Seriously though, what's with people who block and ghost all their old friends when they get into a relationship?

[Anonymous]

It's so weird. I had a lady friend block me a couple years back. I didn't really think too much of it. I thought it was weird, but I know she's kind of weird, so whatever.

Turns out that she met a new guy. She just got pregnant and they're on their way to getting married! It's fantastic news, I couldn't be happier for her.

I'm not really sure why she felt like she had to cut me off. Why do people do that?

[strawberrybaby3]

In this situation it sounds like maybe the guy she was with was insecure and asked her to block you? People don’t typically just block all of their friends when they’re in a relationship but it would kind of make sense if this is your friend of the opposite sex who’s boyfriend wasn’t comfortable with her being super close friends with men.

[Asker]

The guy she's with now seems to be etremely handsome and fairly successful, so I'm not sure what threat I would pose to him.

I was a friend of her old ex, which could have a lot to do with it. I haven't been in touch with him for a long time though. There's no reason she would know that I wasn't in touch with him anymore.

[strawberrybaby3]

Well then that makes sense to me. Maybe she is happy in her relationship and doesn’t want to be reminded of her exes or anybody associated with them. Not personal.

[Asker]

I didn't take the situation personally at all. To me it's just weird to me that it's a point of tension for her.

[strawberrybaby3]

Well I completely understand, from a woman’s perspective. You even said yourself it could be because you are a friend of her ex. When you’re in a great relationship you want to cut those ties because they’re connected to bad memories. Unless youve been friends since childhood or extremely close , I understand why she did it.

[Asker]

Yeah... I mean, if that's how she feels about the situation, I can understand it too. I remember even back in college, she had expressed interest in staying in touch with me after the breakup, but didn't ever seem to be able to separate me from her ex.

I have no idea what the reality of the break up was, but she didn't seem to be able to maintain any kind of an amicable interaction with me.

[JacobJordan]

It is because she wasn't just a friend. It is not possible for men and women to be friends unless both don't like the gender.

[laly520]

maybe she is filtering her friend's list
keeping only the ones she is close to