I feel like I'm come off really bad and shallow I'm this but here goes.
I made friends with this guy about a year ago. We instantly connected as friends and I found him so funny and kind.
He'd always put himself down for his looks because he has a bold patch on the back of his head and he has two front teeth missing due to a having cancer a couple years prior but I'd always try and reassure him and tell him he wasn't that bad looking at all and if he got himself out there more he'd find the right person.
He's made passes at me a couple times and made it very obvious he likes me but respected I just wanted us to be friends eventually. The thing is he has a lot of trauma. His dad walked out when he was young, his mother is mentally ill and often kicks him out the house and hits him meaning he's sofa surfing most the time and he's been through a lot with his cancer, he's also struggled with being bisexual and I'm not sure how much of that I could handle.
I do really admire him to though he's been so much and is still getting up and going and trying his best to succeed at life and is always there for me when I need someone to talk to when I know he's probably going through a hell a lot worse then me.
Recently he's had a bit if a glow up and been promoted at work. He's gotten himself so new teeth, had his hair down really smart and is dressing really good too and I'm starting to become really attracted to him physically but I don't want to come off shallow because I've always thought he was great even before his glow up just it's great to see him doing well for himself and its actually kinda sexy seeing a man getting his life together without anyone's help or complaining. Knowing he's had it real hard in his life and is fighting just as hard to better it for himself is pretty impressive compared to other men his age these days.
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Here's what I think, girl... I'd say go for it! Look, you've clearly got real feelings for this guy beyond just physical stuff. You care about him as a person and have always seen his good heart, even through all the crap he deals with.
That's way more important than looks or any of that surface stuff. And it sounds like being your friend this past year has really helped him come into his own too. He's clearly got a lot of love to give when he's in a better headspace.
I say take the chance! Life's too short not to put yourself out there with someone who truly gets you, you know? Have an honest chat, tell him how much you care about him, his glow up is icing on the cake but you've always cared for him inside and out.
Worst that can happen is it gets weird for a bit. But you've been friends this long, I bet you guys could work it out either way. And think of how happy you could both be if it does work out! You never know till you try. Go for it sis, you got this!
Hmmm well it could definitely seem like you like him all of a sudden because he changed how he looks but liking at it from his point of view. If I were him and I changed my looks and the girl I liked once started liking me I mean I would just see it as the changes in appearance paid off
I say tell him you like him
I mean he did it to you and still respected the friendship so if it doesn't work, I suppose you guys should still be able to be friends
Tell him, fuck it