People in relationships, do you miss the dating scene?

[rkuchiki123]

A friend of mine has been with his girlfriend, who he met on Hinge, for 3 months. Last night, he told me he sometimes kinda missed using Hinge. He's not going to act on this feeling, said it was probably a "grass is greener on the other side" thing, but I found it weird/interesting. My other friends in relationships (and these friends are 1+ years long) don't seem to get this feeling. At most, they miss being independent or the early relationship butterflies. This friend was basically saying he missed dating/flirting around. I've been using Hinge and am ready to delete it, so I don't know if how he feels is normal or not.

[Ozanne]

Being online and getting sexual attention can be addictive. Once someone finds someone, it's telling if someone feels the need to carry on on these apps, or feels that they miss it some time later. They're no longer feeling that thrill of being new and interesting by other men/women.

To me, that's more of a problem than they're letting on. These are bad habits that don't seem to go away, as these apps are always out there, in our faces, and we have friends that constantly bring them up in conversation, triggering that curiosity to get back online and see what's missing.

The point of finding someone and staying monogamous is that you've found what you're looking for. If slipping into bad online habits is done because they're not satisfied, then they are not ready for their special someone yet. Anyone addicted to these apps to talk to others is not doing their partner any favours -- knowing it's wrong, because they know if their partner was doing it to them, they'd snap!

To answer your question, NO, I do not miss the dating scene whatsoever. I've been married for many years, and before that, had three live-in/serious relationships, and probably a dozen or so short/casual relationships, all the while having to go through the nonsense of the lies people tell to impress a person, and also finding out the sad realization that we're just not meant for each other. Some parting amicably, some not.

I was lucky that most of my dating time was spent offline. The introduction of dating sites happened in my 30s, and I used some of those sites for such a short period of time as back in the mid-late 2000s, already people were showing signs of fakery, over sexualizing their profiles, and coming on too strong with gutsy talk of sex or intimacy trying to get me titillated. I saw through it all, and hated what the online world was turning in to for singles. Thankfully I met my husband in person, organically. I feel like it's a rarity these days.

I can tell you that if anything happened to my marriage, I'd happily embrace my time as a single woman to catch my breath from it all.

[BlackBeauty90]

@rkuchiki123 - Hinge is a "dating site" where you hook up more than you actually date so of course your friend misses it.

He likely isn't someone meant for more than cheap sex, flings & friends with benefits relationships and so a real relationship is too much for him to handle.

[JackCarter]

I don't know what makes people assume that they can't date or flirt each other after they are in a relationship...((

[SolitarySolace]

I can't remember the last time I was on a date and I honestly don't want to go on any.

[Anonymous]

I do sometimes. I miss the freedom of being able to talk to people and getting to know them. That exciting new feeling. But I wouldn’t trade what I have for it

[Nikki1989]

Dating was fun but being married is even better than that.

[jaskin777]

No if u want to date another person ur not truly in love

[DextroShade]

The modern dating scene is a total shitshow.

[sheikalana]

I prefer married life than dating life.

[HelpfulWoman]

That hellish place? Heck no.

[Jkgordon]

I never miss the dating scene it’s overrated

[lightbulb27]

not at all

[Sparkie460]

No not at all.