Ladies, why do you lie about stuff like height, d size, and baldness?

[JHAYES317]

A tall guy and a short guy with everything else being equal, the tall guy will get the girl

A big d guy and a small d with the same skill/effort level, the big d guy will satisfy the woman more

A guy with a full head of hair and a bald guy, if they have comparable physiques…the full head of hair guy will win out

So just because a guy can compensate for an unattractive trait and still have success does not mean that it doesn’t matter…because they are still working from a disadvantage and have to try way harder than guys without that flaw.

[Anonymous]

I don't know what to tell you. The hottest guy I ever met was 1,69 m, I have way better sex with my current man who's much smaller below the belt than my ex (who's big D I hated bc it hurt and was hella exhausting) - and regarding the hair part, I indeed don't find baldness very attractive, but that's only due to me being into metalheads with long hair. So, bald guys and those who shave their heads are the exact opposite of what I am looking for. My best friend, however, is strictly into men without hair on their head. So go figure.

What do you want women to tell you? Encourage you in your self-pity so you can pat yourself on the shoulder and tell yourself "see, it's only the women's fault I get no bitches, not mine"? It comes down to way more than physical traits, but guys like you aren't ready to bring more to the table than that an your whiny attitude.

[JHAYES317]

@anonymous there are plenty of metal heads with bald heads…Geoff Tate of queensyche comes to mind…

And I never said that physical traits were all that mattered…but the fact is, I have to try A LOT HARDER than a tall guy to get the same girls…which proves my point that those physical characteristics make life a lot easier

[Opinion Owner]

And that's why I said metalheads with long hair. But the fact that you describe these physical traits you listed as "flaws" doesn't sound like a healthy mindset at all and no woman has the patience or time to constantly re-assure her partner about his perceived insecurities. You need to embrace yourself the way you are and also learn to love yourself first and change your POV here, both in your own interest and a potential partner's. Confidence is attractive and healthy and makes you happy in the long run.

[JHAYES317]

@Opinion owner they are flaws…it’s statistically proven that women are on average more attracted to tall men and men who aren’t bald. Also women typically prefer big penises to small penises. This does not mean that all women are like that…but the fact that I got 20x the matches on online dating after changing my height to 6’6” from 5’6” seems to prove that’s it’s enough of them

[Opinion Owner]

Those aren't real "flaws" just bc society tells you so, according to some imaginary standard. Those are just normal and common physical traits. Flaws would imply that you are faulty and not working properly in the way you should, what's just immature and stupid. The majority of people in the world fall into the average category and implying that the majority of men in the world are flawed is ridiculous. First world problems to be brainwashed into that mindset, I swear.

[JHAYES317]

@OpinionOwner ok they aren’t flaws in an objective sense, but subjectively according to what girls look for in a guy they are flaws because they don’t match up to what they want. So in the dating realm they are flaws…even if biologically they aren’t…

[loladevine]

I don’t get it

[loladevine]

Isn’t it the same for girls

[loladevine]

Would you rather date a bald girl or a blonde girl

[JHAYES317]

@loladevine everything else being equal, the blonde girl. I didn’t say this doesn’t apply to girls as well, just in different ways…

[loladevine]

Some people aren’t shallow with looks and actually would choose either man

[JHAYES317]

@loladevine that’s why I said everything else being equal, that includes personality…

[loladevine]

I know so what are women lying about?

[JHAYES317]

@loladevine women will often say those things don’t matter on social media and that men made that shit up but then if you ask them if they personally would date a guy lacking in all those areas they say no.

[loladevine]

So they’re being hypocritical. Then my answer is they’re being nice and trying to make the men feel good about themselves

[JHAYES317]

@loladevine lying to men that they are desirable when they are not is not nice, it’s actually mean because it gives them false expectations…then they when they get rejected repeatedly they assume it’s just their personality when in reality it’s because they are short or bald or whatever

[loladevine]

It’s done with women with a body positivity movement that made women more confident. Rejection just means they haven’t found the right person

[JHAYES317]

@loladevine all it’s done is made women unhealthier because they think it’s ok to be obese…and you cannot tell a guy who is 4’11” bald with a micropenis that it’s their personality why they keep getting rejected…

[JHAYES317]

@loladevine oh apparently you’re 16, ok, well that explains it…getting rejected when you are in high school, is nothing compared to being rejected for years on end because of something you can’t control…there are men out there who never get their homecoming queen because of the shitty hand they’ve been dealt and also women who never find their Prince Charming because of similarly bad luck

[loladevine]

It’s also made women more confident, lots of women at healthy weights only had thinner models to compare themselves too, before. And the men shouldn’t have to feel bad for things they can’t control, like that. Lots of guys get rejected even if they don’t have those features. And if they are getting rejected for their features they shouldn’t date those people.

