What do you feel is a big turn-off on a date that people don't realise they're doing?

[SOMEHOTMEAL]

[jennifer_bloom]

I don't look for good qualities in a guy, I look for the absence of bad qualities when deciding who to date. So it does not matter if he is 6 feet tall and educated, I will choose the 5"6 average I. Q. guy that does not have any flaws.

[LittleMelissa9614]

Not talking to me much, no manners, bad behavior in general, and doesn't pay on the first date. If you ask the person out on a first date, they might expect you to pay on the first date. Any dates after that, then you two can figure that out. Split the bill once in a while, one person pay on one date and then the other person can pay on the next one. It depends who decides to pay to where and what they want.

[dolemite58]

One thing I've noticed some girls do when they seem nervous is instead of letting the conversation flow organically they just start answering questions that nobody asked yet. Like just blurting out things details about themselves instead of letting the conversation naturally go there.

[itsclearlynicholas]

They don't wipe their mouths when waiting, bad cutlery manners, they lick their fingers, I could go on 😊

[itsclearlynicholas]

*when eating not waiting. Typo 😂

[wiltingrosepetal]

Asking certain questions on the first date. I was once asked what my kinks were, 10-15 minutes into a date. Please, bro, slow your roll.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Were 18 at the time to be asked such questions, otherwise that's super uncomfortable potentially illegal for such a date to be asking you those *kink questions* as you say

[wiltingrosepetal]

Oh yeah, this was a couple months ago, don't worry 😅

[sage2021]

When the dude doesn't have any manners and also licks their entire finger, one at a time. I don't mean a quick lick at the tip of his one finger either.

I mean get a frickin napkin and learn how to use it.

[Flatmanlewis]

Phone use. Bad manners, particularly to wait & service staff (says a LOT about what kind of person you are) Dressing poorly. Talking about your ex. Poor grammar or language.

[BonzoInBitburg]

Complaining. I don't care if it's a legit complaint, I don't want to hear it on a date.

[itsclearlynicholas]

A real ball breaker, no? 🤯

[molonski2]

I'm with Coach on the phone , man that shts me , and here it just happens all the time , you have a person in front of you , and you want to answer messages? arrggghh , this is so fcken rude.

[ProbablyClueless]

People put their level of anger/bitterness/resentment on full display when on first dates. Pay attention to the things they laugh at, the stories they tell, how they react to the waitstaff, etc.

[StarsInTheEyes]

Texting people or reading messages on their smartwatches during the date.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Come now, it's a modern world? 😄

[itsclearlynicholas]

That there is a 2007 old hat attitude 😭

[StarsInTheEyes]

"Modern world"? I think that's just an excuse for poor manner. How would you feel if you went on date with a girl and she's on her phone texting people 100 minutes out of 2 hours, instead of listening to you, getting to know you, and telling you about her?

I know my value and worth. I have better things to do than to spend my time with guys who are going to be texting others while on dates with me.

[StarsInTheEyes]

People wouldn't be texting while on job interviews, would they?

[Nikki1989]

Phone usage. Just do everyone a favour and leave the damn thing home.

[LiamJHayden]

Talking about exes, constantly checking their phones, being less than courteous to the server.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Bad hand / wipe manners, mouths, fingers, 🤢🤮

[coachTanthony]

Starring at their phone

[laly520]

sexualizing everything
bad manners
telling bunch of white lies

[sheikalana]

Bad manners. Too many compliments. Placing their hand over our waist.

[SolitarySolace]

Asking a man for his salary. We’re done here, Check please

[NathanDavis]

asking certain questions, way too soon...

[In_Trance]

Self-deprecation or lack of conviction are two big ones

[mandyfire98]

Any insecure behavior or line of questioning.

[IslaTheWitch]

playing cocky playboy :D

[DryGermanGuy]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0CqG1Bkmz4c

[IslaTheWitch]

@DryGermanGuy lmao
Genial!!

[Harshbro]

Being unnattractive is the only turnoff. Language is manmade means nothing for attraction

[Romasona]

Disconnection and bad manners

[DrPepper12]

PUT. THE. PHONE. DOWN!!