sexually. Which means there was also a possibility for a relationship or any thing more than just friendship.
Yes I have met women I wanted to be friends with, but again there was always the underlying frustration of wanting sexy from the friendship. I have met women that I totally did not want to be friends with or liked in the least, but I totally wanted to bang her really bad. This was purely physical attraction and she had some type of serious sex appeal... despite being devoid of any real personality.
I could just be friends with a women, with sexy... but as soon as she makes it known that sex is out of the picture, I lose interest and move on to more fruitful endeavors. I have never really been into just friends type things. Just being friends with a girl without sex is like giving it away for free to me.
Yeah about a year ago. I worked with this woman for a couple years. I always found her attractive but she had never shown any interest in me. All of a sudden her back and forth with me began to take on a suggestive nature. And she was initiating it. So finally after about a month of this I asked her out. Did I take to long? Maybe. But at any rate she agreed to go out with me. Then later she changed her mind and said she wanted to remain friends. Eventually I concluded she had minimal if any interest in me. She was using me for some sort of ego boost. I tried to remain friends with her afterwards but anytime I said anything she'd try to twist into I was making a pass at her. And after being rejected I don't do that with any woman. So naturally it offended me. Finally I just cut off contact with her I found it to be the best course of action. But then she would track me down and start conversations that I was always looking to end lol. Then she got angry that I was avoiding her and tried to get me in trouble with my boss. I stayed firm just answered honestly. Told myself she would either stop eventually or she'd destroy her credibility completely with her lies. After about a year of it she up and quit. I still feel bad for her as she seemed very unhappy. But regardless I wish her well.
Happened to me in the past. It started out as a friendship and the more time I spent with her, the more attracted I grew because I genuinely enjoyed her company and personality because it was similar to mine, just her being more extroverted.
One day I went forward and laid it out how I felt, and that was the biggest mistake of my life. I not only lost a friend, but I lost a woman I really enjoyed my time with. For what seems to be the way to go these days, going friendship first is more than likely going to result in only being a friendship and watching the other date somebody else instead of you. If you start with the intention of being a lover, it is more likely to go that route.
The worst feeling is losing the friendship and knowing you can't see them the way they see you and it is just going to be awkward and painful to keep it that way and pretend you are okay with it.
I’m sorry you lost your friend. I can’t tell which way is better tho. How could we know bc the friendships firsts that didn’t work already didn’t work snd plenty of people get rejected when they go for lovers. I’m not sure how we’d measure it. It’s probably a mix of whst works perfectly person plus how they feel. Me I’m no good at jumping into stuff but bring friends first doesn’t make me develop feelings for someone either. I basically do friends with potential bc I know at the start if I feel a connection but I’m not ready to see about it for a LONG time. Many people won’t wait either, it’s understandable tho
I've been rejected, never friendzoned. If I get rejected by a friend, I do the necessary thing and cut them off.
For me it's not sex that defines a non-platonic relationship it's.. I'm not sure, emotional commitment? Romantically, I want to be found special, prioritized before others in their life. That's what a partner is to me, and I guess I want to be seen that way by them as well.
A friend just doesn't do this for me, a friend has no obligations towards me and I can't expect any real commitment from them. It would just feel like crap to know I'm not that important to someone who is so important to me.
I'm not sure what the reason for the invite is : )
No, I've never been friendzoned (maybe). Maybe because I'm too shy? I think the prespective people go along with is sort of wrong because I don't know if you can propose a more intimate relationship and your understanding of each other just changes and deepens just (to a good enough degree) just because they accept. The goals is to know and understand the person and.. find them interesting and just communicate. Maybe do things together. It's not a quanitised thing where one day something is x and the other day it changes without much happening.
I think your angle is actually very common but then at some point one person may be unsure if there is an even development so they ask… at some point no matter how organic stuff is going, both people need to know for sure what’s going on. And for some, just jumping in makes sense. I’m not one of those tho lol
Lol thank you for being a sport and asking the question.
But no matter what reason it was , just wanted to know which gender got more friendzoned than other
Above is just the reasons for getting friendzoned what we will do with that if they are friend zone it's over 👻.
There is lot of distraction.
Anyways you are a girl probably you will get more poll results but i don't know how will you classify which gender got more friendzoned based on the polls you created
You have the ratio. By asking people if it happened to them you still get the info you want bc of the color code for girls and boys, but from personal account not generalizations about other people like what may happen if you ask generally.
I'm a guy who is not a celebrity nor in the top 5% of looks, so, OF COURSE I HAVE, and so has every other straight guy who shares that description. The men who haven't experienced this are the few exceptions to the rule.
I suspect that there are celebs who have more-or-less been very attractive since puberty and haven't really been friend-zoned by anyone they had strong feelings for, but not every celebrity is as attractive, and so, sure, some definitely had that experience as well.
Well tbh skyscrapper girl, i'm only seeking for serious relationships which leads to marriage, if i meet a girl, i tell her from the 1st date what i want and she will tell me what she wants, in the past there are a lot of girls who only wanted to be friends and i wanted more so i went my way and they went their way...
It's been years or should i say more than a decade since i last talked with a girl for date or for love or anything else...
I'm about to become 36, i'm not so encouraged to be like the past or to seek for a girl, i just say that if god put a girl in my way and she was the one so be it, other than that i'm so lazy to jump here and there to find someone the way i used to do when i was teenager or in my early 20's...
It's not that i don't want to, it's because i had a past which caused me a lot of pain and made me become a lot less encouraged to seek love...
The whole term makes it 100% you don't get friendzoned if you want less. Any attempt to put me there will make me walk away. I am not wasting my time with her. I really don't put girls there either, if they decide to orbit it's their choice. Unless they actually improve their worth some how, it's futile. I am probably not even revaluating them.
Girls did it to me all the time when I was younger. Almost all of them, no, actually, all of them ended up single moms, old hags with no kids and no man, divorced single moms forced to hook up with mega simps. Fine. Try friend zoning me now and see what happens
I don't think I've been friendzoned but I have definitely done the friendzoning. There is a girl right now who is very much into me but I've made it as clear as I can that I'm not into her. She is still trying though. Despite me being as blunt as I can.
Since I have never approached any woman or asked them out, this never happened to me, except for one time, but that was through texting and honestly I was happy that she was not into me
Home > Relationships > Polls > Have you been friend zoned (you wanted more than friendship — sex love commitment etc) and the other person said they only wanted to be friends?
Girl's Behavior 
Guy's Behavior 
Flirting 
Dating 
Relationships 
Fashion & Beauty 
Health & Fitness 
Marriage & Weddings 
Shopping & Gifts 
Technology & Internet 
Break Up & Divorce 
Education & Career 
Entertainment & Arts 
Family & Friends 
Food & Beverage 
Hobbies & Leisure 
Other 
Religion & Spirituality 
Society & Politics 
Sports 
Travel 
Trending & News 