[loladevine]

I’ll come back in 2 years when I’m not in highschool I guess😭

[JHAYES317]

@loladevine men feel more bad when women gaslight them into thinking that it’s their personality and not their height or baldness. And yes guys could also get rejected for having a disability or being neurodivergent or poor or whatever but my point is, even if they had a good personality they’d likely still get rejected due to biological flaws. And yes to a point it’s good to be realistic about skinniness but women took it too far, Lizzo is not healthy no matter what nonsense she tries to peddle

[loladevine]

That’s true but you can’t blame everything on your appearance if other people with the same appearance are in relationships. People who reject you won’t like you for who you are so don’t go after them. I don’t think obesity is healthy but I think people who are overweight can still be pretty or handsome

[JHAYES317]

@loladevine again there are some guys who are so physically unappealing that they would be single forever cause practically everyone would reject them…and the few that are in that predicament and succeeded, usually had to get rich or famous to compensate…and I didn’t say obese people couldn’t be attractive (though they usually aren’t), just that it’s unhealthy

[loladevine]

That’s sad I still believe in love tho😞I said that they are attractive because you said the only thing the body positivity movement is doing is making women unhealthy but I also think it’s making them confident.

[JHAYES317]

@loladevine but if they look like a sumo wrestler they shouldn’t be confident…I agree that if you are a healthy weight or at least close to a healthy weight, be confident, but if you are far away from that you shouldn’t just accept it, you should work to get skinnier or fatter, whichever extreme you are on. And that’s good to hear that you believe in love, yet I’m sure you’d even reject a guy for a stuff they couldn’t control. I have too. It doesn’t make us terrible people…what’d make you terrible is if you weren’t honest about it and pretended like you were above rejecting people solely due to physical qualities

[kareenakapur]

its not a lie. im super petite height doesn't matter to me. everyone is tall to me. lit everyone I'm a virgin so imma not know what big dick small dick feels like. i like hardworking guys with good jobs. good jobs bring stress. so naturally I'm attracted to balding guys. im attracted to a good beard and a good smile tbh. good job and good personality/kindness.

[JHAYES317]

@kareenakapur really? You’d date a guy who was shorter than you?

[kareenakapur]

no one is shorter than me

[kareenakapur]

or he has some weird genetic condition lol and id prob not nah

[JHAYES317]

@kareenakapur so there ya go…you do care about height…so you just lied to me lol. That’s not gonna help your karma situation,

[kareenakapur]

lol i mean there's no one shorter than me. I'm ok if its just 1 inch taller

[kareenakapur]

im 5' if he's in the 4's something wrong

[JHAYES317]

@kareenakapur then you still care about height so stop lying. There are people shorter than you who don’t have dwarfism…Robert reich, Danny DeVito etc come to mind

[Anonymous]

Stop watching misogynistic podcasts and have a personality that should be the first ste to help you. No two guys are identical and women are allowed to have preferences the way men do. If a woman is lying to not hurt your feelings you better thank her. I would not give af and i would hurt feelings i get my preferences at the end of the day and i feel sorry for no man. Men have their height, hair color, eye color, waist size hell even race preferences and nobody bats an eye.

[JHAYES317]

@anonymous men don’t really care about any of that shit for the most part…women care a lot more about height, d size and baldness than men care about boob or butt size or hair color. The only one men really care about is weight and y’all can lose weight so it’s not a big deal…

[Opinion Owner]

Stop lying lmao men care about NOTHING other than that. I used to be ugly and didn’t meet there standards and i got ZERO attention, the minute that i “glowed up” and change my body suddenly every man wants to talk to me. Men are literally so superficial and picky but want women to be deep and like them for their “intelligence and personality” which most often than not are none existent they are either misogynistic freaks or have zero personality and are entitled to women. I lived both lives you can’t convince me that men don’t care about looks, and to each their own but women can have their standards too

[Opinion Owner]

Why are you acting like women can change their boob or ass size lmao? And even weight loss is not simple and idc if you can’t change your height that’s not my problem since you can’t change it other men are tall and i am attracted to that👏 women don’t have to change their bodies for you if you want a skinny woman find one

[JHAYES317]

@Opinion owner so you lost weight or got plastic surgery? I didn’t say men weren’t superficial, but women are a lot more superficial… and technically women can get a boob job or a BBL but yes you can’t change boob or butt size without surgery, but men don’t care as much about that again as women care about height. And I would find a skinny women except 40% of women are obese it’s ridiculous

[Opinion Owner]

Women biologically have more fat if you don’t like that then date a man, I didn’t lose my weight naturally i struggled for years with dieting I eventually took semaglutide and i paid thousands for that drug to lose weight, there are height plastic surgeries now the knee surgery get that if you feel insecure and idc about you thinking women are superficial because from my experience men are superficial asf and i know that so well because like i said men ignored me for yearssssss the minute that i lost weight they started hitting on me that is superficial and since y'all wanna be superficial we can both play this game

[JHAYES317]

@Opinion owner the height surgery is hundreds of thousands of dollars to do it right and can cause arthritis. Yeah it’s tough to lose weight but you don’t need surgery. You ladies need to stay in the gym, get on a diet and stop complaining about fat shaming because it’s 99% controllable