I have been in relationship for 1.5 years, I care about him a lot, I am feeling like he is my first priority but I am not, just recent incident when I left my charger at his home he asked his friend to give it to me as he was coming near where I live. Though he was an asshole and did not give the charger saying he has to get fast. I had to walk a lot to get at meeting point but in the end I couldn't get it, I was angry at my boyfriend so I was talking to out mutual friend and his roommate instead so either way he could know what his friend did, later he just sent it through delivery. I had a fight with him that most of the times when I leave something at his house he sends his friends to give me. I asked him would you not be happy if you would get to meet me just through this excuse (as we meet once a week only) and he did come to meet his sister previous night around the same area where I live he told it was really late though. He answered me as his friend was going in same direction he gave him the charger. He had a meeting and had to help his friend in shifting so I asked him someone else could have done that as well. When I was telling him all this he just said it in a chill cute way you want me to come and give it to you and I busted into tears I was with my friend. It was not all about charger it was about efforts and priority it's me who usually travels to meet him. I told him I could come and get charger by myself but he said don't trouble yourself and here are four guys as we are shifting so no place is here as well. I got angry at him as how could he say that? I was in desperate need of my charger and I do have that much sense to not to stay at someone's house who is shifting. He started his new internship so he doesn't have much time to talk to me as well and he got scammed by his broker so he has to find new place in shifting I am offering to help to find a new place but he won't take it. I know he cares a lot about me but his actions hurt me.
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As a guy what would you do in this situation? Should I leave him?
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Dude, this would annoy me so much if I was in your shoes. It's one thing if he's super busy with work or something, but it seems like he's just not making you a priority. You deserve better than that, especially after 1.5 years together.
A few things I would think about - is he always this flaky? Does he usually step up and make time for you when it matters, or does he keep blowing you off? The charger thing is such a small errand but it speaks to a bigger issue of him not caring enough to come through for you.
I'd tell him straight up how him constantly getting others to do things for you and his lame excuses make you feel like he just doesn't care. Really lay it out there - tell him you need to feel like he puts in effort too. Watch how he responds - if he keeps minimizing your feelings or making excuses, then maybe it's time to walk away. You don't want to waste more time on someone who won't change.
You've given him lots of chances to do better, so at this point I'd be really serious about where this relationship is going. Decide if his actions match how much he says he cares. If not, don't keep allowing yourself to be treated like an afterthought. You deserve someone who puts you first just as much as you do for them. Don't settle for less than what you want in a partner.
Hmmm honestly I'd probably go give my girl the charger if she needed and wouldn't send someone to give you it.
But I wouldn't necessarily tell you to break up with him because of it. You may not like this but it also kinda sounds like you're making it a bigger deal out of it than what it really is🤔 I meannn you said you started crying because he didn't try to go see you?🤔 girl😐
Also I have no idea what you mean by shifting? Are talking like shifts for a job or shifting like in a car? I don't get it
Anyway perhaps he didn't think someone else bringing you it was such a big deal as long as it got to you?🤔 although I think I remember you saying it didn't even get to you anyway but hmmm maybe he just didn't think you needed it that bad. I will agree that you may not be as much of a priority to him as he is to you. And what I mean by that is. You seem to want to be with him all the time. And see him as much as possible. You're in the honeymoon phase. He doesn't seem to be. It doesn't mean it's a bad thing. But that might be the closest I can compare it too.
Let me ask you this. Are you happy in that relationship?🤔 if yes then you'll be fine. If not, then perhaps you should leave
I will also say he might not be the guy you want him to be. The question is, what will you do if you find out he isnt🤔