Or would that eliminate the thrill of the chase? Is there a way a girl should tell you what she wants that would be less off-putting and more appealing?
Ex 1, she indirectly lets you know what she likes by talking about what she's learned what she needs based on what other men succeeded or failed to do, whereby you can infer her needs and decide whether you can or want to be better than them.
Ex2, she directly says she likes it when men do xyz, and asks you if that works for you.
It'd cut down on a LOT of wasted time if she'd come right out and say what she wants and what kind of woman she is. It might keep you from wasting years of being with her only to find out a decade or so later that you're NOT what she's looking for.
People who DON'T know what they're looking for will go to various stores and look at lots of different versions of the stuff they wanna get before they decide on whatever comes the closest even though it's NOT exactly what they had in mind and will just settle on what they end up and try to make do with it, at least until some better version comes along. People that KNOW what they want, go to the store to buy exactly what they want and, if that store doesn't have it, they won't stop looking `til they find it and buy exactly that!
I would much rather find what I'm looking for than make do with second best or a pale facsimile until the right thing comes along.
I just prefer a girl to be honest with me and not be around the bush with me. If she is interested in me , she is best to be honest to me about what she wants with me. When a girl is honest to me, it’s a huge turn on and it makes me respect and appreciate her more. Sadly most people have a hard time being honest about what they really want , not realizing that it makes them seem untrusting and not respectful. Being honest shouldn’t be hard to do , it’s only hard for people that can’t be honest
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No because then they can just lie and do all those things whether they mean it or not. You must allow the man to show his true colors through courtship and time.
I like bluntness and honesty. It makes things easier to deal with, and is a good starting point for discussion.
I chose ex 1 because ex 2 can come across as is bossy & entitled. Like, who the heck is she to be saying all of this to win her heart? Ex 1 gets the point across without potentially rubbing men the wrong way. Also, I'm not into the thrill of the chase. I want communication, not mystery. Mystery as to what I'm doing right or what I'm doing wrong can come across as her playing games.
GIRLS, always know what you want, but NEVER tell the man you're dating. Especially not on first date. Men can adapt to your wishes to get what they want but it never lasts. You cannot change a man. I repeat, you CANNOT change a man. Find one that actually has what you want or as close to it as you're willing to compromise.
If she's going to give me a list of all her requirements, wants, needs, and expected behaviors up front, I ask that she print it out four copies of them for me. That way, I can line both of my cat's litter boxes with them next time I change the litter.
No and I dont tell her what I'm looking for either. Just respond, I don't know but I'll know it when I see it. never give them the play book to emulate just long enough for her to benefit and then stop when no longer necessary
u no thanks... I want to fall for her and to get to know her
for these kind of dull paperwork I go to the bank... lol
I would prefer she cut to the chase and let me know what she is looking for in a boyfriend, that way I can see if I fit the bill. No point in wasting her time if I'm not what she is looking for.
So, Ex 2 Strategy.
The more data the better. But ideally she'd state what she wants to try, and then it can be tried... and hopefully she won't take it personally if it doesn't work perfectly the first time. I mean that is what experimentation is about.
Bad things, it's going to stress him and he's to get away; things need to go to the pace of them if not they feel suffocated and either cheat or ghost you.
Keep it simple that's my motto. If you can avoid trial and error and a guessing game yes go for that that way there's less time wasted
Different strategy. Playful, reserved mature, yet fun, sometimes or rarely suggestive, and humour. Not too much. Yet humour. Yet gives me the lead of the show. 98 percent of the time 😂
To me a first and second date are to just to see if there is potential, so it would be appropriate for her to tell me if I do or do not fit her basic standards.
It can be a bit off putting to tell a guy what he has to do. (I would just say see ya later) your not the boss of me. That type of thing. So I would go with the stories & details ex1.
Whatever works for her, but preferably no chase. I just us to get a good idea of how compatible we are at a comfortably steady speed. I’m want to find my wife asap.
I like to know directly, but same time I feel like guys looking to use a young lady would take advantage.
A relationship is not just what the girl wants. I think most women have completely lost sight in this.
I think most guys would like a little intel from the girl. Makes things easier as long as it's not a long detailed impossible list.
Ex1. I don’t want to feel obligated to fulfill some sort of specified designation for her…
Yes I prefer not to waste the time of either party involved.
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